第一篇:心靈雞湯感悟語
人生在于堅(jiān)持
奇跡改變?nèi)松?/p>
改變?nèi)松鷱淖约鹤銎?/p>
人生都有開花的時(shí)間
人生之旅從選定目標(biāo)開始
人生也有歧路
人生是一曲交響樂
負(fù)重,才不會(huì)跌倒
幸福是一種選擇
幸福不需要列單子
給別人的幸福讓道
快樂是一種流動(dòng)的空氣
幸福像陽光一樣
幸福是一種感覺
幸福是靈魂的香味
心是花園
感激是唯一的態(tài)度
別太把自己當(dāng)回事
人生如水
做一朵花的知己
把怨恨留在身后
寬容是金
人生在于選擇
看中自己
意志激勵(lì)人身生
沒有比腳更長的路
穿透靈魂的微笑
除了你自己,沒人能打敗你
世界會(huì)你讓路
給人玫瑰,手留余香
一枚硬幣也能成功
絕望時(shí)再等一下
山不過來,我就過去
請把焦點(diǎn)對準(zhǔn)我欣賞是一種善良
以小博大的成功之道
退一步也是成功
給自己樹一面旗幟
愛在盛開
愛就是諒解
愛就要說出來
明天就在眼前
只要心中有愛
愛如花園
放下包裹趕路
世間萬物不可能十全十美。補(bǔ)丁無法避免,人的生命也一樣,會(huì)出現(xiàn)傷害、殘疾和疾病。既然你無法改變傷口的存在,就不要指望暴露傷口讓人同情,那沒有任何意義。你能做的和必須做的就是用補(bǔ)丁縫合傷口,盡力在傷口上開出最美麗的花朵,而這正是人生的意義。
其實(shí)釀蜜的過程就象是由青春到老年的過程。人生里的一點(diǎn)淚水可以使回憶變得更加甜美。
生活就是這樣:當(dāng)你處在人生的雨季時(shí)如果你無法盡快找到防止雨淋的方法,就要被雨水淋透,但如果你決定擺脫,你就會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn),雨季并不象你原來想的那樣長。一切都是那么簡單:沒有傘,就跑!跑出人生的雨季,你前面就會(huì)是一片晴朗的天空。
一夜間,人生的帳篷突然丟了,有人驚慌失措,有人認(rèn)為天踏地陷,有人以為大難將至。人們習(xí)慣了頭頂有帳篷的生活。其實(shí),真正的美好往往是在意外中發(fā)現(xiàn)的。有一頂帳篷,才有安全感,這是人們的慣常思維。人生的那頂““帳篷””,可能是財(cái)富、職業(yè)、固定的收入、社交或人際關(guān)系,在日常生活中被當(dāng)作庇護(hù),貌似重要無比,丟了才會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn),其實(shí)更美好的事物被他擋在外面。比如,丟了帳篷,卻擁有了滿天的星星。
悲劇往往就是這樣發(fā)生的:忠誠的人被誤解,被誤解的人不能堅(jiān)持到底。
你的才能是上帝賜給你的禮物。利用它是你給上帝的禮物。要永遠(yuǎn)追逐自己的夢想、決不放棄。她曾告訴我說:爭取摘到月亮,因?yàn)榧词鼓銐嬄?,也?huì)落在群星間。離開時(shí)不能給人留下更幸福、更美好的印象,千萬不要讓任何人到你身邊來。
當(dāng)你認(rèn)為自己最重要時(shí),請記住,你的天使總是在守護(hù)著你。帕帕德羅斯博士:“我是鏡子的一個(gè)碎片,我并不知道整個(gè)鏡子的圖案和形狀。不過,我盡力把光照射到世界上那些黑暗的地方,照射到人們心靈的黑暗處,讓一些人有所改變。說不定其他人看到,也會(huì)這樣做。這就是我的看法。這就是人生的意義?!?/p>
有人做一件事付出努力,就想看到結(jié)果。改變別人是事倍功半,改變自己則事半功倍。一個(gè)人最好捫心自問,為什么要求別人的多,要求自己的少。如果你盡最大可能去關(guān)心別人的利益,你的努力就會(huì)產(chǎn)生效果。如果你審視自己的內(nèi)心世界,檢查自我,打掃干凈其中的塵埃,而不是眼睛盯著別人,你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn),在自己愉快的同時(shí),也為別人創(chuàng)造了舒適的環(huán)境?!?/p>
生活并不總是以我們得到的答案為基礎(chǔ),而且也以我們提出的問題為基礎(chǔ)。憐憫與尊嚴(yán)使愛心得到了升華。
你就是那小小的一滴水。你的生命漲落反映了所有生命的漲落,當(dāng)你平靜下來,放慢速度,與周圍環(huán)境融為一體時(shí),就會(huì)認(rèn)識到大自然為你提供了對生命的相似理解。被稱為“我”的小小水滴是生命海洋的一個(gè)完整部分。當(dāng)你自己的精神和天地萬物的精神和在一起時(shí),你的力量才會(huì)最優(yōu)美地呈現(xiàn)出來。深呼吸,保持平靜,開始注意和欣賞你周圍世界的漲落??你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)宇宙的力量正是滋養(yǎng)你生命的力量。
新生活從選定方向開始。
給每棵草開花的時(shí)間,給每個(gè)人以證明價(jià)值的機(jī)會(huì),不要盲目的拔掉一棵草,不要草率的否定一個(gè)人,那我們將會(huì)得到多少人生的“臘蘭”??!
“我從來不記憶和思考詞典、手冊里的東西,我的腦袋只用來記憶和思考那些還沒載入書本的東西?!闭?yàn)榇?,愛因斯坦才在科學(xué)史冊上留下了深深的、閃光的足跡。
每個(gè)人都希望夢想成真,成功卻似乎遠(yuǎn)在天邊、遙不可及,怠慢和不自信讓我們懷疑自己的能力,放棄努力。其實(shí),我們不必想以后的事情,只要想著今天要做些什么,明天該做些什么,然后努力去完成成功的喜悅就會(huì)慢慢地滋潤我們的生命。
在生命的進(jìn)程中,我們不能不用“減法”。認(rèn)得生命只有一次,我們在歲末年初時(shí),不能不鞭策自己,算一算自己失去了什么,得到了什么,是“收獲”大于“支出”,還是“支出”大于“收獲”。在生命的進(jìn)程中,我們不能不用“加法”。因?yàn)槿松荒芗僭O(shè),我們知道了兒時(shí)的天真,知道了年輕時(shí)的莽撞,積累了人生經(jīng)驗(yàn),知道了如何把握自己?!皽p法”給我們帶來了壓力使我們明白了人生的苦短、歲月的無情?!凹臃ā苯o我們帶來了希望,使我們增添了閱歷,積累了財(cái)富。時(shí)光老人對每個(gè)人都是公平的,哪怕你歷盡坎坷,遭遇挫折,也都是一種經(jīng)歷的積累。這種積累使我們更加聰明、更加理智。有了這種積累,新的一年里,我們的步伐就會(huì)更矯健,更加沉穩(wěn),更加自信。
愛是生命中最好的養(yǎng)料,哪怕只是一勺清水,它都能使生命之樹茁壯成長。
我們的價(jià)值不在于我們做什么、知道是誰,而在于你是誰。你與眾不同——永遠(yuǎn)別忘記這一點(diǎn)。
交響樂是生命的象征,尤其是在團(tuán)隊(duì)中。每個(gè)人都是交響樂中重要的一部分。
那些得過且過、空耗時(shí)光的人,就象一個(gè)沒有乘水的空木桶,往往一場人生的風(fēng)雨便把他們徹底打翻了。
反夫總是為名利、空幻的東西而奔波、辛勞,而這一切都只在于一貪念,而貪念往往會(huì)蒙蔽我們辨別是非的能力。有的人認(rèn)為。人生很苦,要趕快找解脫的方法,因此轉(zhuǎn)而尋求宗教信仰;但是,如果信仰沒有正如、正見、正念,路就會(huì)走偏了。所以,我們應(yīng)該要選擇正確的人生方向,斷惡修善,體悟真理。世間的物質(zhì)不過如水中倒影般虛無,因此要長懷知足之心,對人生事物能善解、包容、感恩,凡是就能圓融,這樣就能天天過得心平氣和,擁有一個(gè)幸福的人生。
理解并接受真正的幸福和娛樂無關(guān),我們就能獲得最大限度的解放。它解放時(shí)間:現(xiàn)在我們可以把更多時(shí)間用于那些能真正增加我們幸福的活動(dòng)。它解放金錢:買那輛汽車或那些時(shí)尚衣服現(xiàn)在不會(huì)增加我們的幸福。而且它把我們從嫉妒中解放出來:我們現(xiàn)在理解了那些我們確信幸福、令人向往的富人,因?yàn)樗麄兤鋵?shí)根本不幸福。
娛樂不會(huì)帶來幸福,就會(huì)開始以不同的方式生活。其效果肯定會(huì)改變?nèi)松N覀兛偸嵌⒅纯?,而快樂常常是被我們忽略的那部分?/p>
心靜。這是上帝保留的禮物。他把才能和美麗賜予許多人。財(cái)富是平凡的,名望也不稀罕,但心靜才是他恩準(zhǔn)的最后賞賜,是他最溫柔的愛的象征。多數(shù)人從來沒有這種福氣,有些人則等了一輩子——是的,一直等到了老態(tài)龍鐘,才等到這個(gè)賞賜降臨到他們身上。
幸福不是一種更準(zhǔn)確的說是一種刺激。幸福是我們對自己生命中每一天做出的有意選擇,因?yàn)槟承┪覠o法知道的原因,很多人在大部分時(shí)間選擇痛苦、沮喪和憤怒。幸福不是我們擁有自己想要的東西后才能出現(xiàn)的東西,常常是我們先選擇讓自己幸福、然后才能得到的東西。
在世的每一天都好好過,因此我常常擁有一個(gè)又一個(gè)幸福的好日子。
幸福自有其道德基礎(chǔ)。獲得幸福的首要一步就是盡量減少憂慮,這關(guān)鍵的第一步能讓我們避開憂慮。它要求我們勇于接受毫無預(yù)想的一切,坦然面對生活中的一切煩惱。
幸福的秘密在于欣賞世界上所有的奇觀異景,同時(shí)永遠(yuǎn)不要忘記湯匙里的兩滴油。生活中,很多時(shí)候,我們都會(huì)感到失望、沮喪和苦惱。我們不必較真去尋找它們。我們擁有一個(gè)充滿美麗、光明和希望的奇妙世界。我們環(huán)顧四周,就可以看到這些奇妙事情,為什么要把時(shí)間浪費(fèi)在尋找傷心、失望和苦惱上呢?
當(dāng)我們主動(dòng)攤開雙手迎接太陽時(shí),陽光自然就會(huì)照到我們。
愛從來不會(huì)衰敗。秀發(fā)會(huì)失去原有的光彩。臉頰會(huì)日漸暗淡消瘦。但有愛的心中,從來沒有冰霜寒冬,夏天的溫?zé)嵊肋h(yuǎn)依舊。
有怎樣的心靈,就有怎樣的世界;有怎樣的心靈,就有怎樣的人生。心有陰 p54,命運(yùn)就會(huì)黯淡無光;胸藏陽光,生活就會(huì)明媚而幸福。
第二篇:心靈雞湯--感悟親情
Mother’s Hands Night after night, she came to tuck me in, even long after my childhood years.Following her longstanding custom, she’d lean down and push my long hair out of the way, then kiss my forehead.I don’t remember when it first started annoying me-her hands pushing my hair that way.But it did annoy me, for they felt work-worn and rough against my young skin.Finally, one night, I shouted out at her, “Don’t do that anymore-your hands are too rough!” She didn’t say anything in reply.But never again did my mother close out my day with that familiar expression of her love.Time after time, with the passing years, my thoughts returned to that night.By then I missed my mother’s hands, missed her goodnight kiss on my forehead.Sometimes the incident seemed very close, sometimes far away.But always it lurked in the back of my mind.Well, the years have passed, and I’m not a little girl anymore.Mom is in her mid-seventies, and those hands I once thought to be so rough are still doing things for me and my family.She’s been our doctor, reaching into a medicine cabinet for the remedy to calm a young girl’s stomach or soothe the boy’s scraped knees.She cooks the best fried chicken in the world and gets stains out of blue jeans like I never could…
Now, my own children are grown and gone.Mom no longer has Dad, and on special occasions, I find myself drawn next door to spend the night with her.So it was late on Thanksgiving Eve, as I slept in the bedroom of my youth, a familiar hand hesitantly run across my face to brush the hair from my forehead.Then a kiss, ever so gently, touched my brow.In my memory, for the thousandth time, I recalled the night my young voice complained, “Don’t do that anymore-your hands are too rough!” Catching Mom’s hand in hand, I blurted out how sorry I was for that night.I thought she’d remember, as I did.But Mom didn’t know what I was talking about.She had forgotten-and forgiven-long ago.That night, I fell asleep with a new appreciation for my gentle mother and her caring hands.And the guilt that I had carried around for so long was nowhere to be found.母親的手
夜復(fù)一夜,她都過來給我掖被子,甚至在我的童年過去很久之后還是那樣。這種習(xí)慣由來已久,她常常俯下身,撥開我的長發(fā),然后吻我的前額。
我不記得最初從什么時(shí)候開始討厭她用手撥開我的頭發(fā)。但那的確讓我討厭,因?yàn)樗L期勞作的手摸在我細(xì)嫩的皮膚上是那樣粗糙。終于,有一天夜里,我朝她大聲喊道:“不要再這樣做了——你的手太粗糙了!”她什么也沒有說。但母親再也沒有用那種熟悉的愛的方式來結(jié)束我的一天。
光陰荏苒,日月如梭,許多年后,我的思緒又回到了那天夜里。那時(shí)我想念母親的手,想念她留在我前額上的晚安之吻。有時(shí)這情景似乎很近,有時(shí)又似乎很遠(yuǎn)。但它總是潛伏在我的腦海深處。
噢,時(shí)光流逝,我不再是小姑娘了。母親也已經(jīng)七十四五歲了,那雙我曾認(rèn)為粗糙的手仍在為我和我的家庭做事。她是我們的醫(yī)生,常常伸手去藥箱里給我胃疼的女兒找藥或?yàn)槲业膬鹤硬羵南ドw敷藥。她能做出世界上味道最美的炸雞,能洗掉牛仔褲上我永遠(yuǎn)洗不掉的污點(diǎn)??
現(xiàn)在,我自己的孩子都已經(jīng)長大成人,離開了家。爸爸也撒手而去了。在那些特殊時(shí)刻,我常常情不自禁地走到隔壁,和她一起過夜。因此,一次感恩節(jié)前夕,到了深夜,我睡在年輕時(shí)的臥室里時(shí),一只熟悉的手遲疑地滑過了我的臉,撥開了我前額的頭發(fā),隨后一個(gè)吻觸在了我的前額上,是那樣輕柔。
我在記憶里無數(shù)次回想起那天夜里我年輕氣盛發(fā)的牢騷:“不要再那樣做了——你的手太粗糙了!”我握住母親的手,脫口說出了我是多么后悔那天夜里自己所說的話。我以為她會(huì)像我一樣記得這件事。但媽媽不知道我在說什么。她早已忘記了這件事,也早已原諒了我。
那天夜里,我?guī)е鴮厝崮赣H和她體貼雙手的新的感激之情進(jìn)入了夢鄉(xiāng)。而且我長久以來的內(nèi)疚感也消失得無影無蹤了。
Are You Cold, Mother?
On a heavy snowy day in winter, the two men walked along a valley.After trudging for one whole day, they came to a grave.The grave was covered with the thick snow, the tombstone looking very simple.The older man said to the young man, “This is your mother’s grave...” The young man knelt down on the snow.The story took place in 1952.In order to save the Korean War from losing, the “UN forces” reinforced a group of soldiers, among whom Wilson was.At that time the most intense fighting occurred here.The strong offensive of the People’s Army made the “UN forces” retreat in defeat successively.On the way to retreat, Wilson was farther and farther away from the troops.At this moment, he suddenly heard a baby’s cry, which came from the snow hole.Wilson instinctively dug up the snow, immediately shocked by what he saw.In a mother’s arms, the infant was crying aloud.What was even more shocking was the mother was naked.It turned out that when the mother carried her baby on the back to take refuge, they were trapped in this valley, for it started snowing heavily.In order to save her baby, the mother gave all her clothes to her child and then tightly held the baby in her arms.Though the naked mother had been dead, the baby in her arms survived.Wilson was deeply moved by such an unexpected scene.He dug a pit with the field-operation tools in the frozen snow, buried the mother and then held the crying baby to pursue the troops.After the war, he adopted this child and took him to the United States to bring up.When the child grew up slowly, Wilson told him what happened that year and took him to the valley to look for his mother.The young man kneeling at the grave burst into tears.After a while, the young man got to his feet and started to clean the snow on the grave.After cleaning the snow around, he undressed his clothes, covered the grave, then threw himself on the grave and spoke out the words concealed in his heart for long, “Mom, how cold you are for so many years!”
媽媽,你冷嗎?
一個(gè)大雪紛飛的冬日,山谷里來了兩個(gè)人。走了一整天后,他們來到了一座墳?zāi)骨啊?/p>
墳上積了厚厚的雪,墓碑看起來非常簡陋。年長者對年輕人說:“這就是你媽媽的墳?zāi)??”年輕人跪倒在了雪地上。
故事發(fā)生在1952年。為了挽回朝鮮戰(zhàn)爭敗局,“聯(lián)合國軍”增援了一批士兵,威爾遜就是其中一員,當(dāng)時(shí)最激烈的一次戰(zhàn)斗就發(fā)生在這里。
人民軍的強(qiáng)烈攻勢使“聯(lián)合國軍”節(jié)節(jié)敗退。撤退途中,威爾遜離大部隊(duì)越來越遠(yuǎn)了。就在這時(shí),他突然聽到了嬰兒的哭聲,哭聲是從一個(gè)雪窟窿里傳出來的。威爾遜本能地扒開積雪,頓時(shí)被眼前的景象驚呆了。
在一個(gè)母親的懷里,嬰兒大聲地哭著。更令人吃驚的是,母親一絲不掛。原來,這位母親背著孩子避難時(shí),被困在了這個(gè)山谷里,天下起了大雪。為了救活自己的孩子,母親把自己所有的衣服都給了孩子,然后把孩子緊緊抱在懷里。雖然赤裸的母親已經(jīng)死去,但她懷中的孩子卻活了下來。
威爾遜被這意外的景象深深感動(dòng)了。他用野戰(zhàn)工具在冰凍的雪地上挖了個(gè)坑,把這位母親埋葬了,然后抱著大哭的嬰兒追趕大部隊(duì)去了。
戰(zhàn)爭結(jié)束后,他領(lǐng)養(yǎng)了這個(gè)孩子,并把他帶到美國去撫養(yǎng)。孩子慢慢長大了,威爾遜把當(dāng)年發(fā)生的事告訴了他,并帶著他來到山谷里找媽媽。
跪在墳前的年輕人痛哭失聲。
過了一會(huì)兒,年輕人站起身,開始清理墳?zāi)股系姆e雪。他把周圍的積雪都清理完,把衣服一件件脫下來蓋在了墳?zāi)股?,然后撲到墳?zāi)股?,說出了久藏在心里的話:“媽媽,這么多年你多冷??!”
The Potential of Love
On the way home, when she would be home immediately, a young woman looked at her balcony on the fourth floor while her lovely son was also expecting her mother to come back on the balcony.When he saw his mother, his son started waving his hand.At this moment the young woman was also consciously waving her hand.Suddenly, she realized this might be dangerous, but it was already late because her son wanted to greet her, leaned forward, suddenly lost his balance and turned over from the balcony.Then the people in the room were so shocked that all of them rushed to the balcony shouting.When finding her son falling down, she dashed ahead regardless of her safety to save her son.Perhaps God was moved;the son was met by his mother and unharmed.People found it very strange how a young woman ran so fast and could catch her son because according to her running speed she should have broken the 100-meter world record.Later, people asked the 100-meter world champion to do a test: whether he could meet the object with the same weight falling from the balcony in the same distance.The result was he couldn’t make it anyway.Let the young woman test again, but the result was that she couldn’t break the 100-meter world record.Finally, people summarized: the power of love is great.This story illustrates that love can also inspire the potential.愛心的潛能
一位少婦在回家的路上,馬上要到家時(shí),習(xí)慣地看了一下4樓自家的陽臺,可愛的兒子也正在陽臺上期待著媽媽回來。當(dāng)看到媽媽時(shí),兒子開始招手,這時(shí)少婦也有意識地招手,突然她意識到這樣可能會(huì)有危險(xiǎn),但已經(jīng)晚了。因?yàn)閮鹤右瓔寢?,所以身體前傾,突然失去平衡,從陽臺上墜了下來。這時(shí),房間里的 人驚呆了,紛紛跑到陽臺上呼叫。媽媽發(fā)現(xiàn)兒子掉下來,就奮不顧身地去救兒子,也許是感動(dòng)了上帝,兒子被媽媽接住了,并且安然無恙。人們都覺得很奇怪,一個(gè)少婦怎么跑得那樣快,并能接住自己的兒子,因?yàn)榘串?dāng)時(shí)少婦跑的速度應(yīng)該已打破了百米世界記錄。
后來,人們找百米世界冠軍做了一個(gè)試驗(yàn):同樣的距離,從陽臺上掉下同樣重量的物體,看能否接得住。結(jié)果是無論如何也接不住。再讓這位少婦試,結(jié)果也是再也沒有看到打破百米世界記錄的速度。最后,人們總結(jié)為:愛的力量是偉大的。
這個(gè)故事說明:愛心同樣可以激發(fā)潛能。
A Rose for Her Mother
A gentleman stopped his car at the door of a flower shop.He wanted to order a bunch of flowers and asked them to deliver them to his mother who was far in his hometown.He saw a girl crying on the road when he was about to enter the shop.The gentleman walked to the little girl and asked her, “Little girl, why are you crying?”
“I want to buy a rose for my mother, but I haven’t enough money.” said the girl.Hearing that, the gentleman felt sympathetic to the girl.“It was so.....” Then he grasped the girl’s hand and entered the flower shop.He first ordered the bouquet for his mother and bought a rose for the girl.Walking out of the shop, the gentleman proposed driving the girl home.“Would you really drive me home?”
“Of course!”
“Then drive me to my mother.But uncle, the place where my mother lives is very far from here.”
Following the way the girl showed, the gentleman drove out of the urban district along the winding mountain road and finally came to the cemetery.The little girl put the flower close to a new grave.In order to present a rose to her mother who just passed away a month ago, she took a long journey.The gentleman drove the girl to her home, then he return to the flower shop.He cancelled the flower bunch to her mother but bought a big bunch of fresh flower instead.He drove directly to his mother’s home, five-hour drive from here.He would present the flower to his mother in person.送給母親的玫瑰
有位紳士在花店門口停下了車,他打算向花店訂一束花,請他們送去給遠(yuǎn)在故鄉(xiāng)的母親。
紳士正要走進(jìn)店門時(shí),發(fā)現(xiàn)有個(gè)小女孩坐在路上哭,便走到小女孩面前問她說:“孩子,為什么坐在這里哭?”
“我想買一朵玫瑰花送給媽媽,可我的錢不夠?!焙⒆诱f。
紳士聽了,感到心疼?!斑@樣啊??”于是,紳士牽著小女孩的手走進(jìn)花店,先訂了要送給母親的花束,然后給小女孩買了一朵玫瑰花。
走出花店時(shí),紳士向小女孩提議,要開車送她回家。
“真的要送我回家嗎?”
“當(dāng)然?。 ?/p>
“那你送我去媽媽那里好了。可是,叔叔,我媽媽住的地方離這里很遠(yuǎn)?!?/p>
紳士照小女孩說的一直開了過去,沒想到走出市區(qū)大馬路之后,隨著蜿蜒山路前行,竟然來到了墓園。
小女孩把花放在一座新墳旁邊。她為了給一個(gè)月前剛過世的母親,獻(xiàn)上一朵玫瑰花,而走了一大段遠(yuǎn)路。
紳士將小女孩送回了家中,然后再次返回花店。他取消了要寄給母親的花束,而改買了一大束鮮花,直奔離這里有5小時(shí)車程的母親家里,他要親自將花獻(xiàn)給媽媽。
A Daughter’s Love for Her Mother
Dear Mom,I haven’t written many letters to you before, as we’ve almost always been able to just pick up the phone and have a chat, so it’s hard to know how to start.Of course, all the usual things apply-we all miss you and hope you’re all right wherever you are.When you left us, it took a little for it to sink in that I would never see you again.I guess I was a bit like you being away on a trip or those times when we didn’t find the time to even speak on the phone for a week or so.I realize now there are too many things left unsaid and too many questions unasked.Dad is finding life difficult without you and his loneliness is almost unbearable to me, as there’s so little I can do to help him.I think in time he’ll find some interests and make a new kind of life.But at the moment he seems only to look forward to the time when he can join you again.Emily and I are feeling a little better each day and, in a way, your going has brought us closer together.We seem to understand each other better at the moment and maybe eventually we’ll have the sort of relationship that really close sisters enjoy.We’ve both found strengths in each other over the past weeks, and these are a huge comfort.Perhaps we never needed to look for them before because we had you to be strong for us.I guess I’m lucky to have my own children to keep me so busy.I don’t have much time to dwell on my sadness but sometimes I crave the peace to just have a private think about you.For a couple of weeks after you died, my brain seemed to go crazy, searching through its memory banks for something I could keep in my heart which was special to you and me.One day it came to me-the tour we made of some special garden.Remember the day it poured with rain the whole time but we were determined to make the most of it? I enjoyed just being with you by myself, without the children clamoring for your attention.The gardens were beautiful despite the rain and you bought me a rose I’d admired for my own garden.For a while after your death, I expected to feel your presence around me as Dad and Emily seem to do with such ease.When I was out walking, I would look at the sky and wonder whether you could see me, or whether you were with me.At night I wondered whether you’d become a star, as some people believe.But as time passes, I think I’m closer to finding the truth.You’re with me every time I comfort one of the children or try to find the right words to gently chastise them.I listen for your words of wisdom and they come from within me because your greatest gift to me was teaching me how to be a good mother to my own children.And although you’re no longer here with us, I know in times of sadness or pain the children feel your arms around them just as I sense that I feel your arms around me, too.In years to come I hope your gift to me will be passed to my own children’s children.And I know it’s your voice telling me in these changing times the best thing we can give our children is love, because love is eternal and love doesn’t die.So long for now, and thank you from all of us.Happy Mother’s Day, mom.Love Carol
母女情懷
親愛的媽媽:
以前沒有給您寫過多少封信,因?yàn)槲覀儙缀蹩偰苣闷痣娫捔奶欤院茈y知道怎么開始寫起。
當(dāng)然,可以用那些老生常談——一我們都想念您,希望您無論在什么地方都萬事如意。
您離開我們時(shí),有一小段時(shí)間我陷入了永遠(yuǎn)無法再見您的思念。我想那有點(diǎn)兒像您出門旅行了,要么就像我們有時(shí)一周左右都沒時(shí)間通電話。
我現(xiàn)在意識到還有太多的話沒說,還有太多的問題沒問。
沒有了您,爸爸發(fā)現(xiàn)生活難過,他的孤獨(dú)讓我?guī)缀鯚o法忍受,因?yàn)槲規(guī)缀鯉筒涣怂裁疵?。我想他最后?huì)找到一些有興趣的事兒,開始一種新的生活。但是,他現(xiàn)在似乎只盼望能和您再次相聚。
我和埃米莉的感覺漸漸好轉(zhuǎn)。從某種意義上說,您的離去使我們更加親密。我們此時(shí)似乎彼此更加了解,也許最終我們會(huì)享有親密姐妹們享有的那種關(guān)系。
在過去的幾周里,我們已經(jīng)從彼此身上找到了力量,這是極大的安慰。也許我們以前從不需要尋求這種力量,因?yàn)槲覀冇心鰣?jiān)強(qiáng)后盾。
我想幸運(yùn)的是我自己有孩子,使我忙得團(tuán)團(tuán)轉(zhuǎn),沒有多少時(shí)間沉湎于悲傷,但有時(shí)我渴望安靜,可以私下去思念您。
在您去世后的兩三周里,我的大腦好像發(fā)了瘋似的,拼命在記憶庫里尋找珍藏在我心里的某件事——某件對您我二人都特別親密的事情。有一天,我終于想起來了—— 一個(gè)特別花園進(jìn)行的那次游覽。還記得那天一直大雨傾盆,但我們打定主意要盡情玩玩一下的情景嗎?我就喜歡單獨(dú)和您在一起,沒有孩子們大聲吵鬧使您分心。盡管下著雨,但花園很美:您給我買了一枝玫瑰,我曾希望自己的花園種有這種玫瑰。您去世后的一段時(shí)間,我期望能感到您就在我身邊,因?yàn)榘职趾桶C桌蚝孟褫p松自如就能感受到。我在外面散步時(shí),常常仰望天空,想知道您是不是能看到我,或者您是不是和我在一起。夜里,我常常想,您是不是就像有些人相信的那樣變成了一顆星星。
但隨著時(shí)間流逝,我想我越來越近地找到了真實(shí)的感覺:每當(dāng)我安慰一個(gè)孩子或要找出合適的詞語來輕輕責(zé)打他們時(shí),您都和我在一起。如果我留神傾聽您的智慧話語,它們就會(huì)從我的內(nèi)心傳來,因?yàn)槟艚o我最偉大的禮物就是教會(huì)我如何給自己的孩子當(dāng)一個(gè)好媽媽。
盡管您不再和我們一起生活在這里,但我知道在悲傷和痛苦時(shí),孩子們能感到您環(huán)抱著他們,就像我感到您環(huán)抱著我一樣。在未來的歲月里,我希望把您留給我的禮物傳給我的子孫們。而且我知道那是您的聲音在告訴我,在這變化的時(shí)代,我們能留給我們孩子們的最好東西就是愛,因?yàn)閻凼怯篮愕?,愛不?huì)死去。
就此再見了,我們都衷心感謝您。
母親節(jié)快樂,媽媽!
愛您的卡羅爾
The Hair in the Box Meal In those years of poverty, many classmates often couldn’t bring decent box meal to school, so did my deskmate.His meal was always the black fermented soybean while mine was often ham and fried egg, completely different from his.Moreover, every time my classmate would first pick the hair from his box meal and eat it as if nothing had happened.This discomfortable discovery continued all along.“Obviously his mother is so lousy that even her hair drops in the meal.” My classmates talked about it secretly.I felt it was too dirty but I couldn’t show that for the sake of his self-respect.So my impression on him began to decline greatly.One day after school, he called me and said,“Would you like to go to my home if you’re free?”
Though reluctant, I found it awkward to refuse because this was his first invitation since we were in the same class.Following my friend, we arrived at a poor village located at the Seoul’s steepest place.“ Mum, I bring my friend home.”
Hearing my classmate’s excited voice, his aged mother opened the door and appeared.“My son’s friend comes.Let me have a look.” But his mother, who had walked out of the door, was only touching the door’s beam column with her hands.It turned out that she was blind.I felt sad without a word.My classmate’s box meal was as usual the fermented soybean every day, but it was his blind mother who carefully prepared for him.It was not only a lunch.But also a mother’s brimming love, and even the hair mixed in it was the mother’s love.飯盒里的頭發(fā)
在那個(gè)貧困的年代,很多同學(xué)往往連帶個(gè)像樣的午飯盒到學(xué)校上課的能力都沒,腎,我鄰座的同學(xué)就是如此。他的飯菜永遠(yuǎn)是黑黑的豆豉,我的午飯盒卻經(jīng)常裝著腿和荷包蛋,兩者有著天壤之別。而且這個(gè)同學(xué)每次都會(huì)先從午飯盒里撿出頭發(fā)后,再若無其事地吃。這個(gè)令人渾身不舒服的發(fā)現(xiàn)一直持續(xù)著。
“可見他媽媽有多邋遢,竟然每天飯里都有頭發(fā)?!蓖瑢W(xué)們私下議論著。為 了顧及同學(xué)自尊,又不能表表現(xiàn);現(xiàn)出來,總覺得好好臟,因此對這同學(xué)的印象也開始大打折扣。
有一天,學(xué)校放學(xué)后,那同學(xué)口吐信任了我:“如果沒什什么事,就去我家玩吧?!?/p>
雖然心中不太愿意,但自從同班以來,他第一次開口邀請我到家里玩,所以 我不好意思拒絕,就隨朋友來到了位于漢城最陡峭地形的某個(gè)貧民村。
“媽,我?guī)笥褋砹恕!?/p>
聽到同學(xué)興奮的聲音后,他年邁的母親打開了房門,出現(xiàn)在了門口?!拔覂?子的朋友來啦,讓我看看?!笨墒?,走出房門的同學(xué)母親只是用手摸著房門外的 梁柱。原來她是盲人。
我感到一陣心酸,一句話都說不出來。同學(xué)的午飯菜雖然每天如常都是豆 豉,卻是眼睛看不到的母親小心翼翼幫他裝的,那不只是一頓午餐,更是母親滿 滿的愛心,甚至連摻雜在里面的頭發(fā)也一樣是母親的愛。
Mom Charged Zero Dollar Texas has a law : any 14-year-old children must share the household chores for the parents, such as washing dishes, scrubbing the floor and mowing the lawns.One Sunday night, smart Tom wrote a bill to his mother:
Tom helped Mom buy the food in the supermarket.So Mom should pay five dollars;Tom got up and folded his quilt, so Mom should pay two dollars;Tom scrubbed the floor, so Mom should pay three dollars;Tom is an obedient good boy, so Mom should pay 10 dollars.The total is 20 dollars.After that, Tom pressed the note on the table and went to bed.When his mother saw it, she smiled tolerantly, added a few lines on it and put it beside Tom’s pillows.Hen Tom woke up, he saw such a bill:
Mom was pregnant with Tom for l0 months, so Tom should pay 0 dollar;Mom taught Tom to speak and walk, so Tom should pay 0 dollar;
Mom made good food for Tom every day, so Tom should pay 0 dollar;
Mom accompanied Tom to the children’s playground every weekend, so Tom should pay 0 dollar.Mom prays for Tom every day, hoping he becomes an angelic lovely little boy, so Tom should pay 0 dollar.The is total is 0 dollar.Now this note is still treasured by Tom.It tells Tom that the real love can’t be measured by money.Other is so generous because she loves too genuinely;Mother is so tolerant because she loves too deeply.When we have such a genuine and deep love in our hearts as Mother, we won’t ask for reward, either.媽媽只收零美元
克薩斯州有一條法律:凡年滿14歲的孩子必須為父母分擔(dān)家務(wù),比如洗 碟子、擦地板和剪草坪。一個(gè)星期天的晚上,聰明的湯姆給媽媽寫下了一份賬單 : 湯姆幫媽媽到超級市場買食品,媽媽應(yīng)付5美元;
湯姆自己起床疊被,媽媽應(yīng)付2美元;湯姆擦地板,媽媽應(yīng)付3美元;
湯姆是一個(gè)聽話的好孩子,媽媽應(yīng)付10美元。
合計(jì):20美元。
寫完后,湯姆把紙條壓在餐桌上,便上床睡覺去了。媽媽看到這張紙條后,寬容地笑了笑,隨手在上面添了幾行字,放到湯姆的枕邊。
湯姆醒來后,看到了這樣的一張賬單:
媽媽懷了湯姆IO個(gè)月,湯姆應(yīng)付0美元;
媽媽教湯姆說話和走路,湯姆應(yīng)付0美元;
媽每天為湯姆做好吃的食物,湯姆應(yīng)付0美元;
媽媽每個(gè)周末陪湯姆去兒童樂園,湯姆應(yīng)付0美元;
媽每天為湯姆祈禱,希望他成為天使般可愛的小男孩,湯姆應(yīng)付0美元。
合計(jì):0美靈元。
張紙條至今仍被湯姆珍藏著。它告訴湯姆,真正的愛是無法用金錢計(jì)量的。
馮媽為什么如此慷慨,因?yàn)樗龕鄣锰?;媽媽為什么如此寬容,因?yàn)樗龕鄣?太深。等我們心中有了媽媽那樣真那樣深的愛時(shí),我們們也會(huì)不圖報(bào)酬。
Prayer for My Mother
Now that I am no longer young, I have friends whose mothers have passed way.I have heard these sons and daughters say they never fully appreciated their mothers until it was too late to tell them.I am blessed with the dear mother who is still alive.I appreciate her more each day.My mother doesn’t change, but I do.As I grow older and wiser, I realize what an extraordinary person she is.How sad that I am unable to speak these words in her presence.But they flow easily from my pen.How does a daughter begin to thank her mother for life itself? For the love, patience and just plain hard work that go into raising a child? For running after a toddler, for understanding a moody teenager, for tolerating a college student who knows everything? For waiting for the day when a daughter realizes her mother really is?
I don’t know how, dear God, except to bless her as richly as she deserves and o help me live up to the example she has set.I pray that I will look as good in the eyes of my children as my mother looks in mine.為母親祈禱
不再年輕,一些朋友的母親已經(jīng)去世了。我曾聽這些子女們說過,他們從 沒有向自己的母親充分表示過感激之情,直到想告訴她們時(shí)為時(shí)已晚。
我慶幸自己親愛的母親仍然健在。我對她的感激與日俱增。母親沒有變,但 我卻變了。隨著年齡的增長,我越來越懂事,我認(rèn)識到她是一個(gè)多么非凡的人。我對自己在她面前說不出這些話感到難過,但這些話卻能輕松地流諸筆端。
一個(gè)女兒如何開口感謝她的母親給予的生命呢?是感謝她在撫養(yǎng)孩子時(shí)付出 愛、耐心和平常的辛勞?是感謝她跟在蹣跚學(xué)步的孩子身后奔跑,對喜怒無常 少女的理解和對一個(gè)自以為是的大學(xué)生的寬容?還是感謝她等待女兒認(rèn)識到她 是一位真正母親的這一天?
親愛的上帝,我不知道該如何表達(dá),除了你好好保佑她——她應(yīng)該得到——并幫助我做到以她為榜樣。我祈禱,在自己的孩子們的眼里,我會(huì)像母親在我的里一樣好。
All I Am I Owe to My Mother All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother.I remember my mother’s prayers and they have always followed me.They have clung to me all my life.
My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw.All I am I owe to my other.I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her.There never was a woman like her.She was gentle as a dove and brave as a lioness...The memory of my mother and her teachings were, after all, the only capital I had to start life with.And on that capital I have made my way.A good mother is worth a hundred schoolmasters.Youth fades;love droops;the leaves of friendship fall.A mother’s secret hope outlives them all.God couldn’t be everywhere and therefore he made mothers.The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.He most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.In all my efforts to learn to read, my mother shared fully my ambition and sympathize with me and aided me in every way she could.If I have done anything n life worth attention, I feel sure that I inherited the disposition from my mother.Seems to me that my mother was the most splendid woman I ever knew...I have met a lot of people knocking around the world since, but I have never met a more thoroughly refined woman than my mother.If I have amounted to anything, it will be due to her.我所有的一切都?xì)w功于母親
論我現(xiàn)在還是希望以后怎么樣,都應(yīng)歸功于天使般的母親。我記得母親的些禱告,它們總是與我相隨,伴我一生。
我;的母親是我見過的最漂亮的女人。我所有的一切都?xì)w功于我的母親。我一 中所有的成就怒歸功于我從她那里得到的德智體的教育。
來沒有一個(gè)女人像她那樣。她像鴿子一樣溫柔,像母獅一樣勇敢??畢,對母親的記憶和她的教誨是我人生起步的唯一資本,并奠定了我的人生之路。
一位好母親抵得上一百名老師。
春易逝,愛情會(huì)枯,友誼的綠葉會(huì)掉落。母親內(nèi)心的希望卻比它們都要 長久。
帝不可能無處不在,因此他創(chuàng)造了母親。
親的心是一個(gè)深淵,在它的最深處你總會(huì)找到寬恕。
父親能為孩子所做的最重要的事就是愛他們的母親。
我努力學(xué)習(xí)閱讀的過程中,母親充分分享我的抱負(fù)、同情我,并盡她所能
幫助我。如果我一生中做了什么值得關(guān)注的事情,那一定是因?yàn)槲依^承了母親的 氣質(zhì)。
我來說,我的母親是我認(rèn)識的優(yōu)秀的女人?—我遇到過很多世人,但從未 遇上比母親更優(yōu)雅的女人。如果我有所成就的話,這要?dú)w功于她。
Think of My Mother Far-off My mother doesn’t read a word, but she would read each of my letters for several times, even in the middle of the night.My mother is at pains to read her son’s days away from home.My mother would worry about my each voice for coughing that she couldn’t eat or sleep for three days and three nights;and she would worry about one of my cold for an entire winter.As I grow up day by day, my mother would speak less and less.All the days and nights are elongating the distance between mother and me.When I speak, she would listen to me quietly by the side;when I change my clothes, she would take it to wash quietly;hen the wind blows, she would get up in the moonlight, close the doors and windows carefully and walk on tiptoe out of my room;when it is cold, she would put one of my clothes on my bed silently.But I once ignored my mother’s existence.Until one day I knew my mother sitting on the threshold far-off and listenin9ig to my news, rain or sunshine.Mother, please don’t release your hand, for in front of you I’m a child who will never grow up.On the road to a long journey, I still have too much confusion and hesitation, so I need your hands to guide me.Since then, when I fall silent, I would think of my mother.我想起遠(yuǎn)方的母親
母親不認(rèn)識一個(gè)字,但我的每一封信她都要看幾遍,甚至在半夜,母親是用 心去閱讀兒子在外的日子。母親會(huì)為我的一聲咳嗽擔(dān)心得三天三夜吃不下、睡不著,會(huì)為我的一次感冒擔(dān)心整整一個(gè)冬季。
隨著我的日益長大,母親的話越來越少,所有的日日夜夜都在拉長我和母親 之間的距離。我說話,她就在一旁默默地聽;我換下衣服,她就默默地拿去洗;起風(fēng)了,她就會(huì)摸著月色爬起來,小心翼翼地關(guān)好門窗,然后躡手躡腳地走出我 房間;天冷了,她就會(huì)拿一件衣服默默地放在我的床邊。
而我卻一度忽略了母親的存在,直到有一天才知道,遠(yuǎn)方有我的母親坐在門 上夕從風(fēng)里雨里聆聽我的消息,母親,請你不要松開你的手,在你面前,我是一夸永遺長不大的孩子,遠(yuǎn)行的路上,我還有太多的迷惘與彷徨,要你的雙手牽引。
從此,沉默嶺肘候,我就會(huì)想起母親。
Mother’s Strength There were two warring tribes in the Andes, one that lived in the lowlands and the other high in the mountains.One day the mountain people invaded the lowlanders, and as part of their plundering of the people, they kidnapped a baby of one of the lowlander families and took the infant with them back up into the mountains.The lowlanders didn’t know how to climb the mountain.They didn’t know any clue of the path that the mountain people used, and they didn’t know where to find he mountain people or how to track them in the steep terrain.Even so, they sent out their best party of fighting men to climb the mountain and bring the baby home.The men tried first one method of climbing and then another.After several days of efforts, however, they had climbed only a couple of hundred Feet.Feeling hopeless and helpless, the lowlanders decided that the cause was lost, and they prepared to return to their village below.As they were packing their gear for he descent, they saw the baby’s mother walking toward them.They realized that she was coming down the mountain that they hadn’t figured out how to climb.And they saw that she had the baby strapped to her back.How could that be?
One man greeted her and said,“We, the strongest and most able men in the village, couldn’t climb this mountain* How did you do this”
He mother shrugged her shoulders and said, “It isn’t your baby.” As long as you have love in your heart, no mountain you cannot climb.母親的力量
安第斯山有兩個(gè)敵對的部落,—一個(gè)部落住在低地,另一個(gè)住在高山上。
有一天,山上部落侵略山下部落。在對山下部落搶劫中,他們綁架了一戶人 家的嬰兒,并把嬰兒帶上了山。
山下部落的人不知道怎么才能爬上山。他們不知道山上部落走的山道的任何線索,也某嘉羞左哪里找到山上部落,更不知道怎樣在陡峭鷗的山地跟蹤追擊。
盡管如此,他們?nèi)匀慌勺约翰柯渲凶顑?yōu)秀、最勇敢的戰(zhàn)士照上山,把孩子搶同來:,戰(zhàn)十們嘗試了一個(gè)又一個(gè)十方法。然而,努力了了好好幾天之后,他們僅僅爬了幾百英尺。山下部落的戰(zhàn)十們感到絕望無助。認(rèn)為沒辦法爬到山上去。準(zhǔn)備回到 下的村莊。正當(dāng)他們收拾丁具準(zhǔn)備返回山下時(shí),只見那個(gè)嬰兒的母親正朝他們 走來。他們意識到她下來的那座山山正是他們知道怎樣爬的那座山。隨后,他們 到她背著那個(gè)嬰兒。這怎么可能呢?
一個(gè)戰(zhàn)士跟她打招呼說:“我們是部落中最強(qiáng)壯、最能干的男人,都爬不上 山。你是怎么做到的呢?”
亥子的母親聳了聳肩,說:“那不是你們的孩子?!?/p>
只要心中有愛,沒有爬不過去的高山。
The Most Fragrant Smell of Medicine
That year I jobbed at a Chinese traditional medicine store whose business was not bad and who decocted medicinal herbs for patients.So the store was filled with the heavy herbal smell, which made the passer-bys cover their noses.I found, without knowing from which day, a boy of thirteen or fourteen years old sat on the stairs before the store for a while every day, which l felt so unusual.One day, I asked him, “Do you like the herbal smell? He said gently, “I grew up in this kind of smelll!”
He said his mother took herbal medicines year after year, so he was able to decoct herbs for his mother when he was very young.He decocted herbs with deep affection, hoping his mother would recover as soon as possible
I asked, “Is your mother fully recovered?”
He shook his head and said, “My mother passed away three years ago!” I felt depressed for a moment.Gazing far away, he went on, “When I first passed by here and smelled the herbs, I suddenly thought of my mother.Thinking of those days when she was alive, I would feel warm in my heart.So I come here every day to sit for a moment.In such a smell, I would feel as if my mother were waiting for her medicine in her room!”
最美的藥味
那一年,我在街角的一家中藥鋪打工。藥鋪生意還不錯(cuò),而且代熬中草藥,藥鋪周圍彌漫著濃濃的中藥味,路人往往掩鼻而行。
不知從哪一天起,我發(fā)現(xiàn)有個(gè)十三四歲的少年每天都要在藥鋪前的臺階上坐 一會(huì)兒,這讓我很奇怪。有一天,我問他:“你很喜歡中藥的味道嗎?” 他輕輕地說:“我就是在這種氣味中長大的!”他說他媽媽常年喝中藥,他小小的年紀(jì)便能給媽媽熬中藥了。他每天殷勤地熬藥,希望媽媽能早日好起來。
我問:“你媽媽現(xiàn)在全好了吧?”他搖搖頭說:“媽媽3年前去世了!”我一 時(shí)黯然。他看著遠(yuǎn)方,說:“第一次經(jīng)過這里時(shí),聞到熬藥的味兒,我一下子就想起了媽媽,想起了她在世時(shí)的那些日子,心里就覺得暖暖的。于是,我每天來這里坐上一會(huì)兒,在這種氣味里,我就覺得媽媽正在屋子里等著喝藥呢!”
第三篇:讀《心靈雞湯》有何感悟
讀《心靈雞湯》的收獲
從初中到現(xiàn)在《心靈雞湯》這本書我已經(jīng)讀了許多遍了。里面的故事很溫馨,在我在閑下來的時(shí)候,靜靜的讀著。我喜歡讀英文版的,這樣不僅可以學(xué)習(xí)英語,還可以更深刻的理解文章的內(nèi)涵。
因?yàn)橛袗郏匀伺c人之間得以互動(dòng),維持人際關(guān)系的和諧。在講求功利主義的現(xiàn)實(shí)社會(huì)中仍有許多默默付出的義工,到醫(yī)院照顧病人,到教養(yǎng)院關(guān)懷那些孤單的老伯伯、老婆婆,帶給他們歡樂時(shí)光??等許多熱心服務(wù)的事,這些不知名的義工不惜犧牲自己的休息時(shí)間,也要為社會(huì)貢獻(xiàn)一點(diǎn)關(guān)懷的精神,真是值得為他們拍手鼓勵(lì)?!笆┍仁芨懈!?,許多人不了解這句話的真正含義而起了疑問,覺得應(yīng)該是“受比施更有?!辈艑?,當(dāng)我們對他人付出關(guān)愛而不求回報(bào),內(nèi)心才會(huì)真正的快樂,有滿足而平靜的感覺。在“解救海星”這篇文章中有人感到疑問∶海灘上有成千上萬的海星,猶如天上繁星,這樣做并不能改變什麼。他微笑,仍是彎下腰再度拾起另一只海星,當(dāng)他把海星丟進(jìn)海中的時(shí)候,喃喃的說∶“又改變了一只海星的命運(yùn)了?!币苍S一個(gè)人付出的關(guān)懷在大環(huán)境之下顯得非常地渺小,但仍然有它的力量和作用,如同“又改變了一只海星的命運(yùn)了?!边@句話的意義一樣,一個(gè)人的力量很微小,但如果能推己及人,大家所發(fā)揮的愛將是無法衡量的,所以千萬別小看自己的貢獻(xiàn)。每個(gè)人都有付出關(guān)懷的權(quán)利和能力,只要肯付出真愛,即使是一個(gè)關(guān)懷的眼神、一個(gè)燦爛的微笑、一個(gè)溫暖的擁抱,都會(huì)讓接近你的人有如沐春風(fēng)的感覺,身旁的世界也會(huì)因此更明亮,所以不要忽視愛的力量,因?yàn)樗袝r(shí)候可以改變一
個(gè)人的未來。
在世界上,每個(gè)人都是獨(dú)一無二的個(gè)體,各有不同的內(nèi)涵與特質(zhì),各自的成長環(huán)境與出身背景也不盡相同。即使是雙胞胎,面貌相似、生活條件一樣,但他們終究是不同的個(gè)體,人生際遇和休閑興趣也各有差異,所以我們何必強(qiáng)求自己事事實(shí)與別人相同呢?不要一味的模仿別人,怕自己落伍了,就趕緊有樣學(xué)樣和大家一起流行。人之所以可貴,在於能自我主宰,愛自己就是能深刻了解自己,認(rèn)識自己,接納自己的一切,一言一行都有自己的個(gè)性,做自己的主人,認(rèn)清自己,肯定自己,腳踏實(shí)地的活出自我,這才是最重要的。
人的一生都應(yīng)學(xué)習(xí),尤其現(xiàn)在是知識爆發(fā)的時(shí)代,更應(yīng)該不斷的充實(shí)自己,科技日漸發(fā)達(dá)進(jìn)步,各種事物的變遷,唯有學(xué)習(xí)各種不同的事物,才能在多元化的社會(huì)中生存。知識就是力量,能使自己有良好的判斷力,是非分明,可以有更好的處理能力。國父生前雖在巔沛流離之中,經(jīng)濟(jì)拮據(jù)之時(shí),仍不忘讀書,可見國父身處在困苦的環(huán)境中,還是不斷地學(xué)習(xí)?!笆⒛瓴恢貋?,一日難再晨,及時(shí)當(dāng)勉勵(lì),歲月不待人。”勸人要及時(shí)努力,不要辜負(fù)大好時(shí)光?!皩W(xué)而不思則罔,思而不學(xué)則殆?!睆?qiáng)調(diào)要學(xué)思并重,在學(xué)習(xí)之馀也要多思考,而思考的方向不應(yīng)該是一直線的,要多角度的思考,才能在這其中得到更多的智慧和經(jīng)驗(yàn)。學(xué)生就是不懂才要學(xué),應(yīng)該要效法孔子的精神,遇到自己不會(huì)的問題就應(yīng)不恥下問,孔子本身已經(jīng)是飽讀詩書,滿腹經(jīng)綸了,但他仍虛心求教以更充實(shí)自己,這種精神真是值得我們好好學(xué)習(xí),也唯有秉持這種信念,才可以使自己學(xué)得更多、更長久,“生也有涯,而知也無涯?!币簿褪且盎畹嚼?,學(xué)到老?!?/p>
如何交朋友,如何對待朋友,對于還是大學(xué)生的我來說是一個(gè)考驗(yàn),其實(shí)我的心靈并不是那么堅(jiān)強(qiáng),遇到困難也會(huì)煩惱一番,但是在我煩惱之際,一讀起這本書,我便能明白很多,人生需要書籍填滿自己,一直學(xué)習(xí)。
第四篇:感悟《教室里的心靈雞湯》
感悟《教室里的心靈雞湯》
這本書給我最大的感覺是通俗易懂,短小精悍的40篇小故事,卻蘊(yùn)含了教學(xué)的智慧,讓我不禁開始反思自己。
有一篇小故事的名字是《口紅的啟示》,大致意思是:卡拉是名年輕女學(xué)生,正值青春年華,開始似懂非懂地學(xué)習(xí)當(dāng)個(gè)摩登女郎,不認(rèn)真上課,中間教師和卡拉發(fā)生了種種摩擦,后來知道卡拉沒有爸爸,而媽媽要做兩份工作。教師對自己沒有關(guān)心卡拉,沒有感受她的需要而深感抱歉,開始反省,教師通常只會(huì)質(zhì)問學(xué)生的角色和責(zé)任,甚少自我反省。后來通過教師的努力,教學(xué)變得開放,師生之間的關(guān)系變得很好。
其中讓我感受最深的就是教師對于自我反省的過程,以及后來解決問題的智慧。我常常因?yàn)閷W(xué)生不認(rèn)真上課,開小差,而對學(xué)生發(fā)火,對學(xué)生不夠耐心??墒俏矣袥]有好好了解過那些成績不好的學(xué)生呢?有沒有了解過他們的想法?他們有著怎樣的生活?怎樣的經(jīng)歷?我面對的是活生生的人,他們有自己的思想,有自己的個(gè)性特點(diǎn),不去了解他們怎么能去責(zé)怪他們呢?
在傳統(tǒng)的教室里,教師就是權(quán)威,教師說的就是對的,而學(xué)生必須要遵守??偸沁@樣的教學(xué)模式,教出來的學(xué)生就是一個(gè)樣子的。我要改變自己的思想方式,教學(xué)中要更多地以學(xué)生為主,要把課堂變得開放一點(diǎn)。也要改改自己的脾氣,不要那么急躁,對學(xué)生溫和親切一點(diǎn)。在備課這個(gè)環(huán)節(jié)上,多花點(diǎn)時(shí)間。教育是一種不可逆向的過程,每一步每句話,都可能影響學(xué)生,我要更加地慎重和嚴(yán)謹(jǐn),每天都應(yīng)該反思一下自己的教學(xué)方式,多看多問多思多想,反思自我才能有所進(jìn)步,不然只能固步自封,這是很可怕的。
這本書中還有很多讓人思考的小故事,我覺得其中的共同點(diǎn)是,里面的教師都不僅僅是教書匠,沒有匠氣,只有靈氣。當(dāng)在教學(xué)中遇到了困難時(shí),閱讀它,也許會(huì)使教學(xué)智慧得到啟發(fā)。
第五篇:心靈雞湯
一個(gè)人能否走向成功,看他情緒崩潰后的樣子
1、很多讀者問我:“怎么樣才可以內(nèi)心強(qiáng)大,才不會(huì)被一點(diǎn)小事搞的情緒崩潰?”
我想告訴他們,內(nèi)心強(qiáng)大的人并不是遇到任何事都心如止水,他們也會(huì)有情緒崩潰的時(shí)候。只不過他們更能明白,這種情緒崩潰只是摧毀了,過去他們心中某種錯(cuò)誤觀念(或者說不適應(yīng)社會(huì)的觀念),他們會(huì)重新建立起更有利于自己的認(rèn)知系統(tǒng)。
認(rèn)知系統(tǒng)重建的次數(shù)多了,它會(huì)變得更加具有彈性和適應(yīng)性,那人自然不容易情緒崩潰。
比如,最近連續(xù)的熱點(diǎn)事件也讓我氣的手抖,在詳查了一些資料后,發(fā)現(xiàn)冰凍三尺非一日之寒,遠(yuǎn)不是一點(diǎn)輿論影響能改變的。
這讓我感到情緒崩潰,但我不會(huì)放任自己頹廢,我會(huì)強(qiáng)化自己決心,明白自己究竟該做點(diǎn)什么。
其實(shí)情緒崩潰這個(gè)詞并不恰當(dāng),如果情緒崩潰了,那情緒本身應(yīng)該不存在了。實(shí)際上,我們指的情緒崩潰是指由于刺激過度,情緒出現(xiàn)激烈的反應(yīng),超出了個(gè)人心理承受能力,導(dǎo)致的行為失控。
但成熟的人會(huì)在這個(gè)過程中明白,是什么東西在拖垮你、阻礙你,他會(huì)把這些東西丟掉,他會(huì)往自己的內(nèi)心中填入一些新的東西。
所謂“熬不過去的日子就讓自己忙碌,想念的時(shí)候不妨看看清晨的日出”就是這個(gè)道理。
2、半年前,我的好友熊博士因?yàn)榍榫w失控,最后進(jìn)了拘留所。
熊博士是我的好友,剛畢業(yè)就在高校任教,他一年能拿十幾項(xiàng)專利,還有發(fā)明專利,是個(gè)不可多得的人才。
有一天他和我說,自己還在某高校讀研的女友小婷,對自己冷淡已經(jīng)半年多了,很多時(shí)候消息直接就不回,他好不容易終于懇請小婷見他一面,相約在小婷就讀的高??Х葟d里。
他覺得我是人際戀愛方面的高手,希望我能陪他一起去見小婷,看看他兩關(guān)系到底出了什么問題。
經(jīng)不起他的軟磨硬泡,我決定陪他去下。我要他把小婷朋友圈發(fā)來我看看,我非常奇怪的就是,小婷近半年的朋友圈里沒有任何有關(guān)他倆的互動(dòng)。直到他把聊天記錄發(fā)來,我才相信他們真的是戀人關(guān)系,但一個(gè)月都見不了一次,對于同城戀來說,似乎不太正常。
到了小婷和他見面那天,小婷剛在咖啡廳坐下,熊博士還沒介紹我呢,小婷就提出分手!
熊博士非常傷心的問原因,小婷面無表情地說,我媽不喜歡你,嫌你老。
正當(dāng)熊博士聲淚俱下地挽留時(shí),我看到小婷沒有任何回心轉(zhuǎn)意的跡象,倒是她眼光不斷掃向隔壁桌的兩個(gè)男生。
“不跟你廢話了,我媽已經(jīng)安排我去相親了,雖然我不知道那次見面是相親,但她老人家挺滿意的,我要回宿舍了,慢走不送!”說罷,小婷離開了咖啡廳,兩個(gè)男生跟了出去。
熊博士沖了出去,情緒激動(dòng)地拉住小婷的手不讓她走。
“放開,你不準(zhǔn)碰我,你個(gè)死流氓,我不認(rèn)識你!”
小婷發(fā)瘋似得在高校校園里尖叫,路人目光立即盯向我們這里,兩個(gè)男生掏出手機(jī),似乎在打電話叫人,我覺得情況不妙,趕緊對熊博士說。
“熊博,這是圈套,我們快走,別把命擱在這!”
熊博還是不依不饒,這時(shí)有圍觀的男學(xué)生已經(jīng)打算介入沖突,我知道在這種情形下,大家只會(huì)把熊博當(dāng)流氓,我趕忙對圍觀者說:情侶吵架呢,我們馬上走!
熊博此刻意識到失態(tài),冷靜了下來,我拉著他準(zhǔn)備離開。
走的時(shí)候,我突然聽到小婷和某男生的對話。
“你之前和我說的就這傻叉?.......”
“我就沒和他好過,是他一天糾纏我,我煩都煩死了!”
也許是聽到小婷說他倆從來沒好過,熊博突然情緒失控,我還沒來得及反應(yīng),他就轉(zhuǎn)過身一腳揣在小婷背后,小婷頓時(shí)往前跪倒在地。
這時(shí),旁邊的圍觀群眾立即上來拉住熊博,他激動(dòng)地說:“你利用我,原來你早就劈腿了,你還去相親,還說不認(rèn)識我!”
沒過多久,熊博被送到學(xué)校保衛(wèi)處,小婷還報(bào)了警,警察一會(huì)就來了。
警察說,如果小婷愿意和熊博調(diào)解,那么可以從輕處罰,不然要以尋釁滋事罪對熊博處五日以上十日以下拘留。小婷態(tài)度很強(qiáng)硬,不承認(rèn)是情侶關(guān)系,一口咬定熊博騷擾她。
我希望小婷能放過熊博一馬,我們愿意賠點(diǎn)錢,小婷說:可以啊,拿一百萬來。
之后熊博被送去了拘留所。五天后,熊博又給我發(fā)了消息,他問的問題是:
經(jīng)歷了這件事,他如何才可以挽回小婷??。。。。?/p>
我看見這消息,我恨不得一頭撞死在墻上。那時(shí),我實(shí)在不知道,這張不算漂亮的臉蛋到底怎么把熊博迷得神魂顛倒。
我告訴他:分手不是一道疤,而是一堂課。天空不總是晴朗,我能接受你會(huì)有偶爾情緒崩潰的時(shí)候,但我一定不能容忍你,在付出了這么大代價(jià)后,灰塵依舊蒙蔽著你的雙眼。
熊博出事后,他們單位有個(gè)女老師打過電話給我,問我當(dāng)日的情況。她不僅在這段時(shí)間幫忙安撫熊博父母,還在學(xué)校到處說情,希望學(xué)校不要再次處罰熊博。
熊博,難道這次情緒崩潰,除了讓你變成一個(gè)“癡情”的男人。不能讓你明白,什么樣的女生才真正值得你珍惜嗎?
3、情緒崩潰會(huì)讓人做出一些后悔莫及的事,還會(huì)陷入很長時(shí)間的痛苦,而不能自拔。
但情緒崩潰有時(shí)是一件好事,它能幫助你把內(nèi)心中,有些難以割舍的毒瘤給挖了,然后填進(jìn)去新的東西。情緒崩潰期,我們在苦熬中,能夠漸漸免疫傷痛,這便是人最偉大的一點(diǎn),適應(yīng)性。
Levine 和 Edelstein曾經(jīng)用目標(biāo)相關(guān)性取向(goal-relevance approach)來解釋情緒誘發(fā)的記憶窄化現(xiàn)象。
所謂記憶窄化就是,當(dāng)情緒激蕩時(shí),人的大腦會(huì)主動(dòng)“拋棄”一些記憶,而強(qiáng)化部分記憶,繼而形成一些以前沒有的條件反射。
例如,遭遇過搶劫的婦女,可能會(huì)記不得兇手的面目和其他一些細(xì)節(jié),但會(huì)特別記得兇手的刀。以致于她在日后生活中看見刀,都會(huì)自動(dòng)出現(xiàn)逃避反應(yīng)。
而記憶窄化,有時(shí)候是有好處的。
情緒高度激活時(shí),鑒于注意和工作記憶容量有限,大腦會(huì)出現(xiàn)出進(jìn)化適應(yīng)性,它會(huì)優(yōu)先加工那些推動(dòng)目標(biāo)或阻礙目標(biāo)的情緒事件。
在一個(gè)給定情境下,與人的目標(biāo)最相關(guān)的信息更可能被注意并記住,而與目標(biāo)較不相關(guān)的信息則更可能被忽略或很快忘掉。
比如,熊博這件事也給了我一些深遠(yuǎn)的影響,那就是:我今后無論自己多占理,都不能動(dòng)手打人。
這不是因?yàn)槲业赖赂呱校俏乙庾R到一旦動(dòng)手,你百口莫辯,事后損失慘重。
那天的事有很多我記不太清楚,但我記得熊博背后銬著手銬,背對著墻,都沒辦法和我說句話。如果是學(xué)者,這簡直是奇恥大辱。
我還記得小婷說一百萬時(shí),我大腦中搜遍了湊錢的所有途徑,我想賣公眾號賣版權(quán)賣身,但我發(fā)現(xiàn)短時(shí)間內(nèi)湊不齊。就算我能湊齊,我也實(shí)在是不想給這個(gè)人。
哪怕我就寫了下這個(gè)故事,公眾號里一群女性讀者大罵熊博是渣男,小婷做的對,我三觀不正。
動(dòng)手打人時(shí),需要一些觀念支撐,比如自己是正義的,旁觀人是支持的,自己是迫不得已等等。
而熊博事件給了我一種情緒條件反射。每當(dāng)有打人沖動(dòng)時(shí),一種強(qiáng)烈的屈辱感會(huì)幫我把其他聲音給壓制下去:別打人,大眾可不管誰先劈腿。
Mather 和 Sutherland(2011)認(rèn)為,人在情緒崩潰期間或者剛剛結(jié)束,能體驗(yàn)到某種東西被“喚醒”,這種喚醒會(huì)讓你的記憶鞏固有所偏向,某些幫助你活下去的記憶,此刻會(huì)被強(qiáng)化,在以往你往往忽略了它。
例如,我們電影里的主角,經(jīng)常是敏感、脆弱還矯情,他們動(dòng)不動(dòng)就因?yàn)橐稽c(diǎn)小事就撂挑子不干了。然而,大反派都是些意志堅(jiān)定,目標(biāo)明確,情緒穩(wěn)定的個(gè)體。
電影總是要安排反派在主角被逼入絕境時(shí)要屁話一番,或者要安排個(gè)什么重要的人犧牲,目的就是為了逼主角情緒崩潰。
可到了崩潰的時(shí)候,主角某些東西會(huì)被“喚醒”,那些“矯情”“脆弱”的東西突然不見了,記憶窄化讓主角突然有了力量,一陣爆發(fā)把反派打倒。
雷神3里就有這樣的經(jīng)典場景,當(dāng)索爾被海拉打的滿地找牙時(shí),他不知道怎么就想起奧丁對他說“其實(shí)你比我強(qiáng)”,莫名其妙就全身放電了。
所以情緒崩潰不完全是壞事,大腦實(shí)際在強(qiáng)迫你,必須換一種方式來認(rèn)知你當(dāng)前的處境。
Kruglanski等人研究發(fā)現(xiàn),人在情緒崩潰時(shí),如果不急于逃離情緒痛苦,也不要急于找理由為自己開脫。
相反他不斷思考事件的挑戰(zhàn)性和威脅性,大腦便會(huì)出現(xiàn)一種自上而下的優(yōu)先性,隨后記住這些事件中的高優(yōu)先性信息,這些信息能得到大腦較多的神經(jīng)資源扶持,還會(huì)形成一種優(yōu)化的策略來應(yīng)對未來的相似情景。
心理學(xué)家認(rèn)為這種優(yōu)勝劣汰的效應(yīng)具有進(jìn)化適應(yīng)性,所謂痛苦讓人成長,也許就是這么個(gè)道理。
4、一個(gè)人是否能夠成功,就看他情緒崩潰后,他選擇悲傷,還是選擇思考。
他是迫不及待地躲進(jìn)“癡情”等虛假字眼中,讓自己好受一些。還是直面自己的痛苦,問自己:到底是什么東西傷害了我?
他是急于宣泄這種痛苦的情緒,好讓自己輕裝上陣,還是懂得利用這種痛苦的情緒,把一些平日里很難割舍的東西扔掉。
他是急于找同學(xué)訴說自己的不幸,博得別人的同情?還是重新對自己的記憶進(jìn)行編碼,讓一些東西不再引發(fā)你的反應(yīng),同時(shí)讓自己更在乎一些過去不經(jīng)意的東西。
當(dāng)我在情緒崩潰的邊緣時(shí),回蕩在我大腦里的,不是渴求你的憐憫和同情。
我在大腦里不斷回放,回放你的絕情,接著又想了一遍又一遍與你的不可能。
這樣的思考,幫助我從今往后,再也不會(huì)遇到你這樣的人。
所以,這個(gè)殘酷的世界啊,我不怕你把我逼的情緒崩潰。只要我的生命還在,要不了多久,就會(huì)有一個(gè)更強(qiáng)大的我站在你的面前。
鳳凰涅槃,這便是這個(gè)酷的光芒萬丈的自己,最后也最寶貴的力量吧!