第一篇：TED勵(lì)志演講稿：怎么講話別人才更愿意聽

人類的聲音： 是我們所有人都彈奏的樂(lè)器?？赡苁沁@個(gè)世界上最有力的聲音。它絕無(wú)僅有，或能引起戰(zhàn)爭(zhēng)，或能說(shuō)我愛(ài)你。

然而，很多人有這種經(jīng)歷，當(dāng)他們說(shuō)的時(shí)候，人們并不在聽。這是為什么呢? 我們?cè)鯓佑辛Φ卣f(shuō) 而讓世界發(fā)生某種改變? 我所提議的是，我們需要改變一些習(xí)慣。在此我為你們收集整理了，說(shuō)話的七宗罪。我沒(méi)打算假裝這是一個(gè)詳細(xì)的列表，但這七個(gè)，我以為是我們相當(dāng)容易犯的壞習(xí)慣。

第一就是：流言蜚語(yǔ)

在背后說(shuō)某些人的壞話。這不是一個(gè)好習(xí)慣，我們都很明白 那個(gè)說(shuō)閑話的人在五分鐘以后 就會(huì)在別人跟前說(shuō)我們的閑話。

第二，評(píng)判

我們知道有些人在談話中是這樣的，這讓人很難聽進(jìn)別人的話，如果你知道你被人評(píng)判 且被認(rèn)為不合格。

第三，消極

你能陷入這個(gè)泥潭。我的母親，在她生命的最后幾年里，變得非常非常消極，很難讓人聽她說(shuō)話。我記得有一天，我對(duì)她說(shuō)，今天是十月一號(hào)，她說(shuō)，我知道，這不可怕嗎? 當(dāng)某人那么消極的時(shí)候是很難讓人聽進(jìn)去的。

另外一種消極，就是抱怨

這是英國(guó)的全國(guó)性藝術(shù)。是我們的全國(guó)性運(yùn)動(dòng)。我們抱怨天氣，體育和政治，幾乎每件事，但實(shí)際上抱怨是病毒性的悲催，它不會(huì)在這個(gè)世界上傳播太陽(yáng)和光明。

借口

我們都遇上過(guò)這個(gè)家伙。也許我們都曾經(jīng)是這個(gè)家伙。有些人有指責(zé)癖好。他們怪罪任何人 而不是對(duì)自己的行為負(fù)責(zé)任，所以，這又是讓人難以聆聽的一種。

七件里面的老六，倒數(shù)第二，浮夸，吹牛

它有時(shí)貶低了我們的語(yǔ)言，事實(shí)上。比如，如果我看見(jiàn) 什么真的很神奇的事情，那我該說(shuō)什么呢?(笑聲)當(dāng)然這種夸大后來(lái)就變成了說(shuō)謊。徹頭徹尾的說(shuō)謊，我們就不想聽 這種我們知道會(huì)說(shuō)謊的人。

最后是，固執(zhí)己見(jiàn)

把事實(shí)和意見(jiàn)混淆。當(dāng)這兩件事混為一談，你就像在聽風(fēng)一樣。你知道，有人用他們自己的意見(jiàn)來(lái)強(qiáng)迫你。這很難讓我們聽講。

這就是說(shuō)話的七宗罪。我認(rèn)為這些是我們需要避免的。

但有沒(méi)有比較正面的呢? 的確有。我想建議四種我們可以牢靠站立的，真正強(qiáng)有力的基石或者基礎(chǔ)，如果我們想讓我們的言語(yǔ)有力 并且讓世界產(chǎn)生變化。

幸運(yùn)的是，這些事情連起來(lái)是一個(gè)單詞。這個(gè)詞就是hail，它有著特別好的定義。我不是講那個(gè)天上掉下來(lái)的，砸在你頭上的東西。我在談?wù)摰氖菬崆榈刂戮椿蛸潛P(yáng)這個(gè)定義。我認(rèn)為我們的言辭會(huì)如此被接受，如果我們堅(jiān)持這四件事。

那么它們到底是什么呢? 看看你是否能猜到。

H，代表了誠(chéng)實(shí)(Honesty)，當(dāng)然，說(shuō)真話，直接了當(dāng)并且清楚明白。

A，代表了真實(shí)(Authenticity)，做一個(gè)自然而然的自己。我的一個(gè)朋友把它描述為 堅(jiān)持真實(shí)的自己，我覺(jué)得這是一個(gè)優(yōu)美的表述。

I，代表了正氣(Integrity)，言而有信，說(shuō)到做到，成為別人能信任的人。

L，代表愛(ài)(Love)。我不是指羅曼蒂克的愛(ài)情，而是指對(duì)別人有良好的祝愿，這出于兩個(gè)原因。第一，我認(rèn)為絕對(duì)的誠(chéng)實(shí)，也許不是我們所想要的。我的意思是，天哪，今天早上你真難看。那可能不必要。誠(chéng)實(shí)是很重要的。當(dāng)然，適當(dāng)?shù)貛е鴲?ài)。但還有，當(dāng)你真的很希望別人好，就很難同時(shí)評(píng)判他們。我不知道你們是否能同時(shí)做到這兩點(diǎn)。那么hail。

上面提到的是你所說(shuō)的內(nèi)容。另外，就像老歌里唱的，你所說(shuō)的很重要，還有你的表達(dá)方式也很重要。你有一個(gè)很神奇的工具盒。里面有難以置信的工具，然而這個(gè)工具盒只有不多的人打開過(guò)。

我愿意跟你們?cè)谶@里 做一點(diǎn)兒探查，并且找出幾種工具。你也許想拿來(lái)試一下，這些將會(huì)增加你說(shuō)話的力量。

比如說(shuō)，音域

假聲大部分時(shí)候可能是沒(méi)用的，但在兩者之間會(huì)有一種是有用的。對(duì)于在座的語(yǔ)音教練們，我不會(huì)在這個(gè)問(wèn)題上很深入。然而，你能定位你的聲音。如果我把聲音提到鼻子這兒，你可以聽出不同。如果我把聲音降到嗓子這里，這是我們大部分人大多數(shù)時(shí)候所做的。但是如果你想有份量，你需要降到胸腔。你聽出了不同嗎? 我們給聲音低沉的政治家投票，那是真的，因?yàn)槲覀儼焉畛?和權(quán)力、權(quán)威聯(lián)系在一起。那是音域。

然后我們?cè)僬f(shuō)音色

那是你的聲音讓人感覺(jué)如何。研究顯示我們喜歡那種 豐厚，平滑，溫暖，像熱巧克力一樣的聲音。當(dāng)然如果你沒(méi)有那樣的聲音，這也不是世界末日。因?yàn)槟憧梢杂?xùn)練。去找到一個(gè)聲音教練。你可以做很神奇的事情，利用呼吸，姿勢(shì)，還有鍛煉 來(lái)提高你嗓音的音色。

然后是韻律

我喜歡韻律。那是唱歌，是元語(yǔ)言，我們用來(lái)傳送意味。在談話中是意思的根基。那種說(shuō)話一個(gè)聲調(diào)的人 很難讓人聽講，如果他們沒(méi)有一點(diǎn)兒韻律。那就是單調(diào)這個(gè)詞的來(lái)源，或者說(shuō)枯燥無(wú)味，一成不變。我們還有重復(fù)性的韻律，每個(gè)句子的結(jié)尾好像是一個(gè)疑問(wèn)句，但事實(shí)上，它不是疑問(wèn)句，而是陳述句。(笑聲)如果你一遍一遍地重復(fù)某個(gè)東西，它會(huì)限制你 用韻律來(lái)交流的能力，我認(rèn)為這是一件憾事，讓我們努力打破那個(gè)習(xí)慣。

語(yǔ)速

我可以非常非常興奮地 飛快地說(shuō)著什么，或者我能慢下來(lái)強(qiáng)調(diào)，在結(jié)尾處，當(dāng)然是我們的老朋友，沉默。在講話中，有一點(diǎn)兒沉默 沒(méi)關(guān)系，是嗎? 我們不需要用嗯 和 啊來(lái)填充。沉默就很有力。

當(dāng)然，音調(diào)常常跟語(yǔ)速一起 來(lái)指示興奮度，但你能僅僅用音調(diào)就顯示出來(lái)。你把我的鑰匙放在哪兒啦? 你把我的鑰匙放在哪兒啦? 那么輕微的差別 在這兩個(gè)表達(dá)中。

最后，是音量

我能用音量表示極端的興奮。如果我打擾了任何人的話，抱歉?；蛘撸夷苡煤茌p的聲音 讓你認(rèn)真地注意。有人全程一直都在說(shuō)話。別那樣。那叫做公放音樂(lè)，把你的聲音不假思索 和草率地強(qiáng)加給別人。不好。

當(dāng)然，這些工具真正發(fā)揮作用的地方，是當(dāng)你有什么很重要的事情要做的時(shí)候。這可能是像這樣站在演講臺(tái)上 對(duì)著人演講。它可能是求婚，要求加薪，或者婚禮上的講話。不管是什么，如果它非常重要，你應(yīng)該看著這個(gè)工具盒，以及將要工作運(yùn)行的發(fā)動(dòng)機(jī)，沒(méi)有預(yù)熱的發(fā)動(dòng)機(jī)不會(huì)好好工作。預(yù)熱你自己的聲音。

第二篇：TED勵(lì)志英文演講稿

我知道你們?cè)谙胧裁?，你們覺(jué)得我迷路了，馬上就會(huì)有人走上臺(tái)溫和地把我?guī)Щ匚业淖簧?。（掌聲）。我在迪拜總?huì)遇上這種事。“來(lái)這里度假的嗎，親愛(ài)的？”（笑聲）“來(lái)探望孩子的嗎？這次要待多久呢？ 恩，事實(shí)上，我希望能再待久一點(diǎn)。我在波斯灣這邊生活和教書已經(jīng)超過(guò)30年了。（掌聲）這段時(shí)間里，我看到了很多變化?，F(xiàn)在這份數(shù)據(jù)是挺嚇人的，而我今天要和你們說(shuō)的是有關(guān)語(yǔ)言的消失和英語(yǔ)的全球化。我想和你們談?wù)勎业呐笥?，她在阿布達(dá)比教成人英語(yǔ)。在一個(gè)晴朗的日子里，她決定帶她的學(xué)生到花園去教他們一些大自然的詞匯。但最后卻變成是她在學(xué)習(xí)所有當(dāng)?shù)刂参镌诎⒗Z(yǔ)中是怎么說(shuō)的。還有這些植物是如何被用作藥材，化妝品，烹飪，香草。這些學(xué)生是怎么得到這些知識(shí)的呢？當(dāng)然是從他們的祖父母，甚至曾祖父母那里得來(lái)的。不需要我來(lái)告訴你們能夠跨代溝通是多么重要。but sadly, today, languages are dying at an unprecedented rate.a language dies every 14 days.now, at the same time, english is the undisputed global language.could there be a connection? well i dont know.but i do know that ive seen a lot of changes.when i first came out to the gulf, i came to kuwait in the days when it was still a hardship post.actually, not that long ago.that is a little bit too early.but nevertheless, i was recruited by the british council along with about 25 other teachers.and we were the first non-muslims to teach in the state schools there in kuwait.we were brought to teach english because the government wanted to modernize the country and empower the citizens through education.and of course, the u.k.benefited from some of that lovely oil wealth.但遺憾的是，今天很多語(yǔ)言正在以前所未有的速度消失。每14天就有一種語(yǔ)言消失，而與此同時(shí)，英語(yǔ)卻無(wú)庸置疑地成為全球性的語(yǔ)言。這其中有關(guān)聯(lián)嗎？我不知道。但我知道的是，我見(jiàn)證過(guò)許多改變。初次來(lái)到海灣地區(qū)時(shí)，我去了科威特。當(dāng)時(shí)教英文仍然是個(gè)困難的工作。其實(shí)，沒(méi)有那么久啦，這有點(diǎn)太久以前了?？傊?，我和其他25位老師一起被英國(guó)文化協(xié)會(huì)聘用。我們是第一批非穆斯林的老師，在科威特的國(guó)立學(xué)校任教。我們被派到那里教英語(yǔ)，是因?yàn)楫?dāng)?shù)卣Ｍ麌?guó)家可以現(xiàn)代化并透過(guò)教育提升公民的水平。當(dāng)然，英國(guó)也能得到些好處，產(chǎn)油國(guó)可是很有錢的。okay.now this is the major change that ive seen--how teaching english has morphed from being a mutually english-speaking nation on earth.and why not? after all, the best education--according to the latest world university rankings--is to be found in the universities of the u.k.and the u.s.so everybody wants to have an english education, naturally.but if youre not a native speaker, you have to pass a test.言歸正傳，我見(jiàn)過(guò)最大的改變，就是英語(yǔ)教學(xué)的蛻變?nèi)绾螐囊粋€(gè)互惠互利的行為變成今天這種大規(guī)模的國(guó)際產(chǎn)業(yè)。英語(yǔ)不再是學(xué)校課程里的外語(yǔ)學(xué)科，也不再只是英國(guó)的專利。英語(yǔ)（教學(xué)）已經(jīng)成為所有英語(yǔ)系國(guó)家追逐的潮流。何樂(lè)而不為呢？畢竟，最好的教育來(lái)自于最好的大學(xué)，而根據(jù)最新的世界大學(xué)排名，那些名列前茅的都是英國(guó)和美國(guó)的大學(xué)。所以自然每個(gè)人都想接受英語(yǔ)教育，但如果你不是以英文為母語(yǔ)，你就要通過(guò)考試。now can it be right to reject a student on linguistic ability well, i dont think so.we english teachers reject them all the time.we put a stop sign, and we stop them in their tracks.they cant pursue their dream any longer, till they get english.now let me put it this way, if i met a dutch speaker who had the cure for cancer, would i stop him from entering my british university? i dont think so.but indeed, that is exactly what we do.we english teachers are the gatekeepers.and you have to satisfy us first that your english is good enough.now it can be dangerous to give too much power to a narrow segment of society.maybe the barrier would be too universal.但僅憑語(yǔ)言能力就拒絕學(xué)生這樣對(duì)嗎？譬如如果你碰到一位天才計(jì)算機(jī)科學(xué)家，但他會(huì)需要有和律師一樣的語(yǔ)言能力嗎？我不這么認(rèn)為。但身為英語(yǔ)老師的我們，卻總是拒絕他們。我們處處設(shè)限，將學(xué)生擋在路上，使他們無(wú)法再追求自己的夢(mèng)想，直到他們通過(guò)考試?，F(xiàn)在容我換一個(gè)方式說(shuō)，如果我遇到了一位只會(huì)說(shuō)荷蘭話的人，而這個(gè)人能治愈癌癥，我會(huì)阻止他進(jìn)入我的英國(guó)大學(xué)嗎？我想不會(huì)。但事實(shí)上，我們的確在做這種事。我們這些英語(yǔ)老師就是把關(guān)的。你必須先讓我們滿意，使我們認(rèn)定你的英文夠好。但這可能是危險(xiǎn)的。把太多的權(quán)力交由這么小的一群人把持，也許會(huì)令這種障礙太過(guò)普及。okay.but, i hear you say, what about the research? its all in english.so the books are in english, the journals are done in english, but that is a self-fulfilling.it feeds the english requirement.and so it goes on.i ask you, what happened to translation? if you think about the islamic golden age, there was lots of translation then.they translated from latin and greek into arabic, into persian, and then it was translated on into the germanic languages of europe and the romance languages.and so light shone upon the dark ages of europe.now dont get me wrong;i am not against teaching english, all you english teachers out there.i love it that we have a global language.we need one today more than ever.but i am against using it as a barrier.do we really want to end up with 600 languages and the main one being english, or chinese? we need more than that.where do we draw the line? this system equates intelligence with a knowledge of english which is quite.于是，我聽到你們問(wèn)但是研究呢?研究報(bào)告都要用英文?！钡拇_，研究論著和期刊都要用英文發(fā)表，但這只是一種理所當(dāng)然的現(xiàn)象。有英語(yǔ)要求，自然就有英語(yǔ)供給，然后就這么循環(huán)下去。我倒想問(wèn)問(wèn)大家，為什么不用翻譯呢？想想伊斯蘭的黃金時(shí)代，當(dāng)時(shí)翻譯盛行，人們把拉丁文和希臘文翻譯成阿拉伯文或波斯文，然后再由拉伯文或波斯文翻譯為歐洲的日耳曼語(yǔ)言以及羅曼語(yǔ)言。于是文明照亮了歐洲的黑暗時(shí)代。但不要誤會(huì)我的意思，我不是反對(duì)英語(yǔ)教學(xué)或是在座所有的英語(yǔ)老師。我很高興我們有一個(gè)全球性的語(yǔ)言，這在今日尤為重要。但我反對(duì)用英語(yǔ)設(shè)立障礙。難道我們真希望世界上只剩下600種語(yǔ)言，其中又以英文或中文為主流嗎？我們需要的不只如此。那么我們?cè)撊绾文媚竽?？這個(gè)體制把智能和英語(yǔ)能力畫上等號(hào)這是相當(dāng)武斷的。

and i want to remind you that the giants upon whose shoulders todays stand did not have to have english, they didnt have to pass an english test.case in point, einstein.he, by the way, was considered remedial at school because he was, in fact, dyslexic.but fortunately for the world, he did not have to pass an english test.because they didnt start until 1964 with toefl, the american test of english.now its exploded.there are lots and lots of tests of english.and millions and millions of students take these tests every year.now you might think, you and me, those fees arent bad, theyre okay, but they are prohibitive to so many millions of poor people.so immediately, were rejecting them.我想要提醒你們，扶持當(dāng)代知識(shí)分子的這些“巨人肩膀不必非得具有英文能力，他們不需要通過(guò)英語(yǔ)考試。愛(ài)因斯坦就是典型的例子。順便說(shuō)一下，他在學(xué)校還曾被認(rèn)為需要課外補(bǔ)習(xí)，因?yàn)樗鋵?shí)有閱讀障礙。但對(duì)整個(gè)世界來(lái)說(shuō),很幸運(yùn)的當(dāng)時(shí)他不需要通過(guò)英語(yǔ)考試，因?yàn)樗麄冎钡?964年才開始使用托?！，F(xiàn)在英語(yǔ)測(cè)驗(yàn)太泛濫了，有太多太多的英語(yǔ)測(cè)驗(yàn)，以及成千上萬(wàn)的學(xué)生每年都在參加這些考試?，F(xiàn)在你會(huì)認(rèn)為，你和我都這么想，這些費(fèi)用不貴，價(jià)錢滿合理的。但是對(duì)數(shù)百萬(wàn)的窮人來(lái)說(shuō)，這些費(fèi)用高不可攀。所以，當(dāng)下我們又拒絕了他們。it brings to mind a headline i saw recently: education: the great divide.now i get it, i understand why people would focus on english.they want to give their children the best chance in life.and to do that, they need a western education.because, of course, the best jobs go to people out of the western universities, that i put on earlier.its a circular thing.這使我想起最近看到的一個(gè)新聞標(biāo)題：“教育：大鴻溝”現(xiàn)在我懂了。我了解為什么大家都重視英語(yǔ)，因?yàn)樗麄兿Ｍo孩子最好的人生機(jī)會(huì)。為了達(dá)成這目的，他們需要西方教育。畢竟，不可否認(rèn)，最好的工作都留給那些西方大學(xué)畢業(yè)出來(lái)的人。就像我之前說(shuō)的，這是一種循環(huán)。

okay.let me tell you a story about two scientists, two english scientists.they were doing an experiment to do with genetics and the forelimbs and the hind limbs of animals.but they couldnt get the results they wanted.they really didnt know what to do, until along came a german scientist who realized that they were using two words for forelimb and hind limb, whereas genetics does not differentiate and neither does german.so bingo, problem solved.if you cant think a thought, you are stuck.but if another language can think that thought, then, by cooperating, we can achieve and learn so much more.好，我跟你們說(shuō)一個(gè)關(guān)于兩位科學(xué)家的故事：有兩位英國(guó)科學(xué)家在做一項(xiàng)實(shí)驗(yàn)，是關(guān)于遺傳學(xué)的，以及動(dòng)物的前、后肢。但他們無(wú)法得到他們想要的結(jié)果。他們真的不知道該怎么辦，直到來(lái)了一位德國(guó)的科學(xué)家。他發(fā)現(xiàn)在英文里前肢和后肢是不同的二個(gè)字，但在遺傳學(xué)上沒(méi)有區(qū)別。在德語(yǔ)也是同一個(gè)字。所以，叮！問(wèn)題解決了。如果你不能想到一個(gè)念頭，你會(huì)卡在那里。但如果另一個(gè)語(yǔ)言能想到那念頭，然后通過(guò)合作我們可以達(dá)成目的，也學(xué)到更多。我的女兒從科威特來(lái)到英格蘭，她在阿拉伯的學(xué)校學(xué)習(xí)科學(xué)和數(shù)學(xué)。那是所阿拉伯中學(xué)。在學(xué)校里，她得把這些知識(shí)翻譯成英文，而她在班上卻能在這些學(xué)科上拿到最好的成績(jī)。這告訴我們，當(dāng)外籍學(xué)生來(lái)找我們，我們可能無(wú)法針對(duì)他們所知道的給予贊賞，因?yàn)槟鞘莵?lái)自于他們母語(yǔ)的知識(shí)。當(dāng)一個(gè)語(yǔ)言消失時(shí)，我們不知道還有什么也會(huì)一并失去。this is--i dont know if you saw it on cnn recently--they gave the heroes award to a young kenyan shepherd boy who couldnt study at night in his village like all the village children,篇二：楊瀾ted演講稿中英文 yang lan: the generation thats remaking china the night before i was heading for scotland, i was invited to host the final of chinas got talent show in shanghai with the 80,000 live audience in the stadium.guess who was the performing guest?susan boyle.and i told her, im going to scotland the next day.she sang beautifully, and she even managed to say a few words in chinese.[chinese]so its not like hello or thank you, that ordinary stuff.it means green onion for free.why did she say that? because it was a line from our chinese parallel susan boyle--a 50-some year-old woman, a vegetable vendor in shanghai, who loves singing western opera, but she didnt understand any english or french or italian, so she managed to fill in the lyrics with vegetable names in chinese.(laughter)and the last sentence of nessun dorma that she was singing in the stadium was green onion for free.so [as] susan boyle was saying that, 80,000 live audience sang together.that was hilarious.so i guess both susan boyle and this vegetable vendor in shanghai belonged to otherness.they were the least expected to be successful in the business called entertainment, yet their courage and talent brought them through.and a show and a platform gave them the stage to realize their dreams.well, being different is not that difficult.we are all different from different perspectives.but i think being different is good, because you present a different point of view.you may have the chance to make a difference.my generation has been very fortunate to witness and participate in the historic transformation of china that has made so many changes in the past 20, 30 years.i remember that in the year of 1990,when i was graduating from college, i was applying for a job in the sales department of the first five-star hotel in beijing, great wall sheraton--its still there.so after being interrogated by this japanese manager for a half an hour, he finally said, so, miss yang, do you have any questions to ask me?i summoned my courage and poise and said,yes, but could you let me know, what actually do you sell? i didnt have a clue what a sales department was about in a five-star hotel.that was the first day i set my foot in a five-star hotel.my life, and i feel proud of that.but then we are also so fortunate to witness the transformation of the whole country.i was in beijings bidding for the olympic games.i was representing the shanghai expo.i saw china embracing the world and vice versa.but then sometimes im thinking, what are todays young generation up to? how are they different, and what are the differences they are going to make to shape the future of china, or at large, the world? so making a living is not that easy for young people.college graduates are not in short supply.in urban areas, college graduates find the starting salary is about 400 u.s.dollars a month, while the average rent is above $500.so what do they do? they have to share space--squeezed in very limited space to save money--and they call themselves tribe of ants.and for those who are ready to get married and buy their apartment, they figured out they have to work for 30 to 40 years to afford their first apartment.that ratio in americawould only cost a couple five years to earn, but in china its 30 to 40 years with the skyrocketing real estate price.so through some of the hottest topics on microblogging, we can see what young people care most about.social justice and government accountability runs the first in what they demand.for the past decade or so, a massive urbanization and development have let us witness a lot of reports on the forced demolition of private property.and it has aroused huge anger and frustrationamong our young generation.sometimes people get killed, and sometimes people set themselves on fire to protest.so when these incidents are reported more and more frequently on the internet,people cry for the government to take actions to stop this.so the good news is that earlier this year, the state council passed a new regulation on house requisition and demolition and passed the right to order forced demolition from local governments to the court.similarly, many other issues concerning public safety is a hot topic on the internet.we heard about polluted air, polluted water, poisoned food.and guess what, we have faked beef.they have sorts of ingredients that you brush on a piece of chicken or fish, and it turns it to look like beef.and then lately, people are very concerned about cooking oil, because thousands of people have been found [refining] cooking oil from restaurant slop.so all these things have aroused a huge outcry from the internet.and fortunately, we have seen the government responding more timely and also more frequently to the public concerns.while young people seem to be very sure about their participation in public policy-making, but sometimes theyre a little bit lost in terms of what they want for their personal life.china is soon to pass the u.s.as the number one market for luxury brands--thats not including the chinese expenditures in europe and elsewhere.but you know what, half of those consumers are earning a salary below 2,000 u.s.dollars.theyre not rich at all.theyre taking those bags and clothes as a sense of identity and social status.and this is a girl explicitly saying on a tv dating show that she would rather cry in a bmw than smile on a bicycle.but of course, we do have young people who would still prefer to smile, whether in a bmw or [on] a bicycle.so happiness is the most popular word we have heard through the past two years.happiness is not only related to personal experiences and personal values, but also, its about the environment.people are thinking about the following questions: are we going to sacrifice our environment further to produce higher gdp? how are we going to perform our social and political reform to keep pace with economic growth, to keep sustainability and stability? and also, how capable is the systemof self-correctness to keep more people contentwith all sorts of friction going on at the same time?i guess these are the questions people are going to answer.and our younger generation are going to transform this country while at the same time being transformed themselves.thank you very much.楊瀾ted演講：重塑中國(guó)的一代 中文演講稿

在來(lái)愛(ài)爾蘭的前一晚，我應(yīng)邀主持了中國(guó)達(dá)人秀在上海的體育場(chǎng)和八萬(wàn)現(xiàn)場(chǎng)觀眾。猜猜誰(shuí)是表演嘉賓？——蘇珊大媽。我告訴她，“我明天要去愛(ài)爾蘭了?！?她歌聲猶如天籟。而且她還可以說(shuō)點(diǎn)中文。

“送你蔥?！?這不是“你好、謝謝”之類的日常用語(yǔ)。這組詞翻譯過(guò)來(lái)是免費(fèi)給你青蔥，為什么她要說(shuō)這個(gè)呢？因?yàn)檫@是我們中國(guó)版的蘇珊大媽很有名的一句歌詞。

這位五十幾歲的大媽在上海以販賣蔬菜為生。她喜歡西方的歌劇，但是她不懂任何外語(yǔ)，所以她就把中文蔬菜名填做歌詞。當(dāng)她在體育場(chǎng)里 唱到今夜無(wú)人入眠的最后一句時(shí)，她唱的是“送你蔥”。蘇珊大媽和全場(chǎng)八萬(wàn)觀眾一起唱“送你蔥”，多有意思的場(chǎng)面。我想蘇珊大媽和這位在上海做蔬菜買賣的都屬于不同尋常的人。在業(yè)界所謂的娛樂(lè)圈，他們最不可能取得成功，但是他們的勇氣和才華讓他們成功了。一場(chǎng)秀，一個(gè)平臺(tái)給了他們實(shí)現(xiàn)夢(mèng)想的舞臺(tái)。與眾不同不難，從不同的角度看我們都是不一樣的。我認(rèn)為與眾不同是好的，因?yàn)槟阌胁煌目捶?，這給你機(jī)會(huì)去產(chǎn)生不同的影響。我們這代人有幸見(jiàn)證和參與了過(guò)去二三十年中國(guó)的歷史性的轉(zhuǎn)型。

我記得在九十年代，剛從大學(xué)畢業(yè)的我申請(qǐng)了一份在北京五星級(jí)酒店銷售部的工作。在日本經(jīng)理一個(gè)半小時(shí)的面試后，他最后說(shuō)：“楊小姐，你有什么問(wèn)題要問(wèn)我嗎？”我鼓起勇氣，定定神然后問(wèn)道：“您能告訴我銷售部到底銷售什么？”我對(duì)于五星級(jí)酒店的銷售部的職責(zé)一點(diǎn)都摸不著頭腦。那是我在五星級(jí)酒店的第一天。

同時(shí)，我和上千名大學(xué)女生參加了一場(chǎng)由中國(guó)中央電視臺(tái)舉辦的史無(wú)前例的公開選拔。制作人告訴我們他們想找一位可愛(ài)，天真，美麗的新面孔。當(dāng)輪到我時(shí)，我站起來(lái)說(shuō)道，“為什么女孩在電視上必須是漂亮，甜美，無(wú)邪的，像個(gè)花瓶？為什么她們不能有她們的想法，她們自己的聲音？”

我想我一定得罪了評(píng)委。但是事實(shí)上，我的發(fā)言給他們留下了深刻的印象。接下來(lái)我進(jìn)入了第二輪的選拔，然后是第三輪，第四輪。在經(jīng)過(guò)七輪的選拔后，我勝出了。成為了一個(gè)國(guó)家電視臺(tái)黃金時(shí)段節(jié)目的主持人。

不管你們相不相信，那是中國(guó)電視上第一個(gè)節(jié)目可以允許主持人自由發(fā)揮而不是去讀審查后的稿子。這個(gè)節(jié)目的觀眾人數(shù)高達(dá)兩到三千萬(wàn)。

幾年后，我決定去美國(guó)哥倫比亞大學(xué)進(jìn)修。之后我有了自己的傳媒公司，這是在我剛畢業(yè)的時(shí)候想都不敢想的。

我和我的團(tuán)隊(duì)做了很多事情。在過(guò)去的這些年，我采訪了上千人。有時(shí)候有年輕人走過(guò)來(lái)對(duì)我說(shuō)：“楊瀾，你改變了我的生活?！蔽乙矠榇硕院?。

今天我想講講在社交媒體這個(gè)大舞臺(tái)上的年輕人 matt cutts ted中英文對(duì)照雙語(yǔ)演講稿 try something new for 30 days 小計(jì)劃幫你實(shí)現(xiàn)大目標(biāo)

——google工程師matt cutts在ted的勵(lì)志演講稿 a few years ago, i felt like i was stuck in a rut, so i decided to follow in the footsteps of the great american philosopher, morgan spurlock, and try something new for 30 days.the idea is actually pretty simple.think about something you’ve always wanted to add to your life and try it for the next 30 days.it turns out, 30 days is just about the right amount of time to add a new habit or subtract a habit — like watching the news — from your life.幾年前，我感覺(jué)對(duì)老一套感到枯燥乏味，所以我決定追隨偉大的美國(guó)哲學(xué)家摩根·斯普爾洛克的腳步，嘗試做新事情30天。這個(gè)想法的確是非常簡(jiǎn)單。考慮下，你常想在你生命中做的一些事情 接下來(lái)30天嘗試做這些。這就是，30天剛好是這么一段合適的時(shí)間 去養(yǎng)成一個(gè)新的習(xí)慣或者改掉一個(gè)習(xí)慣——例如看新聞——在你生活中。當(dāng)我在30天做這些挑戰(zhàn)性事情時(shí)，我學(xué)到以下一些事。第一件事是，取代了飛逝而過(guò)易被遺忘的歲月的是 這段時(shí)間非常的更加令人難忘。挑戰(zhàn)的一部分是要一個(gè)月內(nèi)每天我要去拍攝一張照片。我清楚地記得那一天我所處的位置我都在干什么。我也注意到隨著我開始做更多的，更難的30天里具有挑戰(zhàn)性的事時(shí)，我自信心也增強(qiáng)了。我從一個(gè)臺(tái)式計(jì)算機(jī)宅男極客變成了一個(gè)愛(ài)騎自行車去工作的人——為了玩樂(lè)。甚至去年，我完成了在非洲最高山峰乞力馬扎羅山的遠(yuǎn)足。在我開始這30天做挑戰(zhàn)性的事之前我從來(lái)沒(méi)有這樣熱愛(ài)冒險(xiǎn)過(guò)。

我也認(rèn)識(shí)到如果你真想一些槽糕透頂?shù)氖拢憧梢栽?0天里做這些事。你曾想寫小說(shuō)嗎？每年11月，數(shù)以萬(wàn)計(jì)的人們?cè)?0天里，從零起點(diǎn)嘗試寫他們自己的5萬(wàn)字小說(shuō)。這結(jié)果就是，你所要去做的事就是每天寫1667個(gè)字要寫一個(gè)月。所以我做到了。順便說(shuō)一下，秘密在于除非在一天里你已經(jīng)寫完了1667個(gè)字，要不你就甭想睡覺(jué)。你可能被剝奪睡眠，但你將會(huì)完成你的小說(shuō)。那么我寫的書會(huì)是下一部偉大的美國(guó)小說(shuō)嗎？不是的。我在一個(gè)月內(nèi)寫完它。它看上去太可怕了。但在我的余生，如果我在一個(gè)ted聚會(huì)上遇見(jiàn)約翰·霍奇曼，我不必開口說(shuō)，“我是一個(gè)電腦科學(xué)家。”不，不會(huì)的，如果我愿意我可以說(shuō)，“我是一個(gè)小說(shuō)家?！? so here’s one last thing i’d like to mention.i learned that when i made small, sustainable changes, things i could keep doing, they were more likely to stick.there’s nothing wrong with big, crazy challenges.in fact, they’re a ton of fun.but they’re less likely to stick.when i gave up sugar for 30 days, day 31 looked like this.我這兒想提的最后一件事。當(dāng)我做些小的、持續(xù)性的變化，我可以不斷嘗試做的事時(shí)，我學(xué)到我可以把它們更容易地堅(jiān)持做下來(lái)。這和又大又瘋狂的具有挑戰(zhàn)性的事情無(wú)關(guān)。事實(shí)上，它們的樂(lè)趣無(wú)窮。但是，它們就不太可能堅(jiān)持做下來(lái)。當(dāng)我在30天里拒絕吃糖果，31天后看上去就像這樣。so here’s my question to you: what are you waiting for? i guarantee you the next 30 days are going to pass whether you like it or not, so why not think about something you have always wanted to try and give it a shot for the next 30 days.所以我給大家提的問(wèn)題是：大家還在等什么呀？我保準(zhǔn)大家在未來(lái)的30天定會(huì)經(jīng)歷你喜歡或者不喜歡的事，那么為什么不考慮一些你常想做的嘗試并在未來(lái)30天里試試給自己一個(gè)機(jī)會(huì)。thanks.謝謝。matt cutts簡(jiǎn)介： matt cutts是google所有工程師中最廣為人知的一個(gè)，因?yàn)樗麕缀趺刻於荚谧约旱腷log上面和讀者們分享與google相關(guān)的一切信息，包括技術(shù)與非技術(shù)類。matt寫的文章深入淺出，簡(jiǎn)明易懂，實(shí)用價(jià)值很高，因此他在互聯(lián)網(wǎng)上具有相當(dāng)高的名氣。簡(jiǎn)言之，matt cutts是google的anti-spam之王。

第三篇：勵(lì)志演講稿：沒(méi)有人愿意貧窮

人生的過(guò)程中盡管不無(wú)遺憾，但我學(xué)到最價(jià)值連城的一課——逆境和挑戰(zhàn)只要能激發(fā)起生命的力度，我們的成就是可以超乎自己所想像的。

我成長(zhǎng)的年代，香港社會(huì)艱苦，是殘酷而悲涼的。那時(shí)候沒(méi)有什么社會(huì)安全網(wǎng)，饑餓與疾病的恐懼是強(qiáng)烈迫人。求學(xué)的機(jī)會(huì)不是每一個(gè)人的權(quán)利，貧窮常常像一種無(wú)期徒刑。今天社會(huì)前行，新的富足為大部分人帶來(lái)相對(duì)的緩沖保障，貧窮不一定是缺乏金錢，而是對(duì)希望及機(jī)遇憧憬破滅的挫敗感。很多人害怕可上升的空間越來(lái)越窄，一輩子也無(wú)法沖破匱乏與弱勢(shì)的局限。我理解這些恐懼，因我曾經(jīng)一一身受。沒(méi)有人愿意貧窮，但出路在哪里?

七十年前這問(wèn)題每一個(gè)晚上都在我心頭，當(dāng)年十四歲時(shí)已需要照顧一家人，沒(méi)有接受教育的機(jī)會(huì)，沒(méi)有可以依靠的人脈網(wǎng)路，我很懷疑只憑刻苦耐勞，和一股毅力，是否足以讓我渡過(guò)難關(guān)?我們一家人的命運(yùn)是否早已注定?縱使我能餬口存活，但我有否出人頭地的一天?

我迅速發(fā)現(xiàn)沒(méi)有什么必然的成功方程式，首要專注的是，把能掌控的因素區(qū)分出來(lái)。若果成功是我的目標(biāo)，駕馭一些我能力內(nèi)可控制的事情是扭轉(zhuǎn)逆境十分重要的關(guān)鍵。我要認(rèn)清楚什么是貧窮的枷鎖—我一定要有擺脫疾病、愚昧、依賴和惰性的方法。

比方說(shuō)，當(dāng)我發(fā)覺(jué)染上肺結(jié)核病，在全無(wú)醫(yī)療照顧之下，我便下定決心，對(duì)飲食只求營(yíng)養(yǎng)不求喜惡、適當(dāng)?shù)剡\(yùn)動(dòng)及注重整潔衛(wèi)生，捍衛(wèi)健康和活力。此外，我要拒絕愚昧，要持恒地終身追求知識(shí)，經(jīng)常保持好奇心和緊貼時(shí)勢(shì)增長(zhǎng)智慧，避免不學(xué)無(wú)術(shù)。在過(guò)去七十多年，雖然我每天工作十二小時(shí)，下班后我必定學(xué)習(xí)，告訴你們一個(gè)秘密，在過(guò)去一年，我費(fèi)很大的力氣，努力理解進(jìn)化論演算法里錯(cuò)綜復(fù)雜的道理，因?yàn)槲蚁Ｍ私馊斯ぶ腔鄣陌l(fā)展，以及它對(duì)未來(lái)的意義。

無(wú)論在言談、許諾及設(shè)定目標(biāo)各方面，我都慎思和嚴(yán)守紀(jì)律，一定不能給人囂惰脆弱和倚賴的印象。這個(gè)思維模式不但是對(duì)成就的投資，更可建立誠(chéng)信;你的魅力，表現(xiàn)在你的自律、克己和謙遜中。

所有這些元素連接在一起功效非凡：它能漸漸凝聚與塑造一個(gè)成功基礎(chǔ)，幫助你應(yīng)付控制范疇以外的環(huán)境。當(dāng)機(jī)遇一現(xiàn)，你已整裝待發(fā)，有本領(lǐng)和勇氣踏上前路?？v使沒(méi)有人能告訴你前路是什么一道風(fēng)景，生命長(zhǎng)河將流往何方，然而，在這過(guò)程中，你會(huì)領(lǐng)悟到邱吉爾多年的名言：“只要克服困難就是贏得機(jī)會(huì)。一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)的態(tài)度，但卻能造成大大的改變?！?/p>

生命拋來(lái)一顆檸檬，你是可以把它轉(zhuǎn)榨為檸檬汁的人。要描繪自己獨(dú)特的心靈地圖，你才可發(fā)現(xiàn)熱愛(ài)生命的你、有思維、有能力、有承擔(dān)，建立自我的你;有原則、有理想，追求無(wú)我的你。

第四篇：父母怎樣講話孩子才愿意聽

父母怎樣講話孩子才愿意聽

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生活中，作為父母，總希望自己的孩子，我們說(shuō)啥，他就聽啥，我們不讓干啥，他立刻馬上就停止，一絲一毫猶豫都沒(méi)有。

但是，事實(shí)卻往往是：

你越害怕什么，孩子偏偏就越干什么；你越不讓干什么，孩子似乎就越喜歡什么；而你越鼓勵(lì)干什么，他卻往往越提不起勁來(lái)。

好像他生下來(lái)，專門就是為著和你作對(duì)而來(lái)。

因此，家里經(jīng)常鬧得雞飛狗跳，不得安寧，父母指責(zé)孩子不聽話，后腦勺長(zhǎng)反骨；孩子痛斥父母不理解自己，對(duì)自己實(shí)施法西斯專政。

每當(dāng)此時(shí)，很多父母都會(huì)感慨：自己的話在孩子那里越來(lái)越?jīng)]有分量了，自己一片苦心卻得不到孩子的認(rèn)同，這孩子簡(jiǎn)直太不懂事了。

其實(shí)，你不知道的是：這一切都是你自己造成的。

前段日子有位媽媽和我抱怨，幾乎是哭訴了。她似乎確實(shí)應(yīng)該憤慨。孩子上高一，腦袋瓜子挺聰明，就是愛(ài)上網(wǎng)玩游戲。有一天媽媽忍無(wú)可忍，一怒之下把電腦給砸了。孩子也忍無(wú)可忍，一氣之下不去學(xué)校上學(xué)了。

媽媽這下急了，給我電話，老師，我該怎么辦？我問(wèn)媽媽，孩子在學(xué)校學(xué)6天，周末休息想放松放松，玩一玩，過(guò)分嗎？也不太過(guò)分。孩子每天在學(xué)校呆10個(gè)小時(shí)，回家想放松放松，玩一玩，過(guò)分嗎？也不太過(guò)分。

是的，如果他不是你兒子，他是別人的兒子，也許你能客觀地看問(wèn)題。打一場(chǎng)籃球，要半小時(shí)，一般打上癮了，怎么著也要2-3個(gè)小時(shí)；逛一趟街，要逛得滿足了，保守講，2小時(shí)；一個(gè)孩子玩游戲，你給30分鐘，45分鐘，癮才上來(lái)，就戛然而止，你說(shuō)難受嗎？就像睡覺(jué)睡到半拉，生生把人拖起來(lái)，還橫眉冷對(duì)，怒不可遏，你難受嗎？吃飯吃了5成飽，生生不讓吃了，你難受嗎？

不但不讓吃了，現(xiàn)在還把碗給摔了，換成是你，你憤怒嗎？ 憤怒。

我說(shuō)，一個(gè)成年人上了一天班，回家想放松，會(huì)看電視、上網(wǎng)、玩游戲，找朋友喝點(diǎn)小酒等等，沒(méi)有人會(huì)指責(zé)他，我們甚至很體諒他，這么累，放松放松嘛。但一個(gè)孩子這樣做了，我們就不依不饒。

這是其一。其二，我們渴望孩子放學(xué)回家，除了吃飯，就是學(xué)習(xí)。但是，其實(shí)一個(gè)孩子真正的學(xué)習(xí)在學(xué)校里，如果學(xué)校里的學(xué)習(xí)是無(wú)效的，那么回了家里再努力，你收獲也不會(huì)太大。而事實(shí)上是，一個(gè)孩子如果在學(xué)校的學(xué)習(xí)都沒(méi)有努力，那回了家也不太可能好好學(xué)習(xí)。你看見(jiàn)的是他回了家沒(méi)有學(xué)習(xí)，但你看不見(jiàn)的是他在學(xué)校都干了啥。我們要解決的是他在學(xué)校的學(xué)習(xí)，而不是回了家的學(xué)習(xí)。如果孩子在學(xué)校的時(shí)間是有效的，甚至效率很高的，那么回了家為什么不能玩一玩？畢竟人生除了課本上、試卷上那點(diǎn)點(diǎn)東西，還有很多有趣的事情，如果上學(xué)學(xué)習(xí)、回家學(xué)習(xí)、周末還學(xué)習(xí)，人生就像遙遙無(wú)期的苦役，抬頭一望，就看到邊了，那我們還活著干什么。

我們今天努力工作，不就是因?yàn)楣ぷ髦心荏w現(xiàn)出我們的價(jià)值，工作后有不錯(cuò)的物質(zhì)回報(bào)，拿著這樣的物質(zhì)回報(bào)，可以過(guò)上美好的生活嗎？如果有人告訴你，這個(gè)工作要一直一直干下去，看上去遙遙無(wú)期，沒(méi)有停歇，到你生命終了的那一天，除了工作，其他美好的事你都不能干，連個(gè)懶都不能偷，我看，即使這個(gè)工作再有趣，你再愛(ài)它，你也會(huì)撞墻而死。是的，一直一直做一件事，生命中沒(méi)有其他的點(diǎn)綴，這悲催的人生不要也罷。孩子們也是一樣。再愛(ài)學(xué)習(xí)的孩子，他也需要調(diào)劑，需要喘息。況且，我們現(xiàn)在所指的學(xué)習(xí)，是狹隘的學(xué)習(xí)，主要指學(xué)習(xí)課本知識(shí)、為考試服務(wù)，它的指向性是很單一的。

而一個(gè)孩子健康成長(zhǎng)，是需要多方面的學(xué)習(xí)。比如：情緒控制、對(duì)人生的理解、對(duì)自我的認(rèn)識(shí)、對(duì)自己行為的控制、對(duì)責(zé)任的擔(dān)當(dāng)、對(duì)美（文字、外形、道德等）的品味等等，都要學(xué)習(xí)，沒(méi)有這些墊底，你知識(shí)的學(xué)習(xí)也必然學(xué)不到家。咱家孩子現(xiàn)在正在學(xué)習(xí)非常重要的一課，如何管理自己的欲望，如何平衡玩樂(lè)和工作？高一數(shù)學(xué)學(xué)函數(shù)，老師還要先引入，再講解，再做題檢驗(yàn)、再通過(guò)做作業(yè)鞏固、再?gòu)?fù)習(xí)；過(guò)上一段時(shí)間后，再回過(guò)頭來(lái)再來(lái)一遍，不經(jīng)過(guò)這樣一個(gè)較長(zhǎng)時(shí)間的反復(fù)、起伏、思索、發(fā)酵、等待，我們對(duì)這點(diǎn)點(diǎn)知識(shí)的認(rèn)知都不可能到位。

那今天孩子要學(xué)習(xí)非常非常重要的一課，會(huì)對(duì)他一生的人生、事業(yè)起到關(guān)鍵作用的一課：如何管理自己的欲望。我們卻不給他的生命留白、留空間、留余地，讓他自己完成思考、反復(fù)、發(fā)酵、再認(rèn)識(shí)的過(guò)程，而妄圖一步到位，直接就會(huì)，如果孩子做不到。我們就生氣地吼他：這孩子怎么這樣呢？一點(diǎn)都不會(huì)規(guī)劃自己的時(shí)間，一玩上了就什么都忘了。而我們恰恰忘了，不是他不會(huì)，是你沒(méi)有給他時(shí)間學(xué)；不是他不想，是他還來(lái)不及對(duì)自己做要求的時(shí)候，你就急吼吼地沖上去了。生命需要留白，只有留白，孩子的智慧才有空間生發(fā)。我跟這位媽媽講，把電腦給孩子安上吧。砸了電腦，人可以出去玩。心跑了，留住身子有什么用？孩子現(xiàn)在這么大，腿那么長(zhǎng)，邁開腿，你追都追不上。孩子越大，你管的越不是身子，越是心；孩子再大，心就要讓他自己保管了。只有自己保管，才能管到家。如果你強(qiáng)行要替人家管，那結(jié)果只有兩個(gè)，要不人家一走了之，你徹底沒(méi)招了；要不這孩子一輩子沒(méi)心了，你得管一輩子，這兩種結(jié)果，我想我們都不愿意看到。

去年冬天的時(shí)候，有位媽媽給我打電話，孩子高二，玩游戲玩瘋了，經(jīng)常夜不歸宿。因?yàn)檫@個(gè)，父母與孩子經(jīng)常發(fā)生沖突，非常嚴(yán)重的沖突。家里鬧得雞犬不寧。孩子甚至經(jīng)?！翱謬槨备改福凳舅麄?nèi)绻俟芩?，學(xué)也不上了。媽媽受不了。我跟媽媽講，你要用心來(lái)?yè)Q心，不要再?zèng)_突了，沖突下去，家里的門就朝孩子關(guān)閉了。媽媽聽進(jìn)去了。有一天，孩子又要出門。媽媽很懇切地講：玩累了，就回家睡覺(jué)吧。畢竟網(wǎng)吧不舒服，不像家里的床，又軟又舒服。餓了，家里也有吃的。結(jié)果，孩子當(dāng)晚凌晨3點(diǎn)就回家了?，F(xiàn)在孩子在學(xué)校里，成績(jī)也不錯(cuò)，慢慢地越來(lái)越好了。

其實(shí)，每一個(gè)孩子都有一顆心，這顆心可以殺人放火，也可以柔軟如水晶。取決于什么呢？取決于他心中是不是有愛(ài)。只有愛(ài)可以喚醒良知！電影《放牛班的春天》中莫朗德和蒙丹，雖然都是問(wèn)題學(xué)生，但莫朗德有深愛(ài)他的母親，賞識(shí)他的馬修老師，他的心被愛(ài)牽制，再惡作劇，再鬧騰，他也不會(huì)出格，反倒后來(lái)因?yàn)橐魳?lè)回歸自我，成為享譽(yù)世界的音樂(lè)家；但蒙丹呢，他所遭遇的不是遺棄、就是排斥、懷疑、毆打、辱罵，當(dāng)世界對(duì)他懷有深深惡意的時(shí)候，他對(duì)這個(gè)世界也抱有刻骨的仇恨。教育是心對(duì)心的呼喚，是靈魂對(duì)靈魂的喚醒。學(xué)校、家庭不是勞教所，要教會(huì)孩子的是愛(ài)，是善，是信任，不是懷疑，不是指責(zé)，不是謾罵，不是冷漠。

這些道理，那位媽媽聽進(jìn)去了。把電腦安上了。孩子也發(fā)誓好好學(xué)習(xí)。之后一周的學(xué)習(xí)非常認(rèn)真，每天回家還要學(xué)一會(huì)。媽媽很高興。可到了周五，孩子因?yàn)槎亲犹?，在家休息一下午，媽媽很恐慌，給我信息：老師，咋辦？我擔(dān)心孩子又會(huì)撂挑子？我給這位焦慮中的媽媽回了5個(gè)字：平常心待之。又過(guò)了好幾天，這位媽媽給我回了幾條信息，充滿了深深的愧疚和反省。

家長(zhǎng)們，您要欣賞自己的孩子。我給你講一個(gè)真實(shí)的故事：

又是一個(gè)大周末，學(xué)生可以回家呆兩天半。我習(xí)慣地接到了家長(zhǎng)們的電話，“我兒子xxx不想上學(xué)了??”我說(shuō)：“無(wú)論發(fā)生什么情況，你都要欣賞自己的孩子。我給你講一個(gè)真實(shí)的故事，或許對(duì)你有些啟發(fā)。”

第一次參加家長(zhǎng)會(huì)，幼兒園的老師說(shuō)：“你的兒子有多動(dòng)癥，在凳子上連三分鐘都坐不了，您最好帶他去看看。”

回家的路上，兒子問(wèn)他，老師都說(shuō)了些什么，她鼻子一酸，差點(diǎn)流下眼淚來(lái)。因?yàn)槿嗳恍∨笥?，唯有他表現(xiàn)最差，老師表現(xiàn)出不屑。然而她還是告訴兒子：“老師表?yè)P(yáng)你了，說(shuō)寶寶原來(lái)在板凳上坐不了一分鐘，現(xiàn)在能做三分鐘了。其他的媽媽都非常羨慕我，因?yàn)槿嘀挥袑殞氝M(jìn)步了?！?/p>

那天晚上，她兒子破天荒地吃了兩碗米飯，并且沒(méi)有讓她喂。兒子上小學(xué)了。家長(zhǎng)會(huì)上，老師說(shuō)：“全班五十名同學(xué)，這次數(shù)學(xué)考試，你兒子排第四十名，我們懷疑他智力上有障礙，您最好能帶他去醫(yī)院查查。”

回去的路上，她流下了淚。然而，當(dāng)回到家里，卻對(duì)坐在桌前的兒子說(shuō)：“老師對(duì)你充滿信心。他說(shuō)了，你并不是個(gè)笨孩子，只要細(xì)心些，會(huì)超過(guò)你的同桌，這次你同桌排在第二十一名?！?/p>

說(shuō)這話時(shí)，她就發(fā)現(xiàn)，兒子黯淡的眼神一下子充滿了神采，沮喪的臉也一下子舒展開來(lái)。她甚至發(fā)現(xiàn)，兒子溫順得讓他吃驚，好像長(zhǎng)大了許多。第二天上學(xué)，去得比平常都要早。

孩子上初中了，有一次家長(zhǎng)會(huì)。她坐在兒子的位置上，等著老師點(diǎn)她兒子的名字，因?yàn)槊看渭议L(zhǎng)會(huì)議，她兒子的名字在差生中被點(diǎn)到。然而，這次出乎意料她的意料，直到結(jié)束，都沒(méi)有點(diǎn)到。她有些不習(xí)慣。臨別，去問(wèn)老師，老師告訴她：“按你兒子現(xiàn)在的成績(jī)，考重點(diǎn)高中有點(diǎn)危險(xiǎn)?！?/p>

她懷著驚喜的心情走出校門，此時(shí)她發(fā)現(xiàn)兒子正在等她。路上他扶著兒子的肩膀，心里有一種說(shuō)不出的甜蜜，她告訴兒子：“班主任對(duì)你非常滿意，他說(shuō)了，只要努力，很有希望考上重點(diǎn)中學(xué)?！?/p>

高中畢業(yè)了。第一批大學(xué)錄取通知書下達(dá)時(shí)，學(xué)校打電話讓她兒子去學(xué)校一趟。她有一種預(yù)感，她兒子被清華大學(xué)錄取了，因?yàn)閳?bào)考時(shí)，她給兒子說(shuō)過(guò)，她相信他有能力考取這所學(xué)校。

她兒子從學(xué)?；貋?lái)，把一封印有清華大學(xué)招生辦室的特快專遞交到她的手里，突然轉(zhuǎn)身跑到自己的房間里哭了起來(lái)，邊哭邊說(shuō)：“媽媽，我知道我不是個(gè)聰明的孩子，只有你欣賞我??”

這時(shí)她悲喜交加，再也按耐不住十幾年的淚水，任它落在手中的信封上。家長(zhǎng)們，我的故事講完了，您或許有所感悟。

第五篇：TED英語(yǔ)演講稿：如何讓選擇更容易

TED英語(yǔ)演講稿：如何讓選擇更容易

簡(jiǎn)介：面對(duì)商場(chǎng)里五花八門的商品，你的選擇恐懼癥又犯了嗎? 美國(guó)哥倫比亞大學(xué)商學(xué)教授sheena iyengar研究如何讓你在做選擇時(shí)更容易。為了讓你的選擇省時(shí)省力，商家又會(huì)有哪些訣竅呢?

do you know how many choices you make in a typical day? do you know how many choices you make in typical week? i recently did a survey with over 2,000 americans, and the average number of choices that the typical american reports making is about 70 in a typical day.there was also recently a study done with ceos in which they followed ceos around for a whole week.and these scientists simply documented all the various tasks that these ceos engaged in and how much time they spent engaging in making decisions related to these tasks.and they found that the average ceo engaged in about 139 tasks in a week.each task was made up of many, many, many sub-choices of course.50 percent of their decisions were made in nine minutes or less.only about 12 percent of the decisions did they make an hour or more of their time.think about your own choices.do you know how many choices make it into your nine minute category versus your one hour category? how well do you think you're doing at managing those choices?

today i want to talk about one of the biggest modern day choosing problems that we have, which is the choice overload problem.i want to talk about the problem and some potential solutions.now as i talk about this problem, i'm going to have some questions for you and i'm going to want to know your answers.so when i ask you a question, since i'm blind, only raise your hand if you want to burn off some calories.(laughter)otherwise, when i ask you a question, and if your answer is yes, i'd like you to clap your hands.so for my first question for you today: are you guys ready to hear about the choice overload problem?(applause)thank you.so when i was a graduate student at stanford university, i used to go to this very, very upscale grocery store;at least at that time it was truly upscale.it was a store called draeger's.now this store, it was almost like going to an amusement park.they had 250 different kinds of mustards and vinegars and over 500 different kinds of fruits and vegetables and more than two dozen different kinds of bottled water--and this was during a time when we actually used to drink tap water.i used to love going to this store, but on one occasion i asked myself, well how come you never buy anything? here's their olive oil aisle.they had over 75 different kinds of olive oil, including those that were in a locked case that came from thousand-year-old olive trees.so i one day decided to pay a visit to the manager, and i asked the manager, “is this model of offering people all this choice really working?” and he pointed to the busloads of tourists that would show up everyday, with cameras ready usually.we decided to do a little experiment, and we picked jam for our experiment.here's their jam aisle.they had 348 different kinds of jam.we set up a little tasting booth right near the entrance of the store.we there put out six different flavors of jam or 24 different flavors of jam, and we looked at two things: first, in which case were people more likely to stop, sample some jam? more people stopped when there were 24, about 60 percent, than when there were six, about 40 percent.the next thing we looked at is in which case were people more likely to buy a jar of jam.now we see the opposite effect.of the people who stopped when there were 24, only three percent of them actually bought a jar of jam.of the people who stopped when there were six, well now we saw that 30 percent of them actually bought a jar of jam.now if you do the math, people were at least six times more likely to buy a jar of jam if they encountered six than if they encountered 24.now choosing not to buy a jar of jam is probably good for us--at least it's good for our waistlines--but it turns out that this choice overload problem affects us even in very consequential decisions.we choose not to choose, even when it goes against our best self-interests.so now for the topic of today: financial savings.now i'm going to describe to you a study i did with gur huberman, emir kamenica, wei jang where we looked at the retirement savings decisions of nearly a million americans from about 650 plans all in the and what we looked at was whether the number of fund offerings available in a retirement savings plan, the 401(k)plan, does that affect people's likelihood to save more for tomorrow.and what we found was that indeed there was a correlation.so in these plans, we had about 657 plans that ranged from offering people anywhere from two to 59 different fund offerings.and what we found was that, the more funds offered, indeed, there was less participation rate.so if you look at the extremes, those plans that offered you two funds, participation rates were around in the mid-70s--still not as high as we want it to be.in those plans that offered nearly 60 funds, participation rates have now dropped to about the 60th percentile.now it turns out that even if you do choose to participate when there are more choices present, even then, it has negative consequences.so for those people who did choose to participate, the more choices available, the more likely people were to completely avoid stocks or equity funds.the more choices available, the more likely they were to put all their money in pure money market accounts.now neither of these extreme decisions are the kinds of decisions that any of us would recommend for people when you're considering their future financial well-being.well, over the past decade, we have observed three main negative consequences to offering people more and more choices.they're more likely to delay choosing--procrastinate even when it goes against their best self-interest.they're more likely to make worse choices--worse financial choices, medical choices.they're more likely to choose things that make them less satisfied, even when they do objectively better.the main reason for this is because, we might enjoy gazing at those giant walls of mayonnaises, mustards, vinegars, jams, but we can't actually do the math of comparing and contrasting and actually picking from that stunning display.so what i want to propose to you today are four simple techniques--techniques that we have tested in one way or another in different research venues--that you can easily apply in your businesses.the first: cut.you've heard it said before, but it's never been more true than today, that less is more.people are always upset when i say, “cut.” they're always worried they're going to lose shelf space.but in fact, what we're seeing more and more is that if you are willing to cut, get rid of those extraneous redundant options, well there's an increase in sales, there's a lowering of costs, there is an improvement of the choosing experience.when proctor & gamble went from 26 different kinds of head & shoulders to 15, they saw an increase in sales by 10 percent.when the golden cat corporation got rid of their 10 worst-selling cat litter products, they saw an increase in profits by 87 percent--a function of both increase in sales and lowering of costs.you know, the average grocery store today offers you 45,000 products.the typical walmart today offers you 100,000 products.but the ninth largest retailer, the ninth biggest retailer in the world today is aldi, and it offers you only 1,400 products--one kind of canned tomato sauce.now in the financial savings world, i think one of the best examples that has recently come out on how to best manage the choice offerings has actually been something that david laibson was heavily involved in designing, which was the program that they have at harvard.every single harvard employee is now automatically enrolled in a lifecycle fund.for those people who actually want to choose, they're given 20 funds, not 300 or more funds.you know, often, people say, “i don't know how to cut.they're all important choices.” and the first thing i do is i ask the employees, “tell me how these choices are different from one another.and if your employees can't tell them apart, neither can your consumers.”

now before we started our session this afternoon, i had a chat with gary.and gary said that he would be willing to offer people in this audience an all-expenses-paid free vacation to the most beautiful road in the world.here's a description of the road.and i'd like you to read it.and now i'll give you a few seconds to read it and then i want you to clap your hands if you're ready to take gary up on his offer.(light clapping)okay.anybody who's ready to take him up on his offer.is that all? all right, let me show you some more about this.(laughter)you guys knew there was a trick, didn't you.(honk)now who's ready to go on this trip.(applause)(laughter)i think i might have actually heard more hands.all right.now in fact, you had objectively more information the first time around than the second time around, but i would venture to guess that you felt that it was more real the second time around.because the pictures made it feel more real to you.which brings me to the second technique for handling the choice overload problem, which is concretization.that in order for people to understand the differences between the choices, they have to be able to understand the consequences associated with each choice, and that the consequences need to be felt in a vivid sort of way, in a very concrete way.why do people spend an average of 15 to 30 percent more when they use an atm card or a credit card as opposed to cash? because it doesn't feel like real money.and it turns out that making it feel more concrete can actually be a very positive tool to use in getting people to save more.so a study that i did with shlomo benartzi and alessandro previtero, we did a study with people at ing--employees that are all working at ing--and now these people were all in a session where they're doing enrollment for their 401(k)plan.and during that session, we kept the session exactly the way it used to be, but we added one little thing.the one little thing we added was we asked people to just think about all the positive things that would happen in your life if you saved more.by doing that simple thing, there was an increase in enrollment by 20 percent and there was an increase in the amount of people willing to save or the amount that they were willing to put down into their savings account by four percent.the third technique: categorization.we can handle more categories than we can handle choices.so for example, here's a study we did in a magazine aisle.it turns out that in wegmans grocery stores up and down the northeast corridor, the magazine aisles range anywhere from 331 different kinds of magazines all the way up to 664.but you know what? if i show you 600 magazines and i divide them up into 10 categories, versus i show you 400 magazines and divide them up into 20 categories, you believe that i have given you more choice and a better choosing experience if i gave you the 400 than if i gave you the 600.because the categories tell me how to tell them apart.here are two different jewelry displays.one is called “jazz” and the other one is called “swing.” if you think the display on the left is swing and the display on the right is jazz, clap your hands.(light clapping)okay, there's some.if you think the one on the left is jazz and the one on the right is swing, clap your hands.okay, a bit more.now it turns out you're right.the one on the left is jazz and the one on the right is swing, but you know what? this is a highly useless categorization scheme.(laughter)the categories need to say something to the chooser, not the choice-maker.and you often see that problem when it comes down to those long lists of all these funds.who are they actually supposed to be informing?

my fourth technique: condition for complexity.it turns out we can actually handle a lot more information than we think we can, we've just got to take it a little easier.we have to gradually increase the complexity.i'm going to show you one example of what i'm talking about.let's take a very, very complicated decision: buying a car.here's a german car manufacturer that gives you the opportunity to completely custom make your car.you've got to make 60 different decisions, completely make up your car.now these decisions vary in the number of choices that they offer per decision.car colors, exterior car colors--i've got 56 choices.engines, gearshift--four choices.so now what i'm going to do is i'm going to vary the order in which these decisions appear.so half of the customers are going to go from high choice, 56 car colors, to low choice, four gearshifts.the other half of the customers are going to go from low choice, four gearshifts, to 56 car colors, high choice.what am i going to look at? how engaged you are.if you keep hitting the default button per decision, that means you're getting overwhelmed, that means i'm losing you.what you find is the people who go from high choice to low choice, they're hitting that default button over and over and over again.we're losing them.they go from low choice to high choice, they're hanging in there.it's the same information.it's the same number of choices.the only thing that i have done is i have varied the order in which that information is presented.if i start you off easy, i learn how to choose.even though choosing gearshift doesn't tell me anything about my preferences for interior decor, it still prepares me for how to choose.it also gets me excited about this big product that i'm putting together, so i'm more willing to be motivated to be engaged.so let me recap.i have talked about four techniques for mitigating the problem of choice overload--cut--get rid of the extraneous alternatives;concretize--make it real;categorize--we can handle more categories, less choices;condition for complexity.all of these techniques that i'm describing to you today are designed to help you manage your choices--better for you, you can use them on yourself, better for the people that you are serving.because i believe that the key to getting the most from choice is to be choosy about choosing.and the more we're able to be choosy about choosing the better we will be able to practice the art of choosing.thank you very much.(applause)

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