第一篇：3種類型的父母更容易養(yǎng)出不孝子

3種類型的父母更容易養(yǎng)出不孝子

父母不當(dāng)?shù)慕逃绞揭自诤⒆有闹新裣虏恍⒌幕鸱N。孩子潛意識(shí)里仇恨、埋怨父母，平時(shí)不會(huì)表現(xiàn)出來(lái)，只有受到某些事情的觸發(fā)后才會(huì)爆發(fā)出來(lái)。

除工作壓力之外，其與父母教育觀念上的差異、婆媳相處的瑣碎矛盾是他打罵父母的導(dǎo)火索。

專家說(shuō)，不孝子完全是父母培養(yǎng)出來(lái)的。特別是以下幾種類型的父母更容易養(yǎng)出不孝子： 父母不當(dāng)?shù)慕逃绞揭自诤⒆有闹新裣虏恍⒌幕鸱N

著名心理專家尹鄧安說(shuō)，父母不當(dāng)?shù)慕逃绞揭自诤⒆有闹新裣虏恍⒌幕鸱N。孩子潛意識(shí)里仇恨、埋怨父母，平時(shí)不會(huì)表現(xiàn)出來(lái)，只有受到某些事情的觸發(fā)后才會(huì)爆發(fā)出來(lái)。

尹鄧安說(shuō)，不孝子完全是父母培養(yǎng)出來(lái)的。特別是以下幾種類型的父母更容易養(yǎng)出不孝子： 經(jīng)常打罵孩子的父母

孩子挨了父母的打，心理會(huì)反感、仇恨父母，以后容易以暴易暴，主動(dòng)去打別人。特別是孩子在五六歲時(shí)被父母影響最深遠(yuǎn)。因?yàn)槲辶鶜q是個(gè)體心理成長(zhǎng)的關(guān)鍵期。

啰嗦的父母

“成功的孩子成功在媽媽的心里，失敗的孩子失敗在媽媽的嘴里?！备改傅膯氯菀资购⒆臃锤校J(rèn)為父母不值得尊重，進(jìn)一步就會(huì)頂撞父母。

包辦溺愛的父母

父母包辦溺愛，就是剝奪了孩子勞動(dòng)的機(jī)會(huì)、孝順的機(jī)會(huì)，讓孩子心理變得越來(lái)越冷漠。父母應(yīng)該學(xué)會(huì)“裝”

尹鄧安說(shuō)，父母如果能掌握一些心理學(xué)知識(shí)和技巧，可以培養(yǎng)孩子的孝順之心。培養(yǎng)孩子對(duì)弱者的憐憫之心

憐憫弱者與孝順父母其實(shí)是一回事。當(dāng)孩子長(zhǎng)大后，父母逐漸老去，也會(huì)成為一個(gè)弱者。對(duì)社會(huì)來(lái)說(shuō)，弱者是索取少、奉獻(xiàn)多的一群人，而對(duì)孩子來(lái)說(shuō)，父母也屬于索取少、奉獻(xiàn)多的人。所以，不尊重窮人的人往往不孝順父母。

尹鄧安說(shuō)，很多人喜歡在孩子面前吹噓自己官大、錢多、關(guān)系硬，這樣的人不僅絕對(duì)培養(yǎng)不出孝子，還會(huì)培養(yǎng)孩子的非道德行為。

培養(yǎng)孩子良好的道德體驗(yàn)感

如果你扶起一位摔倒的老人，送他去醫(yī)院，并受到了別人的稱贊，這時(shí)就會(huì)產(chǎn)生一種良好的道德體驗(yàn)感，今后還會(huì)不斷地做好事。培養(yǎng)孩子的孝順之心同樣如此。所以，父母平時(shí)要試著讓孩子為家里做點(diǎn)事，并及時(shí)稱贊孩子，這其實(shí)也是在培養(yǎng)孩子的感恩之心。

尹鄧安說(shuō)，父母應(yīng)該學(xué)會(huì)“武裝自己”，適當(dāng)裝病、裝窮。裝病是為了創(chuàng)造讓孩子為父母服務(wù)的機(jī)會(huì)，裝窮是為了創(chuàng)造讓孩子為家里做些事的機(jī)會(huì)，并體會(huì)父母培育自己的艱辛。

第二篇：英語(yǔ)演講：父母和孩子誰(shuí)更容易抑郁

父母和孩子誰(shuí)更容易抑郁

Today our topic is which of them----teenager or adult----would be easier to depression?in my opinion,there is no doubt that the adults are more suffering from depression---or we can say melancholia[?mel?n?k?ulj?].First,from the physiologic aspect:the age of our parents are most range from 40 to 50----a period we called climacterium[klai?m?kt?ri?m].in this period,the biological hormone of human goes wrong,.The main symptoms are metabolic disorder,wakefulness,easy to lose their temper,palpitate[?p?lp??te?t]

etc.All of this may probably result in a depression.Secondly,from the social aspect: our parents are faced with high pressure.I admit that students are stressful too.But our stress are almost only from two parts:the study and the maybe love.Someone will say we are faced with high pressure of finding a job.In fact,if you can't find a job immediately,you can stay at home for a buffer,at least you will not starve to death the day after your out of work.But the same problem comes to our parents,the answer maybe yes.They are the main support of a family which include one,two,or more children and old men who can't make money.They need to consider how to educate their children,how to take good care of the old's health,how to get along with colleague,how to get a promoting or a better salary,how to pay the house loan,and even how defend their marriage by beating a third.A survey on the internet shows that the group suffer from depression most is the white-collar group.They are faced with high pressure--maybe beyond our imagination.Besides,from our habitual way of thinking,adults have stronger psychology bearing capacity and psychological adjustment ability than teenagers.but just because of this,people often ignore adults' states of mind.If a teenager keeps blue for several days,his parents,teachers and friends are easy to find some unusual,the teenager who has a tendency to depression will get immediate comfort,exhort or even treatment.But if an adult keeps silence,people will think maybe he is just thinking about a difficult problem.Even themselves will not attach so much importance to their psychology.In Chinese traditional ideas,only lunatics [?lu:n?t?k ] need a psychologist.Conclusions As a result,adults are easier to depression than teenagers.We should pay more attention to our parents' psychology.