第一篇：TED演講：成功的秘訣

成功的鑰匙

When I was 27 years old, I left a very demanding job in management consulting, for a job that was even more demanding: teaching.I went to teach seventh grades math in the New York City public schools.And like any teacher, I made quizzes and tests, i gave out homework assignments.When the work came back, I calculated grades.What struck me was that I.Q.was not the only difference between my best and my worst students, some of my strongest performers did not have stratospheric I.Q.Scores, some of my smartest kids weren’t doing so well.And that got me thinking, the kinds of things you need to learn in seventh grade math, sure, they’re hard: ratios, decimals, the area of a parallelogram, but these concepts are not impossible.And I was firmly convinced that every one of my students could learn material if they worked hard and long enough。

在我27歲的時(shí)候，我辭去了一份非常有挑戰(zhàn)性的職業(yè)-企業(yè)管理咨詢，轉(zhuǎn)而投入了一份更加具有挑戰(zhàn)性的職業(yè)：教育。我來到紐約的一些公立學(xué)校教七年級學(xué)生數(shù)學(xué)，和別的老師一樣，我會給同學(xué)們做小測試和考試，我會給他們布置家庭作業(yè)。當(dāng)這些試卷和作業(yè)收上來之后，我計(jì)算了他們的成績，讓我震驚的是，I.Q的高低并不是我最好的和最差的學(xué)生之間唯一的差別，一些在課業(yè)上表現(xiàn)很好的學(xué)生并不具有非常高的IQ分?jǐn)?shù)，一些聰明的孩子反而在課業(yè)上表現(xiàn)的不那么盡如人意，這引起了我的思考。當(dāng)然，學(xué)生們在七年級需要學(xué)習(xí)的東西，是有難度的，像比率，小數(shù)，平行四邊形的面積計(jì)算，但是這些概念是完全可以掌握的，我堅(jiān)信我的每一位學(xué)生都可以學(xué)會教材內(nèi)容，只要他們肯花時(shí)間和精力的話。

After several more years of teaching, I came to the conclusion that what we need in education is a much better understanding of students and learning from a motivational perspective, from a psychological perspective.In education, the one thing we know how to measure best is I.Q., but what if doing well in school and in life, depends on much more than your ability to learn quickly and easily? So I left classroom, and I went to graduate school to become a psychologist.I started studying kids and adults in all kinds of super challenging settings, and in every study my question was who is successful here and why.My research team and I went to West Point Military Academy, we try to predict which cadets would stay in military training and which would drop out.We went to the National Spelling Bee, and tried to predict which children would advance farthest in competition.We studied rookie teachers in really tough neighborhoods, asking which teachers are still going to be here in teaching by the end of the school year.And of those, who will be the most effective at improving learning outcomes for their students.We partnered with private companies, asking which of these salespeople is going to keep their jobs, and who’s going to earn the most money? 經(jīng)過幾年教學(xué)之后，我得出一個(gè)結(jié)論，我們在教育方面需要做的是從學(xué)習(xí)動力的角度和心理學(xué)的角度對學(xué)生和學(xué)習(xí)行為，進(jìn)行一次更為深刻的理解。在教育系統(tǒng)中，我們都知道評價(jià)優(yōu)秀學(xué)生的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)就是IQ，但如果在學(xué)校和生活中的優(yōu)秀表現(xiàn)遠(yuǎn)不僅僅依賴于你輕松高效的學(xué)習(xí)能力呢？所以我離開了講臺，回到學(xué)校繼續(xù)心理學(xué)碩士學(xué)位。我開始研究，孩子和大人在各種具有挑戰(zhàn)性的情況下以及在各項(xiàng)研究中，我的問題是誰才是成功者，為什么他們會成功？我和我的研究團(tuán)隊(duì)前往西點(diǎn)軍校展開調(diào)研，我們試圖預(yù)測哪些學(xué)員能夠耐得住軍隊(duì)的訓(xùn)練，哪些會被淘汰出局。我們前去觀摩全國拼字比賽，同時(shí)也試著預(yù)測哪些孩子會晉級到最后的比賽。我們研究，在惡劣的環(huán)境下工作的，剛?cè)胄械睦蠋?，詢問他們哪些老師會在學(xué)年結(jié)束后繼續(xù)留下來任教。以及他們之中誰能最快地提高學(xué)生的學(xué)習(xí)成績。我們與私企合作，向他們詢問哪些銷售人員可以保住工作，哪些賺錢更多？

In all those very different contexts, one characteristic emerged, as a significant predictor of success, and it wasn’t social intelligence, it wasn’t good looks, physical health, and it wasn’t I.Q., it was grit.Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals.Grit is having stamina, grit is sticking with your future, day in, day out.Not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years and working really hard to make that future a reality.Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint.A few years ago, I started studying grit in the Chicago public schools.I asked thousands of high school junior to take grit questionnaires, and then waited around more than a year to see who would graduate, turns out that grittier kids were significantly more likely to graduate, even when I matched them on every characteristic I could measure, things like family incomes, standardized achievement test scores, even how safe kids felt when they were at school.So it’s not just at West Point or the National Spelling Bee that grit matters, it’s also in school, especially for kids at risk for dropping out.To me, the most shocking thing about grit is how little we know, how little science knows about building it.在所有那些不同的環(huán)境下，一種性格特征凸顯了出來，這種特征很大程度上預(yù)示了成功，而且他并不是社交智力，不是漂亮的外表，強(qiáng)健的體魄，也不是很高的I.Q.，它是毅力。毅力是對長遠(yuǎn)目標(biāo)的激情和堅(jiān)持，毅力是擁有持久的恒勁，毅力是你對未來的堅(jiān)持，日復(fù)一日，不是僅僅持續(xù)一個(gè)星期或者一個(gè)月，而是幾年甚至幾十年努力奮斗著，讓自己的夢想變?yōu)楝F(xiàn)實(shí)。毅力把生活當(dāng)成一場馬拉松而不是一場短跑。幾年前，在芝加哥的公立學(xué)校里開始研究毅力，我對上千名初中生進(jìn)行了關(guān)于毅力的問卷調(diào)查，然后等候了一年多來看最終哪些學(xué)生能畢業(yè)結(jié)果證明那些更具毅力的學(xué)生在畢業(yè)的概率上占絕對優(yōu)勢，即使是在同樣可以量化的外在因素下，像家庭收入，標(biāo)準(zhǔn)化成績測驗(yàn)的分?jǐn)?shù)，甚至是孩子們在學(xué)校能獲得多少安全感之類，仍是有毅力的學(xué)生更容易畢業(yè)，所有不僅僅是在西點(diǎn)軍校里或者全國拼字比賽上才需要毅力，在學(xué)校亦是如此，尤其是對于那些徘徊在輟學(xué)邊緣的孩子們。對我來說，關(guān)于毅力最讓我震驚的事情莫過于對于毅力，我們知之甚少，在培養(yǎng)毅力上，科學(xué)對理解的認(rèn)識又是何等貧乏。

Every day, parents and teachers ask me “how do i build grit in kids?” What do I do to teach kids a solid work ethic, how do i keep them motivated for the long run? The honest answer is, I don’t know.What I do know is that talent doesn’t make you gritty.Our data show very clearly that there are many talented individuals who simply do not follow through on their commitments.In fact, in our data, grit is usually unrelated, or even inversely related to measure of talent.So far, the best idea I’ve heard about building grit in kids is something called “growth mindset”.This is an idea developed at Stanford University by Carol Dweck, and it is the belief that the ability to learn is not fixed, that it can change with your effort , Dr.Dweck has shown that when kids read and learn about the brain and how it changes and grows in response to challenge, they’re much more likely to persevere when they fail, because they don’t believe that failure is a permanent condition.So growth mindset is a great idea for building grit, but we need more, and that’s where I’m going to end my remarks, because that’s where we are, that’s the work that stands before us.We need to take our best ideas, our strongest intuitions, and we need to test them.We need to measure whether we’ve been successful, and we have to be willing to fail, to be wrong, to start over again with lessons learned.In other words, we need to be gritty about getting our kids grittier.Thank you!

每天都有家長和老師來問我“我怎樣做才能培養(yǎng)孩子的毅力呢”該做些什么才能教授給孩子們真正的職業(yè)道德，我又該怎樣調(diào)動他們長期的積極性呢？老實(shí)說，我不知道。我所知道的是，才華并不能使你堅(jiān)韌不拔，我們的數(shù)據(jù)十分清楚的表明，有許多才華橫溢的人，他們都無法堅(jiān)持兌現(xiàn)自己的承諾。事實(shí)上，根據(jù)我們的數(shù)據(jù)來看，毅力通常與其他因素?zé)o關(guān)，甚至與才華的衡量標(biāo)準(zhǔn)背道而馳。到目前為止，我所聽說過得在孩子身上培養(yǎng)堅(jiān)忍品質(zhì)最有效的方法，叫“成長型思維模式”。斯坦福大學(xué)卡洛杜威克提出過一個(gè)觀點(diǎn)，他相信人的學(xué)習(xí)能力是可變的，他隨著你的努力程度而變化。杜威克教授表示，當(dāng)孩子們閱讀和學(xué)習(xí)有關(guān)大腦的知識，以及它在面對挑戰(zhàn)時(shí)所發(fā)生的變化和成長情況，他們失敗之后更容易堅(jiān)持下去，因?yàn)樗麄儾幌嘈乓恢笔∠氯?，因此，成長性思維模式對培養(yǎng)毅力大有裨益。但是我們需要更多，我決定在次結(jié)束我的評論，因?yàn)槲覀冋诮?jīng)歷這一切，這是眼前所面臨的工作，我們要拿出最好的想法和最強(qiáng)的直覺。我們要對他們進(jìn)行實(shí)踐，我們需要估量這一切是否成功，同時(shí)還要渴望面對失敗和錯(cuò)誤，要從這些失敗中汲取教訓(xùn)經(jīng)驗(yàn)重新再來，換句話說，我們只有自己變得更加有毅力才能讓我們的孩子變得更有毅力，謝謝大家。

第二篇：TED演講成功的兩大秘訣

TED演講成功的兩大秘訣

一 前期準(zhǔn)備工作

當(dāng)我想到要做一個(gè)扣人心弦的演講，在我腦海中浮現(xiàn)的是去帶著觀眾踏上一段旅途。1.做好提綱

除非你有值得一說的東西，不然你就做不了一個(gè)好的演講。而對你想說的內(nèi)容進(jìn)行提煉和建立結(jié)構(gòu)是準(zhǔn)備過程中最重要的部分。2.講一個(gè)故事

我們都知道人們很喜歡聽故事，而那些最引人入勝的敘述結(jié)構(gòu)中都有著大量的隱喻。當(dāng)我想到要做一個(gè)扣人心弦的演講，在我腦海中浮現(xiàn)的是去帶著觀眾踏上一段旅途。一個(gè)成功的演講是一個(gè)小小的奇跡，人們由此看到不同的世界。

如果你把故事當(dāng)作一段旅途，最重要的便是找出從哪里開始、到哪里結(jié)束。想想觀眾們對你的故事可能已經(jīng)有了哪些了解、他們有多關(guān)心它，以此找到合適的起點(diǎn)。

最棒的演講者會非?？焖俚亟榻B主題，解釋他們自己為什么會對這個(gè)話題感興趣，并說服觀眾相信他們也應(yīng)該關(guān)注這個(gè)主題。3.突出重點(diǎn)

我在演講者的初稿中發(fā)現(xiàn)的最大問題是會涵蓋太多內(nèi)容。你無法在一個(gè)演講中去概括整個(gè)行業(yè)。如果你試圖將你知道的所有東西都塞進(jìn)演講，那就沒時(shí)間去舉出關(guān)鍵的細(xì)節(jié)了，而且你的演講會因各種抽象的語言而晦澀難懂，從而會導(dǎo)致本身就懂的人能聽得懂，而之前不懂的人就不知所云了。

你需要舉出具體的例子來使你的想法有血有肉，充實(shí)起來。

不要一心想把所有東西都納入到一個(gè)短短的演講。相反地，要深入。不要告訴我們你研究的整個(gè)領(lǐng)域，告訴我們你的獨(dú)特貢獻(xiàn)。

當(dāng)然，過度闡述或者糾結(jié)于內(nèi)容的意義也不可行。對這種情況有另一套補(bǔ)救的方法。記住，觀眾們很聰明。讓他們自己去找尋出一些意義，去各自歸納收獲的結(jié)論。4.營造懸念

很多頂級的演講具有著偵探小說般的敘事結(jié)構(gòu)，演講者引出問題開始演講，然后介紹尋求解決方法的過程，直到恍然大悟的一刻，這時(shí)觀眾自會看到這一切敘述的意義。

如果一個(gè)演講失敗了，幾乎都是因?yàn)橹v者沒有設(shè)計(jì)好整個(gè)故事，錯(cuò)誤估計(jì)了觀眾的興趣點(diǎn)，或者忽略了故事本身。即使話題再重要，沒有足夠的敘述作為鋪墊，反而偶然冒出一些武斷的意見總會讓人感到不爽。沒有一個(gè)遞進(jìn)的過程，就不會感到自己有所收獲。

二 想好演講方式

我認(rèn)為最簡單且實(shí)用的方法就是上臺前做一下深呼吸。1.最受歡迎的演講都是背好了講

一旦你想好怎么說故事了，就可以開始重點(diǎn)考慮具體的演講方式。發(fā)表一個(gè)演講有三個(gè)主要的途徑：

1、照著手稿或提詞器直接讀；

2、記下演講提綱來提示你要講的具體內(nèi)容；

3、記住全部內(nèi)容。

我的建議是：別照著讀，也別使用提詞器。一旦被人們看出來你在照著讀，觀眾們的注意力就會轉(zhuǎn)移。突然你就與觀眾變得疏遠(yuǎn)。

我們很多最受歡迎的TED演講都是逐字逐句完全記下來的。如果你有充裕的時(shí)間做這樣的準(zhǔn)備，這其實(shí)就是最好的演講方式。2.使用親切的談話式語氣

有些講者傾向于較為權(quán)威、裝逼、強(qiáng)硬或熱切的語氣，可是談話式的語氣會聽上去更令人舒服。

如果成功的演講是一次旅途，那就不要在過程中惹惱你的旅伴。有些講者表現(xiàn)得太過于自我。他們表現(xiàn)得非常優(yōu)越、人生成功而圓滿，但觀眾們就會感到無語。千萬別這樣。

3.減少下半身的移動

就那些毫無經(jīng)驗(yàn)的演講者而言，肢體表現(xiàn)是演講中最難的一部分，不過人們卻會太容易高估它的作用。用對措辭、說好故事、以及演講的內(nèi)容要比你站姿如何、看起來是否緊張更大程度地決定演講能否成功。對臺風(fēng)而言，一定程度上的訓(xùn)練就有很大幫助。

我們在早期排練時(shí)候發(fā)現(xiàn)的最常見的錯(cuò)誤，是人們會過于頻繁地移動身體。他們會晃來晃去，或者把重心在兩腿間不停移動。如此容易分散觀眾的注意力。其實(shí)，只要減少下半身的移動就可大大提高臺風(fēng)。4.把握眼神交流

在臺上最關(guān)鍵的肢體語言或許應(yīng)該是眼神交流。在觀眾席里找五六位看起來順眼的，演講時(shí)用眼神和她們交流，把他們當(dāng)成你很久沒見的老朋友，想象你正把他們帶進(jìn)你的工作中來。這樣的眼神交流相當(dāng)有效，它比其他任何方法都要對你的演講有幫助。即使你沒有充足的時(shí)間做好準(zhǔn)備，必須得照著稿子讀，那么抬起頭做一些眼神上的交流會讓一切變得不同。5.如何面對緊張

對無經(jīng)驗(yàn)的演講者而言，另一個(gè)大挑戰(zhàn)就是緊張，不同人應(yīng)對緊張有不同的處理方法。很多講者在演講前會呆在觀眾席中，這方法很有效，因?yàn)槁犌懊娴难葜v者演講可以轉(zhuǎn)移注意力并減少緊張。

我認(rèn)為最簡單且實(shí)用的方法就是上臺前做一下深呼吸。真心有效。

就算不能完全克服緊張，也沒關(guān)系，觀眾們其實(shí)也預(yù)料得到你會緊張。緊張能使你表現(xiàn)得更好：它給予你表現(xiàn)的力量，并保持你思維敏捷。穩(wěn)住呼吸，一切都沒問題的！

甚至，承認(rèn)緊張也可以帶來魅力。大膽展示出你的脆弱，無論是緊張亦或是你的語音語調(diào)，只要是實(shí)在的，都是贏得觀眾傾心的有力武器。在2012年TED大會上演講的蘇珊·凱恩就特怕做演講。你可以感覺到她在臺上時(shí)的脆弱，這種感受讓觀眾都為她加油—所有人在結(jié)束后都想擁抱她。努力使她美麗，也使她的演講成為當(dāng)年最受歡迎的一個(gè)。

6.恰當(dāng)采用多媒體技術(shù)

現(xiàn)在為我們所用的多媒體技術(shù)數(shù)不勝數(shù)，所以覺得怎么也得用幻燈片吧，什么都不用都覺得對有點(diǎn)不起觀眾。現(xiàn)在大多數(shù)人都知道PPT的訣竅：保持簡潔；不要把幻燈片做成演講稿（就好比列出你所要講的每一點(diǎn)—這些最好寫在你手中的小卡片里）；不要把幻燈片上的內(nèi)容原封不動地大聲念出來。

許多頂尖的TED演講者不用幻燈片，而且很多演講內(nèi)容也不需要它。如果你要用到視頻，那么，把它剪輯得足夠短—如果長于1分鐘，你就有可能失去觀眾了。還有，任何帶配樂的視頻都可能會讓人倒胃口。而且無論如何，別放你自己被電視臺采訪的視頻。我曾看過有演講者這么做，而且真不怎么樣—沒人會想要了解你的自大。觀眾已經(jīng)在你面前聽你現(xiàn)場演講了，為什么還要同時(shí)讓他們到看你出現(xiàn)在新聞采訪的特寫鏡頭中呢？

第三篇：8-secrets-of-success 成功的八個(gè)秘訣Ted演講臺詞

Eight secrets of success

Richard St.John

This is really a two-hour presentation I give to high school students, cut down to three minutes.And it all started one day on a plane, on my way to TED, seven years ago.And in the seat next to me was a high school student, a teenager, and she came from a really poor family.And she wanted to make something of her life, and she asked me a simple little question.She said, “What leads to success?” And I felt really badly, because I couldn't give her a good answer.So I get off the plane, and I come to TED.And I think, jeez, I'm in the middle of a room of successful people!So why don't I ask them what helped them succeed, and pass it on to kids? So here we are, seven years, 500 interviews later, and I'm gonna tell you what really leads to success and makes TED-sters tick.【And the first thing is passion.】

Freeman Thomas says, “I'm driven by my passion.” TED-sters do it for love;they don't do it for money.Carol Coletta says, “I would pay someone to do what I do.” And the interesting thing is: if you do it for love, the money comes anyway.【W(wǎng)ork!】

Rupert Murdoch said to me, “It's all hard work.Nothing comes easily.But I have a lot of fun.” Did he say fun? Rupert? Yes!TED-sters do have fun working.And they work hard.I figured, they're not workaholics.They're workafrolics.【Good!】

Alex Garden says, ”To be successful put your nose down in something and get damn good at it.“ There's no magic;it's practice, practice, practice.【And it's focus.】

Norman Jewison said to me, ”I think it all has to do with focusing yourself on one thing.“

【And push!】

David Gallo says, ”Push yourself.Physically, mentally, you've gotta push, push, push.“ You gotta push through shyness and self-doubt.Goldie Hawn says, ”I always had self-doubts.I wasn't good enough;I wasn't smart enough.I didn't think I'd make it.“ Now it's not always easy to push yourself, and that's why they invented mothers.（Laughter）Frank Gehry — Frank Gehry said to me, ”My mother pushed me.“

【Serve!】

Sherwin Nuland says, ”It was a privilege to serve as a doctor.“ Now a lot of kids tell me they want to be millionaires.And the first thing I say to them is: ”O(jiān)K, well you can't serve yourself;

【Ideas!】

TED-ster Bill Gates says, ”I had an idea: founding the first micro-computer software company.“ I'd say it was a pretty good idea.And there's no magic to creativity in coming up with ideas — it's just doing some very simple things.And I give lots of evidence.【Persist!】

Joe Kraus says, ”Persistence is the number one reason for our success.“ You gotta persist through failure.You gotta persist through crap!Which of course means ”Criticism, Rejection, Assholes and Pressure.“（Laughter）So, the big — the answer to this question is simple: Pay 4,000 bucks and come to TED.Or failing that, do the eight things — and trust me, these are the big eight things that lead to success.Thank you TED-sters for all your interviews!

第四篇：TED演講：美妙生活的三個(gè)秘訣

美妙生活的三個(gè)秘訣

So the Awesome story: It begins about 40 years ago, when my mom and my dad came toCanada.My mom left Nairobi, Kenya.My dad left a small village outside of Amritsar, India.And theygot here in the late 1960s.They settled in a shady suburb about an hour east of Toronto, andthey settled into a new life.They saw their first dentist, they ate their first hamburger, and theyhad their first kids.My sister and I grew up here, and we had quiet, happy childhoods.We hadclose family, good friends, a quiet street.We grew up taking for granted a lot of the things that myparents couldn't take for granted when they grew up--things like power always on in our houses,things like schools across the street and hospitals down the road and popsicles in the backyard.We grew up, and we grew older.I went to high school.I graduated.I moved out of the house, Igot a job, I found a girl, I settled down--and I realize it sounds like a bad sitcom or a Cat Stevens'song--(Laughter)but life was pretty good.Life was pretty good.2006 was a great year.Under clear blue skies in Julyin the wine region of Ontario, I got married, surrounded by 150 family and friends.2007 was agreat year.I graduated from school, and I went on a road trip with two of my closest friends.Here's a picture of me and my friend, Chris, on the coast of the Pacific Ocean.We actually sawseals out of our car window, and we pulled over to take a quick picture of them and then blockedthem with our giant heads.(Laughter)So you can't actually see them, but it was breathtaking,believe me.(Laughter)2008 and 2009 were a little tougher.I know that they were tougher for a lot of people, not justme.First of all, the news was so heavy.It's still heavy now, and it was heavy before that, but whenyou flipped open a newspaper, when you turned on the TV, it was about ice caps melting, warsgoing on around the world, earthquakes, hurricanes and an economy that was wobbling on thebrink of collapse, and then eventually did collapse, and so many of us losing our homes, or ourjobs, or our retirements, or our livelihoods.2008, 2009 were heavy years for me for anotherreason, too.I was going through a lot of personal problems at the time.My marriage wasn't goingwell, and we just were growing further and further apart.One day my wife came home from workand summoned the courage, through a lot of tears, to have a very honest conversation.And shesaid, “I don't love you anymore,” and it was one of the most painful things I'd ever heard andcertainly the most heartbreaking thing I'd ever heard, until only a month later, when I heardsomething even more heartbreaking.My friend Chris, who I just showed you a picture of, had been battling mental illness for some time.And for those of you whose lives have been touched by mental illness, you know how challengingit can be.I spoke to him on the phone at 10:30 p.m.on a Sunday night.We talked about the TVshow we watched that evening.And Monday morning, I found out that he disappeared.Verysadly, he took his own life.And it was a really heavy time.And as these dark clouds were circling me, and I was finding it really, really difficult to think ofanything good, I said to myself that I really needed a way to focus on the positive somehow.So Icame home from work one night, and I logged onto the computer, and I started up a tiny websitecalled 1000awesomethings.com.I was trying to remind myself of the simple, universal, littlepleasures that we all love, but we just don't talk about enough--things like waiters and waitresseswho bring you free refills without asking, being the first table to get called up to the dinner buffet ata wedding, wearing warm underwear from just out of the dryer, or when cashiers open up a newcheck-out lane at the grocery store and you get to be first in line--even if you were last at theother line, swoop right in there.(Laughter)And slowly over time, I started putting myself in a better mood.I mean, 50,000 blogs are started aday, and so my blog was just one of those 50,000.And nobody read it except for my mom.Although I should say that my traffic did skyrocket and go up by 100 percent when she forwardedit to my dad.(Laughter)And then I got excited when it started getting tens of hits, and then Istarted getting excited when it started getting dozens and then hundreds and then thousands andthen millions.It started getting bigger and bigger and bigger.And then I got a phone call, and thevoice at the other end of the line said, “You've just won the Best Blog In the World award.” I waslike, that sounds totally fake.(Laughter)(Applause)Which African country do you want me to wireall my money to?(Laughter)But it turns out, I jumped on a plane, and I ended up walking a redcarpet between Sarah Silverman and Jimmy Fallon and Martha Stewart.And I went onstage toaccept a Webby award for Best Blog.And the surprise and just the amazement of that was onlyovershadowed by my return to Toronto, when, in my inbox, 10 literary agents were waiting forme to talk about putting this into a book.Flash-forward to the next year and “The Book ofAwesome” has now been number one on the bestseller list for 20 straight weeks.(Applause)But look, I said I wanted to do three things with you today.I said I wanted to tell you theAwesome story, I wanted to share with you the three As of Awesome, and I wanted to leave youwith a closing thought.So let's talk about those three As.Over the last few years, I haven't hadthat much time to really think.But lately I have had the opportunity to take a step back and askmyself: “What is it over the last few years that helped me grow my website, but also growmyself?” And I've summarized those things, for me personally, as three As.They are Attitude,Awareness and Authenticity.I'd love to just talk about each one briefly.So Attitude: Look, we're all going to get lumps, and we're all going to get bumps.None of us canpredict the future, but we do know one thing about it and that's that it ain't gonna go accordingto plan.We will all have high highs and big days and proud moments of smiles on graduationstages, father-daughter dances at weddings and healthy babies screeching in the delivery room,but between those high highs, we may also have some lumps and some bumps too.It's sad, andit's not pleasant to talk about, but your husband might leave you, your girlfriend could cheat, yourheadaches might be more serious than you thought, or your dog could get hit by a car on thestreet.It's not a happy thought, but your kids could get mixed up in gangs or bad scenes.Yourmom could get cancer, your dad could get mean.And there are times in life when you will betossed in the well, too, with twists in your stomach and with holes in your heart, and when thatbad news washes over you, and when that pain sponges and soaks in, I just really hope you feellike you've always got two choices.One, you can swirl and twirl and gloom and doom forever, ortwo, you can grieve and then face the future with newly sober eyes.Having a great attitude isabout choosing option number two, and choosing, no matter how difficult it is, no matter whatpain hits you, choosing to move forward and move on and take baby steps into the future.The second “A” is Awareness.I love hanging out with three year-olds.I love the way that they seethe world, because they're seeing the world for the first time.I love the way that they can stare ata bug crossing the sidewalk.I love the way that they'll stare slack-jawed at their first baseball gamewith wide eyes and a mitt on their hand, soaking in the crack of the bat and the crunch of thepeanuts and the smell of the hotdogs.I love the way that they'll spend hours picking dandelions inthe backyard and putting them into a nice centerpiece for Thanksgiving dinner.I love the way thatthey see the world, because they're seeing the world for the first time.Having a sense ofawareness is just about embracing your inner three year-old.Because you all used to be threeyears old.That three-year-old boy is still part of you.That three-year-old girl is still part of you.They're in there.And being aware is just about remembering that you saw everything you've seenfor the first time once, too.So there was a time when it was your first time ever hitting a string ofgreen lights on the way home from work.There was the first time you walked by the open door ofa bakery and smelt the bakery air, or the first time you pulled a 20-dollar bill out of your old jacketpocket and said, “Found money.” The last “A” is Authenticity.And for this one, I want to tell you a quick story.Let's go all the wayback to 1932 when, on a peanut farm in Georgia, a little baby boy named Roosevelt Grier wasborn.Roosevelt Grier, or Rosey Grier, as people used to call him, grew up and grew into a 300-pound, six-foot-five linebacker in the NFL.He's number 76 in the picture.Here he is pictured withthe “fearsome foursome.” These were four guys on the L.A.Rams in the 1960s you did not wantto go up against.They were tough football players doing what they love, which was crushing skullsand separating shoulders on the football field.But Rosey Grier also had another passion.In hisdeeply authentic self, he also loved needlepoint.(Laughter)He loved knitting.He said that it calmedhim down, it relaxed him, it took away his fear of flying and helped him meet chicks.That's what hesaid.I mean, he loved it so much that, after he retired from the NFL, he started joining clubs.Andhe even put out a book called “Rosey Grier's Needlepoint for Men.”

(Laughter)(Applause)It's agreat cover.If you notice, he's actually needlepointing his own face.(Laughter)And so what I love about this story is that Rosey Grier is just such an authentic person, and that'swhat authenticity is all about.It's just about being you and being cool with that.And I think whenyou're authentic, you end up following your heart, and you put yourself in places and situationsand in conversations that you love and that you enjoy.You meet people that you like talking to.You go places you've dreamt about.And you end you end up following your heart and feelingvery fulfilled.So those are the three A's.For the closing thought, I want to take you all the way back to my parents coming to Canada.Idon't know what it would feel like coming to a new country when you're in your mid-20s.I don'tknow, because I never did it, but I would imagine that it would take a great attitude.I wouldimagine that you'd have to be pretty aware of your surroundings and appreciating the smallwonders that you're starting to see in your new world.And I think you'd have to be reallyauthentic, you'd have to be really true to yourself in order to get through what you're beingexposed to.I'd like to pause my TEDTalk for about 10 seconds right now, because you don't get manyopportunities in life to do something like this, and my parents are sitting in the front row.So Iwanted to ask them to, if they don't mind, stand up.And I just wanted to say thank you to youguys.(Applause)When I was growing up, my dad used to love telling the story of his first day in Canada.And it's agreat story, because what happened was he got off the plane at the Toronto airport, and he waswelcomed by a non-profit group, which I'm sure someone in this room runs.(Laughter)And thisnon-profit group had a big welcoming lunch for all the new immigrants to Canada.And my dadsays he got off the plane and he went to this lunch and there was this huge spread.There wasbread, there was those little, mini dill pickles, there was olives, those little white onions.There wasrolled up turkey cold cuts, rolled up ham cold cuts, rolled up roast beef cold cuts and little cubes ofcheese.There was tuna salad sandwiches and egg salad sandwiches and salmon salad sandwiches.There was lasagna, there was casseroles, there was brownies, there was butter tarts, and there waspies, lots and lots of pies.And when my dad tells the story, he says, “The craziest thing was, I'dnever seen any of that before, except bread.(Laughter)I didn't know what was meat, what wasvegetarian.I was eating olives with pie.(Laughter)I just couldn't believe how many things you canget here.”(Laughter)When I was five years old, my dad used to take me grocery shopping, and he would stare inwonder at the little stickers that are on the fruits and vegetables.He would say, “Look, can youbelieve they have a mango here from Mexico? They've got an apple here from South Africa.Canyou believe they've got a date from Morocco?” He's like, “Do you know where Morocco even is?”And I'd say, “I'm five.I don't even know where I am.Is this A&P?” And he'd say, “I don't knowwhere Morocco is either, but let's find out.” And so we'd buy the date, and we'd go home.Andwe'd actually take an atlas off the shelf, and we'd flip through until we found this mysteriouscountry.And when we did, my dad would say, “Can you believe someone climbed a tree overthere, picked this thing off it, put it in a truck, drove it all the way to the docks and then sailed it allthe way across the Atlantic Ocean and then put it in another truck and drove that all the way to atiny grocery store just outside our house, so they could sell it to us for 25 cents?” And I'd say, “Idon't believe that.” And he's like, “I don't believe it either.Things are amazing.There's just so manythings to be happy about.” When I stop to think about it, he's absolutely right.There are so many things to be happy about.We are the only species on the only life-giving rock in the entire universe that we've ever seen,capable of experiencing so many of these things.I mean, we're the only ones with architectureand agriculture.We're the only ones with jewelry and democracy.We've got airplanes, highwaylanes, interior design and horoscope signs.We've got fashion magazines, house party scenes.Youcan watch a horror movie with monsters.You can go to a concert and hear guitars jamming.We've got books, buffets and radio waves, wedding brides and rollercoaster rides.You can sleep inclean sheets.You can go to the movies and get good seats.You can smell bakery air, walk aroundwith rain hair, pop bubble wrap or take an illegal nap.We've got all that, but we've only got 100 years to enjoy it.And that's the sad part.The cashiersat your grocery store, the foreman at your plant, the guy tailgating you home on the highway,the telemarketer calling you during dinner, every teacher you've ever had, everyone that's everwoken up beside you, every politician in every country, every actor in every movie, every singleperson in your family, everyone you love, everyone in this room and you will be dead in a hundredyears.Life is so great that we only get such a short time to experience and enjoy all those tiny littlemoments that make it so sweet.And that moment is right now, and those moments are countingdown, and those moments are always, always, always fleeting.You will never be as young as you are right now.And that's why I believe that if you live your lifewith a great attitude, choosing to move forward and move on whenever life deals you a blow,living with a sense of awareness of the world around you, embracing your inner three year-old andseeing the tiny joys that make life so sweet and being authentic to yourself, being you and beingcool with that, letting your heart lead you and putting yourself in experiences that satisfy you,then I think you'll live a life that is rich and is satisfying, and I think you'll live a life that is trulyawesome.Thank you.中文翻譯：

這個(gè)美好的故事 開始于四十年前，我的父母來到加拿大。我母親離開了肯尼亞內(nèi)羅畢。我父親離開了印度阿姆利則市外的一個(gè)小村莊。他們二十世紀(jì)60年代來到這里。他們在多倫多以東不遠(yuǎn)一個(gè)幽靜的郊區(qū)住了下來。他們開始了一段新生活。他們第一次看了牙醫(yī)，第一次吃到漢堡包，第一次有了自己的兒女。我和我妹妹 在這里長大，我們的童年恬靜而美滿。我們的家庭很融洽，有許多好友，生活的街區(qū)很安靜。我們在成長的過程中 忽略了許多我們父母年輕時(shí) 無法忽視的事情－ 譬如，我們家的電 從來沒斷過，學(xué)校就在街對面，街的盡頭就是醫(yī)院，在家后院就能買到冰棒。我們慢慢長大了，我上了高中，畢了業(yè)，離開了家，找到一份工作，遇到了心儀的女孩，成家立業(yè)－ 我感覺這就像是一部拙劣的幽默劇或凱特·斯蒂文斯的歌（英國歌手，后皈依伊斯蘭教）。（眾人笑）

但還是生活非常美滿的。非常美滿。2006年意義不同尋常。在安大略葡萄酒產(chǎn)區(qū)的晴空之下，我結(jié)婚了，150多位親友到場慶賀。2007年也不平凡。我從大學(xué)畢業(yè)了，我和兩位最親密的朋友結(jié)伴旅行。這是我和朋友克里斯，我們站在太平洋海岸邊上。我們從車窗里看到了海豹，于是停下車跟它們合影，結(jié)果，我們倆的大頭把它們都擋住了。（眾人笑）所以你們都看不到它們，當(dāng)時(shí)我們都激動萬分，說實(shí)話。（眾人笑）

2008年和2009年，生活開始不太如意了。我知道，并不是只有我的生活不如意，有些人的境遇更糟。首先，新聞報(bào)道讓人憂心忡忡?，F(xiàn)在的情況也是如此，每當(dāng)你翻開報(bào)紙，打開電視，你會看到冰蓋在消融，世界各地戰(zhàn)爭不斷，地震，颶風(fēng)，某國的經(jīng)濟(jì)正處在崩潰的邊緣，后來真的崩潰了，我們中許多人失去了家園，失去了工作，無法安享晚年，失去了生計(jì)。2008，2009年我過得不順利還有另一個(gè)原因。當(dāng)時(shí)，我遇到了不少個(gè)人的問題。我的婚姻出現(xiàn)了危機(jī)，我和妻子之間越來越疏遠(yuǎn)。一天我妻子下班回到家，鼓起了勇氣，淚流滿面，和我開誠布公地進(jìn)行了談話。她說：“我已經(jīng)不愛你了?！?那是我經(jīng)歷過的最痛苦的事，也是我聽到過的最令人心碎的話。在這之后，僅過了一個(gè)月，我又得知了一個(gè)更令我痛心的消息。

我的至友克里斯，就是剛才照片上的那位，他患了精神上的疾病，苦苦掙扎了一段時(shí)間。在場若有人 曾經(jīng)患過精神方面的疾病，你就能體會其中的痛苦。我在周日晚十點(diǎn)半 跟他通了電話，談?wù)摿艘幌履翘焱砩峡吹碾娨暪?jié)目，而就在第二天早上，我發(fā)現(xiàn)他失蹤了。非常不幸的是，他結(jié)束了自己的生命。那段時(shí)間是如此難熬。我的頭頂愁云密布，我竭盡全力 也無法振作起來。我告訴自己，我真的需要 讓自己把注意力轉(zhuǎn)移到積極面上。一天晚上，我下班回到家，打開電腦，我建立了一個(gè)小網(wǎng)站，將其命名為1000awesomethings.com(1000個(gè)美妙時(shí)刻)。我想要提醒自己，生活中有許多人人都喜愛的，簡單而隨處可見的小快樂，我們只是很少談起這些快樂－ 譬如，那些主動為你免費(fèi)續(xù)杯的 餐館服務(wù)員們，在一個(gè)婚禮上，你坐的那一桌 可以首先去選餐，穿上剛從烘干機(jī)里拿出來、還熱乎的內(nèi)衣，或者你在超市正好碰上剛上工的收銀員開了一條新的付款通道，你現(xiàn)在排第一了--本來你排在最后一個(gè)，現(xiàn)在馬上沖過去。（眾人笑）

慢慢地，我的心情開始好轉(zhuǎn)。你看，每天新增的博客 有五萬個(gè)。我的博客就是這五萬分之一。除了我母親，沒人讀它。當(dāng)然了，我母親把博客地址轉(zhuǎn)發(fā)給我父親以后 我的點(diǎn)擊量 翻了一翻。（眾人笑）當(dāng)點(diǎn)擊量到了幾十次，我開始興奮了。當(dāng)點(diǎn)擊量超過了五十次 又到了幾百次，接著到幾千次，一直到了幾百萬次。數(shù)字一直在增大。最后我接到了一個(gè)電話，電話那頭的聲音告訴我： “您剛剛獲得了最佳博客獎。” 我當(dāng)時(shí)覺得這聽起來太假了。（眾人笑）（眾人鼓掌）你想讓我把所有存款轉(zhuǎn)到哪個(gè)非洲國家的賬戶上??？（眾人笑）結(jié)果，我跳上了飛機(jī)，走上了紅地毯，莎拉·斯?fàn)柛Ｂ?，吉米·法倫和瑪?·斯圖爾特（美國名人）相伴左右。我走上頒獎臺，接受了Webby威比獎的最佳博客獎。那份驚喜 那種喜悅 直到我回到多倫多 查看郵件時(shí)才有所收斂，十位文稿代理人給我發(fā)郵件，等著跟我商討把博文整理成書的事情。一轉(zhuǎn)眼到了下一年，《美妙之書》 現(xiàn)已連續(xù)二十周成為最暢銷書了。（眾人鼓掌）

但是，今天我想告訴大家三件事。我想給你們講這個(gè)美妙的故事，跟你們分享三個(gè)A打頭的開心秘訣，最后給大家來個(gè)總結(jié)。先來談?wù)勥@三個(gè)A吧。過去的幾年里，我沒有太多時(shí)間實(shí)實(shí)在在地去思考。而最近，我有機(jī)會坐下來 問我自己：在過去幾年里 究竟是什么幫助我經(jīng)營我的網(wǎng)站，并讓自己更成熟？ 我總結(jié)了其中的原因，對于我個(gè)人而言，那就是這三個(gè)A。它們是態(tài)度（attitude），知覺（awareness），和本真（authenticity）。我想簡短地逐個(gè)介紹一下。態(tài)度（attitude）： 我們每個(gè)人總有不順利的時(shí)候，也都栽過跟頭，沒有人能預(yù)測未來，但是有一件事是肯定的，那就是“天有不測風(fēng)云”。我們都快樂過，精彩過，得意過，在畢業(yè)典禮上燦爛一笑，在婚禮上父女共舞的時(shí)刻，以及健康的寶貝嬰兒在產(chǎn)房里大聲啼哭，然而，在這些快樂的時(shí)刻之間，難免穿插著一些令人不快的插曲。這些事情很傷感，令人不愿啟齒，但是，你的丈夫可能會離你而去，你的女友可能會背叛你，你的頭疼可能比想象中嚴(yán)重，你的狗可能會在大街上被車撞死。這些想法很掃興，你的孩子有可能會加入幫派，或者做壞事。你的母親肯能會患上癌癥，你的父親可能很暴力。在你的生活中總有那么幾次，你會覺得自己陷入了絕境，萬念俱灰，心如刀絞。當(dāng)讓那噩耗給你當(dāng)頭一棒，那痛苦蔓延全身，我真心希望 你能意識到你有兩種選擇。一是，你可以破罐破摔，自怨自艾，永遠(yuǎn)消沉下去，第二，你可以傷心，然后重新振作，直面未來。保持正確的態(tài)度就要選擇第二項(xiàng)，不管這個(gè)選擇多么困難，不管你心里承受了多少痛苦，你都要選擇向前看，繼續(xù)生活，一小步一小步地向未來邁進(jìn)。

第二個(gè)A是知覺(awareness)。我喜歡和三歲的孩子玩。我很欣賞他們眼中的世界，在他們眼中的是一片嶄新的世界。我喜歡他們看著一只小蟲爬上人行道時(shí)專注的表情。喜歡他們第一次看棒球比賽時(shí) 如癡如醉盯著球場的神態(tài)，眼睛睜得大大的，手上還帶著個(gè)棒球手套，在棒球的擊打聲，花生的嘎崩作響，以及熱狗的香味中，自得其樂。我喜歡看他們在后院里采蒲公英，一采就是幾個(gè)小時(shí)，然后把蒲公英做成感恩節(jié)晚餐餐桌上的 中心裝飾。我欣賞他們眼中的世界，因?yàn)樵谒麄冄劾?，世界是嶄新的。擁有知覺 就是擁抱內(nèi)心中三歲的你。因?yàn)槟銈兌荚侨龤q的孩子，那個(gè)三歲的小男孩，依然在你心里。那個(gè)三歲的小女孩，依然在你心里。他們在你的心里。去感知就是去記住 你眼中的世界 也曾是嶄新的。你也曾經(jīng)第一次 下班后，走運(yùn)碰到一路綠燈。你也曾經(jīng)第一次經(jīng)過敞開門的面包店，聞到里面飄出來的香味兒，你也曾經(jīng)從舊外套口袋里掏出一張20元紙幣，說：“有錢啦?！?/p>

最后一個(gè)A是本真（authenticity）。對于本真，我有一個(gè)小故事跟大家講。故事要追溯到1932年，在佐治亞州的一片花生田上，一個(gè)名叫羅斯福·格里爾的男孩降生了。羅斯?！じ窭餇?，人稱羅西·格里爾，長大成人后 成為了身高一米九六，體重一百三十六公斤的美國橄欖球聯(lián)盟中后衛(wèi)。這張照片上的76號就是他。他們四人就是著名的“所向披靡的四猛將”。他們在二十世紀(jì)六十年代效力于洛杉磯公羊隊(duì)，這支球隊(duì)令人聞風(fēng)喪膽。這些彪悍的球員熱衷于在球場上 撞擊對手的腦袋，讓對手肩膀脫臼。然而這樣的羅西·格里爾 卻有著另一個(gè)嗜好。在他的內(nèi)心深處，他熱愛刺繡。熱愛針織。這刺繡能讓他冷靜，放松，讓他忘記坐飛機(jī)時(shí)的恐懼還能幫他泡妞。這可是他說的。他太喜歡刺繡了，從聯(lián)盟退役以后，他開始參加針織俱樂部。他還出了一本書，書名叫作《羅西·格里爾男式刺繡》（眾人笑）（鼓掌）這封面非常棒。仔細(xì)看你會發(fā)現(xiàn)，他繡的是自己的臉。（眾人笑）

我很喜歡這個(gè)故事 是因?yàn)榱_西·格里爾 是個(gè)敢于流露真性情的人。這就是本真的意義所在。心安理得地做最真實(shí)的自己。我想，當(dāng)你真實(shí)地做自己，你就會順著自己的心意，不論在什么場合，與誰對話 你都會享受其中滋味。你會遇見跟自己合得來的人。你會去到自己做夢都想去的地方。你順著自己的心意，最后感覺非常滿足。這就是三個(gè)A。

最后的總結(jié)，我想帶你們 回顧我父母來到加拿大的那段時(shí)光。我不知道那是種什么樣的感覺，二十五六歲的光景，初來乍到一個(gè)陌生的國度。我不知道，因?yàn)槲覐奈唇?jīng)歷過。但我能想象，那肯定要求你有個(gè)很好的生活態(tài)度。我可以想象，在這個(gè)嶄新的世界里，你必須感知周圍的事物，欣賞那些給你驚喜的新鮮事物。我想你必須展現(xiàn)自己的本色，做真實(shí)的自己，才能應(yīng)對新的生活。

我想把我的TED演講 暫停10秒鐘，因?yàn)槿诉@一輩子沒幾次這樣的機(jī)會了，我的父母就坐在第一排。如果他們不介意，我想請他們起立。我想向你們兩位表示感謝。（眾人鼓掌）

我小時(shí)候，我父親很喜歡跟我講 他第一天來到加拿大的故事。這個(gè)故事很有意思，因?yàn)?他剛從多倫多機(jī)場下了飛機(jī)，迎接他的是一個(gè)非營利性組織，我敢肯定在座的某位就是這個(gè)組織的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)。（眾人笑）這個(gè)組織為所有加拿大新移民 備了歡迎午宴。我父親說，他下了飛機(jī)，參加了這個(gè)午宴，那里長長的餐桌上擺滿了美食。有面包，切碎的醬黃瓜，橄欖，白洋蔥，冷切火雞肉卷，冷切火腿卷，冷切牛肉卷，奶酪塊，金槍魚沙拉三明治，雞蛋沙拉三明治，三文魚沙拉三明治，肉醬燉面，砂鍋什錦，布朗尼蛋糕，奶油蛋撻，還有很多餡餅，各種口味都有。我父親講起這個(gè)故事的時(shí)候，他總說： “最有意思的是，那些食物我從來沒有見過，除了面包?！保ū娙诵Γ拔也恢朗裁词侨?，什么是素食主義者； 我就著橄欖吃餡餅?！保ū娙诵Γ拔艺娌桓蚁嘈旁谶@里你能得到這么多東西?！保ū娙诵Γ?/p>

我五歲的時(shí)候，我父親帶我去超市。他會驚奇地盯著 各種水果和蔬菜的標(biāo)簽。他會說：“瞧，你相信嗎，這個(gè)芒果是墨西哥來的。這個(gè)蘋果是從南非來的。你相信嗎，他們居然還有摩洛哥來的椰棗！” 他會問：“你知道摩洛哥在哪里嗎？” 我會說： “我才五歲，我連我現(xiàn)在在哪兒都不知道。這里是A&P市場嗎？” 他會說：“我也不知道摩洛哥在哪里，我們回去查查?！?于是，我們買下了椰棗，回到家里。我們打開書架上的地圖冊，翻遍整本書也要把這個(gè)神秘的國度找到。我們找到了，我父親會說： “你相信嗎，某個(gè)人在那里爬上一棵樹，摘下這個(gè)棗子，把它放到卡車上，一直送到碼頭，把它裝上船，接著它橫跨了大西洋，被裝到另一輛卡車上，人們把車一直開到我們家門外的這間小超市里。最后他們以25美分的價(jià)錢出售這個(gè)棗子?！?我會說：“我不信?！?他會說：“我也不相信。生活真是太奇妙了，充滿了令人驚喜的事情。”

我回過頭想想，父親是對的； 生活中充滿了令人驚喜的事。我們所知的 全宇宙唯一一個(gè) 擁有生命的大石頭上，我們是唯一有能力 體驗(yàn)這些事情的物種。只有我們?nèi)祟悾瑩碛薪ㄖI(yè)和農(nóng)業(yè)，財(cái)富和民主，飛機(jī)和高速公路，室內(nèi)設(shè)計(jì)和占星術(shù)，時(shí)尚雜志和狂歡會。你可以和怪獸一起看恐怖電影。你可以去聽演唱會，聽吉他即興演奏。我們還有書本，自助餐，廣播，新娘，還有過山車。你可以睡在干凈的床單上，可以去看電影并找到好位置，可以聞到烤面包的香味，可以冒雨散步，吹泡泡糖，或者偷偷打個(gè)盹兒。

我們都可以做到，但是，我們只有一百年的時(shí)間去享受生活。這挺令人傷感的。超市里的收銀員，工廠的領(lǐng)工，你回家時(shí)，高速公路上一直跟在你車后的人，晚飯時(shí)給你打電話的推銷員，教過你的每一位老師，在你枕邊醒來的每一個(gè)人，每個(gè)國家的每一位政治家，每部電影里的每一位演員，你家里的每一個(gè)成員，你所愛的每一個(gè)人，在座的每一個(gè)人，包括你自己，都會在百年以后離開人世。生命之所以偉大，是因?yàn)槲覀儍H有如此短暫的時(shí)間 去體味那些細(xì)小 而又美妙無比的時(shí)刻。那美妙的瞬間就是現(xiàn)在，那些時(shí)刻正在溜走，它們一直一直一直在飛逝。

你永遠(yuǎn)不會比現(xiàn)在的自己更年輕。因此，我相信，如果你擁有 良好的生活態(tài)度，無論生活如何打擊你 你都能抬起頭繼續(xù)前行，感知你周遭的世界，承認(rèn)內(nèi)心中三歲的自己 意識到讓生活美好的那些小小的快樂，做真實(shí)的自己，心安理得地做你自己，順從自己的心意，讓自己置身于能讓你快樂的事情中，最后，你的生活 將會變得充實(shí)而美滿，你的生活才真正變得美妙而精彩。謝謝大家。

第五篇：成功演講的四大秘訣

成功的演講是讓在座的聽眾能夠主動接受您的演講，并且讓他們心悅誠服。然而，不同的聽眾有其不同的觀點(diǎn)，怎樣在演講中充分的尊重聽眾的觀點(diǎn)，同時(shí)又能讓聽眾接受自己的觀點(diǎn)？下面讓我們看一下演講成功的四大秘訣。

一。先退后進(jìn)，變守為攻演講時(shí)，特別是當(dāng)你的演講觀點(diǎn)處于不利時(shí)，為了達(dá)到說服聽眾的目的，在演講時(shí)你不妨有意識地退一步，先肯定聽眾的觀點(diǎn)，在獲得聽眾信任的基礎(chǔ)上再尋找機(jī)會，通過擺事實(shí)、講道理等方法巧妙地提出你的演講觀點(diǎn)，變退為進(jìn)，化守為攻，從而最終說服聽眾。

在公元前44年，羅馬統(tǒng)帥裘利斯·凱撒被羅馬貴族刺殺，為首的是深受他信任的勃魯托斯。作為主謀勃魯托斯惡人還先告狀。在公共講壇上大談殺死凱撒的必要性，同時(shí)把自己說成是正人君子。民眾都被他所蠱惑。這時(shí)瑪克·安東尼卻用演講說服聽眾接受他的觀點(diǎn)的。

面對勃魯托斯蠱惑人心的演講，面對不明真相的市民，安東尼心里清楚，此時(shí)，他既不能馬上歌頌凱撒又不能立即攻擊勃魯托斯。于是，他說：“我是來埋藏凱撒，不是來贊美他?！比缓笏珠_始贊揚(yáng)勃魯托斯。這樣的演講無疑適合當(dāng)時(shí)的氣氛，不會引起聽眾的反感和反對。

接著他又說：

現(xiàn)在我得到勃魯托斯的允許，在凱撒的喪禮中說幾句話。他是我的朋友，他是那么忠誠公正；然而“正人君子”勃魯托斯卻說他是有野心的，他曾經(jīng)帶許多俘虜回到羅馬，他們的贖金充實(shí)了公家的財(cái)庫，這是野心者的行徑嗎？窮苦的人哀哭時(shí)，凱撒為他們流淚，野心者會這樣仁慈嗎？然而“正人君子”勃魯托斯卻說他是有野心的，盧柏克節(jié)的那天，我三次獻(xiàn)給他一頂王冠，他三次都拒絕了，這難道是有野心嗎？然而“正人君子”勃魯托斯卻說他是有野心的。

安東尼擺出一個(gè)一個(gè)的事實(shí)，謳歌凱撒的偉績，一層一層地剝?nèi)ゲ斖兴股砩系漠嬈ぃ趫龅氖忻駶u漸的被他的演講所打動，認(rèn)為凱撒死得冤枉。這時(shí)他走下講壇，叫在場的市民圍繞在凱撒的尸體四周，把劍刺的洞孔指給大家看，當(dāng)他指到勃魯托斯刺的傷口時(shí)，他說：

好一個(gè)心愛的勃魯托斯！這是無情的刺穿心臟的一劍！這一劍讓偉大的凱撒倒下了！殘酷的叛徒卻在我們頭上耀武揚(yáng)威……安東尼的話音剛落，講壇四周呼聲四起，這時(shí)安東尼宣讀凱撒的遺囑：

他給每一個(gè)羅馬市民七十五德拉馬克。他還把臺伯河這邊他的花圃和果園贈給你們，成為你們世襲的產(chǎn)業(yè)，供你們自由散步和游息之用。這樣一個(gè)凱撒，幾時(shí)才會有第二個(gè)呢？

市民們再也聽不下去了。他們在市場上奔跑，抓起凳子、桌子，堆成了一座火葬柴堆。他們把凱撒的尸體放在上面，在柴堆上點(diǎn)著了火。當(dāng)柴堆燒旺時(shí)，他們抽出燃燒著的木頭，向陰謀者的房子沖去。勃魯托斯等陰謀者倉皇逃出城外。

安東尼的演講徹底征服了與他意見相左的聽眾。他的成功，與他演講時(shí)運(yùn)用了先退后進(jìn)、變守為攻的技巧是分不開的。

二。有的放矢，迂回出擊當(dāng)你的演講有可能引起爭議時(shí)，找準(zhǔn)途徑是特別重要的。途徑不對頭，就可能引發(fā)聽者的敵對情緒，你的話還沒出口，你的演講就已立于失敗的境地。途徑選對了，你的演講才能充分的說服聽者。怎樣去掌握這門交際藝術(shù)呢？

首先，你應(yīng)當(dāng)分析你的聽眾。一般演講的聽眾可以粗略分為三類：與你持有相同觀點(diǎn)的；處在觀望中的；與你觀點(diǎn)相對的。同意你觀點(diǎn)的聽眾用不著你花力氣去說服；處在觀望中的聽眾可能被你條理清楚，令人信服的演講改變立場。你的演講面臨真正挑戰(zhàn)無疑來自最后一類聽眾，因此你必須找準(zhǔn)途徑，讓這部分人放棄自己的觀點(diǎn)，接受你的演講。

然而，改變一個(gè)人的觀點(diǎn)是相當(dāng)困難的工作。而每個(gè)人都有自己引以為傲的觀點(diǎn)，它們要么是經(jīng)過多年的學(xué)習(xí)與經(jīng)驗(yàn)積累形成的，要么是擁有根深蒂固的情感根基。同時(shí)，一些陳舊的觀念使得我們很難對許多問題保持客觀的看法，在別人眼中卻像是一些偏見。但是，只要是我們自己的觀點(diǎn)，我們就會認(rèn)為它們是完全合理的，我們對自己那些“珍貴”的觀點(diǎn)也從來不會看不順眼。如果你在演講時(shí)直截了當(dāng)?shù)毓粢粋€(gè)人“珍貴”的觀點(diǎn)，他的反應(yīng)只能是反感。他會對你的演講表示憤慨，不但不會放棄自己的觀點(diǎn)，反而會更加堅(jiān)守自己的立場。

由此看來，演講前你必須充分分析你的聽眾，依據(jù)實(shí)際情況選擇最佳途徑，把演講的重點(diǎn)放在那些處于觀望、尤其是與你意見相左的聽眾身上，做到有的放矢。同時(shí)，你還必須尊重聽眾自己已有的觀點(diǎn)，不能在演講時(shí)開門見山地迎頭痛擊。

三。權(quán)衡利弊，以理服人想要征服聽眾，演講者不能急于求成。要像瑪克·安東尼那樣，要耐心而謹(jǐn)慎地朝自己的目標(biāo)前進(jìn)。下面讓我們看看該怎樣恰當(dāng)運(yùn)用這一技巧。

假設(shè)，你要發(fā)表一個(gè)演講，號召建立一所學(xué)校。那些有小孩在上學(xué)的家長有望支持你，你最大的困難會來自那些沒有小孩在上學(xué)的納稅者。他們要么是沒有小孩；要么是小孩已長大成人；要么是已把小孩送往了私立學(xué)校。

要使沒有小孩上學(xué)的家長支持你，辦法之一是“劃分陣營”，即把同意建校的人當(dāng)成朋友，把不同意的當(dāng)成對手。然而在這條路上，到處是誤解和沖突，如果你也實(shí)行“劃分陣營”的方法，沖突定會發(fā)生。朋友可能會和朋友吵；各種組織也可能會相互指責(zé)。當(dāng)然，有小孩上學(xué)的父母有可能會投你一票，但是你卻不大可能得到其他人的支持。毫無疑問，這是一條死路。

現(xiàn)在，讓我們試另一條路，即權(quán)衡利弊，以理服人。我們可以通過分析建校的利與弊，對不同意建校的納稅者曉以利害，讓他們改變立場。當(dāng)你提出了建校主張，所有的投票者便會在心里掂量，在天平的一端是改善受教育的機(jī)會；在天平的另一端是納稅。對于我們來說，納稅本來就是件令人頭痛的事，因此我們不會太樂意把砝碼加在改善教育的一端。然而，我們每一個(gè)人都希望我們的后代能接受良好的教育。盡管不少人會把砝碼放在納稅的一頭，但是經(jīng)過比較絕大多數(shù)人還是會傾向改善教育機(jī)會。而我們真正的挑戰(zhàn)便是如何才能增加改善教育機(jī)會一端的重量。演講時(shí)，重點(diǎn)目標(biāo)應(yīng)放在那些不同意建校的人的身上，著重在演講時(shí)向他們闡明建校的緊迫性和必要性，逐漸引導(dǎo)他們支持你。

四。因勢利導(dǎo)，激發(fā)共鳴要使聽眾心服口服，你在演講時(shí)不可違背聽眾的意愿，采取逼迫，威脅的手段要聽眾接受你的演講。你應(yīng)當(dāng)牢記的是：當(dāng)你的觀點(diǎn)能夠引起聽眾共鳴時(shí)，你的演講才會被聽眾接受。

有一個(gè)身強(qiáng)體壯的男孩想將一頭牛趕往牲口棚。他用盡渾身力氣推它，用鞭子抽打它，大聲吆喝它，然而牛站在那兒就是不動。一位擠牛奶的女工見狀，走上前來。她把一根手指伸進(jìn)牛的嘴里，很馴服地將它牽到了牲口棚里。原來，她從牛的角度考慮問題，盡力讓自己的行為符合它的習(xí)性，對它產(chǎn)生強(qiáng)大的吸引力。掌握這一點(diǎn)，她想把牛牽到哪就能牽到哪。

這則故事告訴我們，演講時(shí)你應(yīng)當(dāng)設(shè)法使自己的觀點(diǎn)吸引聽眾，激發(fā)他去同意你。那么你的演講才會被聽眾接受。

那么，演講時(shí)該怎樣構(gòu)筑你自己的觀點(diǎn)吸引觀眾呢？——正如放進(jìn)?？谥械氖种敢粯?。聽眾接受你的演講，是因?yàn)樗X得你的演講對他有價(jià)值能引發(fā)共鳴，你的演講就能在聽眾中產(chǎn)生共鳴，并與他建立起一種融洽的關(guān)系。只有這樣，他才會樂意讓你“牽”著接受你的演講觀點(diǎn)。

以上我們討論了。事實(shí)上，只有當(dāng)你真正相信你自己的觀點(diǎn)時(shí)，你才能談得上在演講時(shí)真正去說服你的聽眾。除非，你的情感是真正誠摯的，你的演講引發(fā)了聽眾的共鳴，否則，你演講就不可能真正征服你的聽眾。