第一篇：別用自己的惡意去揣測(cè)世界的愛心美文

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table.A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.

在冰淇淋圣代還很便宜的年代，一個(gè)10歲的小男孩走進(jìn)一家酒店的咖啡廳，在一張桌子旁坐了下來。一名服務(wù)員在他面前放了一杯水。

“How much is an ice cream sundae?”

“一個(gè)冰淇淋圣代多少錢？”

“50 cents,” replied the waitress.“50美分，”服務(wù)員回答道。

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied a number of coins in it.小男孩從口袋里拿出手來，仔細(xì)地?cái)?shù)了一下手里的硬幣。

“How much is a dish of plain ice cream?” he inquired.Some people were now waiting for a table and the waitress was a bit impatient.”

“一碟原味冰淇淋多少錢？”他問道。這時(shí)候有一些人正在候位，服務(wù)員有些不耐煩了。

“35 cents,” she said brusquely.“35美分?！彼拄?shù)鼗貜?fù)道。

The little boy again counted the coins.“I’ll have the plain ice cream,” he said.小男孩又?jǐn)?shù)了一遍硬幣。“我要一份原味冰淇淋?！彼f。

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away.The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and departed.服務(wù)員拿來冰淇淋，把賬單放到桌上后就走開了。小男孩吃完冰淇淋，付了錢，然后離開了。

When the waitress came back, she began wiping down the table and then swallowed hard at what she saw.當(dāng)服務(wù)員回來的時(shí)候，他開始擦桌子，然后她被自己看到的一切哽住了。

There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were 15 cents – her tip.在那里的空碟子下面整齊地放著15美分——她的小費(fèi)。

第二篇：如何去改變自己(英文美文)[范文]

How to Change Your Life

發(fā)布時(shí)間：2012-04-03 文章出自：004km.cn 原文鏈接：點(diǎn)擊查看

Most of us would like to change something about ourselves or our lives.We eat too much.We smoke.We don't exercise.We're stuck in the wrong job.We spend too much and save too little.We look for love in the wrong places.Some of us have a few things we'd like to change.Some people want to transform their entire lives.But can we? And if so, how?

Charles Duhigg may have found the key.Duhigg, a reporter at the New York Times, spent three years interviewing researchers, marketing mavens and neuroscientists to understand better how our brains work, and how we can use that knowledge in our daily lives.He's published the results in a new book, The Power of Habit.The bottom line: We're running on autopilot most of the time, and we don't really know it.We are controlled to a remarkable degree by our habits, not just by our conscious choices.“A habit is a choice that we deliberately make at some point, and then stop thinking about, but continue doing, often every day, ” he writes.Even people in crisis can use this knowledge to turn their lives around.We can't unlearn bad habits.The way to defeat them is to learn new, better ones.The book begins with the case of “Lisa Allen, ” a young woman who did precisely that.She began as an overweight, heavy-drinking smoker with debts and no job.Her husband had just left her.A few years she was fit, clean, gainfully employed and in charge of her life.She ran marathons, bought a house, got engaged, and began a master's program.What's This?..And her turnaround began when she took the decision to change one “keystone” habit, and quit smoking.That change led to other changes, and so on.Habits are a neurological reality, Duhigg reports.Neurologists studying scans of Lisa Allen's brain found that “one set of neurological patterns her old habits had been overridden by new patterns.They could still see the neural activity of her old behaviors, but those impulses were crowded out by new urges.As Lisa' habits changed, so had her brain.”

But how do you change a bad habit?

According to Duhigg, researchers at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology believe all habits break down into three steps: The cue, the habit(which he calls 'the routine')and the reward.The cue is what triggers the habit in the first place walking past the pastry shop, having a coffee, and so on.The reward is the craving the habit is really designed to satisfy.The trick to changing is to identify those three elements, and then to divert them into something more productive.He illustrates with an example from his own life.Duhigg says he was putting on weight.How did he change?

1.Find the bad habit.Duhigg noticed he had put on weight.Why? What had changed? He realized he had started taking a break from work each afternoon, walking to the New York Times cafeteria, and eating a big chocolate chip cookie.2.Find the reward.What is the real reward, or payoff, you are seeking? In other words, in Duhigg's case, what was the payoff that got him started on this habit in the first place? What craving was he trying to satisfy?

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..You might think that was obvious.Surely you eat a cookie to eat a cookie, right?

Well, not really.Was it a need for food? To relieve the mid-afternoon boredom? An excuse to stretch his legs? A chance to chat to co-workers in the cafeteria?

The amazing thing is Duhigg didn't really know and research suggests that's true for most of us.“We're often not conscious of the cravings that drive our behaviors, ” he reports.“Most cravings [are] obvious in retrospect, but incredibly hard to see when we are under their sway.” Turns out there's a big difference between the habit and the real reward, or the real craving, that drives it.How do you find the reward? Duhigg recommends a simple three-step technique: Experiment, write, wait.First, experiment: Try out different alternative habits to see if you feel the same reward.Was his cookie habit just an excuse to stretch his legs? Duhigg tried going for a walk instead.Was it a craving for food? He tried having an apple at his desk instead.Second, after each experiment, try isolating by writing down the first three things that come to mind “emotions, random thoughts, reflections on how you're feeling, or just the first three words that pop into your head.”

...Why? Habit researchers found that the act of writing down is incredibly powerful.(This is also true of cognitive behavioral therapists).“It forces a momentary awareness of what you are thinking or feeling, ” writes Duhigg, and will help you later recall those emotions later.Third, after doing that, he waited for fifteen minutes.He set an alarm.When it went off, he asked himself: Do you still feel the urge for that cookie?

That fifteen minutes is key, says Duhigg.If, fifteen minutes after, say, eating an apple, or going for a walk, you still feel the urge to go to the cafeteria, then you haven't found the real reward.After a lot of experimentation, and reviewing your notes, you should be able to identify the real reward your habit is designed around.3.Find the cue.Typically, something sets us off.You light a cigarette when you have a cup of coffee.You reach for the ice-cream after dinner.And so on.To break the bad habit we need to find the cue.Scientists have found that these typically fall into five categories: Location, time, emotional state, other people, or an immediately preceding action....What was Duhigg's cue? To find out, he waited until the craving struck and then noted down five things: Where am I? What time is it? What's my emotional state? Who else is around? And what action immediately preceded the urge?

After a few days he was able to isolate his cue: Time.At around 3:30 pm every afternoon, he felt the need for a distraction from work, the kind, he notes, that came from gossiping with a friend.Not everyone is in Lisa Allen's old shoes.But I'll bet everyone has some habits they could do without.

第三篇：快樂必須自己去尋找美文（精選）

作家葛若寧敘述了他的一個(gè)經(jīng)驗(yàn)。有一次他在飛機(jī)場(chǎng)等待一架為惡劣天氣所阻，久久盤旋而不能降落的飛機(jī)。時(shí)間一小時(shí)、一小時(shí)地過去。葛先生注意到一位等待未婚妻的青年人那極度焦急不安的情形。時(shí)間每過去一秒，他的情形便更加惡化。

這位有名的作家知道，若是勸這位青年不要擔(dān)心是毫無用處的。于是他采用另一種方法，他走向前去和他聊天，問起他未婚妻的情形，她長(zhǎng)得什么樣子？他們是怎樣認(rèn)識(shí)的？于是那青年就非常起勁地談?wù)撟约旱奈椿槠?，不久他的憂愁竟暫時(shí)忘記了。在他不知不覺地時(shí)候，飛機(jī)已經(jīng)降落了。

葛先生所用的方法，乃是將積極的思想放在青年人腦中。你腦中若有消極的思想，也可以用同樣的方法，將注意力集中在那些使你感覺快樂和充滿希望的事物上。

你注意力的焦點(diǎn)平常在哪里？是注意到你的過失，或是你所做的貢獻(xiàn)？你所獲得的批評(píng)或是夸獎(jiǎng)？集中在你的憂慮和恐懼，或是希望與夢(mèng)想上？是想到失敗或是成功？想到所會(huì)遇見的障礙，還是所要達(dá)到的目的？你所想的是什么，就會(huì)決定你的態(tài)度，你的態(tài)度就決定你的命運(yùn)。

你的姿勢(shì)會(huì)左右你的情緒。攤在椅子上就會(huì)覺得疲倦，挺起胸膛就會(huì)覺得精力充沛。軟弱無力地坐著就會(huì)有怯弱的感覺，直立起來就會(huì)高興及充滿生氣。

你的聲音也會(huì)影響你的情緒。聲音柔和，頭腦就會(huì)冷靜，說出尖銳的話，就會(huì)有憤怒的感覺。說話遲疑，就覺得不安全。聲音堅(jiān)定有力就會(huì)充滿信心。

你的舉止、走路的樣子、說話的方式、寫作的筆調(diào)，都會(huì)影響你的情緒。你對(duì)外表及舉止加以管制，就能間接地使你的內(nèi)心煥然一新。

做事的時(shí)候，若是熟練技巧不加壓力地去做，就不容易感到疲倦，精力也會(huì)充沛，就會(huì)更容易成為快樂、健康及成功的人。

蒙特里大學(xué)的賽毅博士說：“每個(gè)人都有自然的壓力水平，在這個(gè)程度上，他身心的作用都是最有效的。若是加以任何外力，使他離開了這基本的水平，就會(huì)發(fā)生不良效果?！?/p>

賽毅醫(yī)生是研究人所受壓力的一位權(quán)威。他說：“對(duì)一個(gè)生來活潑有精力的人加以壓力，使他步伐緩慢，與使一個(gè)生來動(dòng)作緩慢的人加快步伐，二者是同樣不好的?！?/p>

勉強(qiáng)自己以一種與個(gè)性不相配合的速度去工作，乃是最足以破壞寧?kù)o與造成憂慮的不智之舉。應(yīng)當(dāng)從事試驗(yàn)，找出一種最配合你需要的速度。一旦決定了最有效的步伐時(shí)，便照著這節(jié)拍前進(jìn)，不要隨意更改。

無論什么事情臨到，你只要愉快地選擇，就可以消除被強(qiáng)迫的感覺，這樣也就會(huì)使你改變態(tài)度。

研究腦科的專家們發(fā)現(xiàn)，新的知識(shí)和感覺借著我們的感官進(jìn)入頭腦的頭30至60分鐘之內(nèi)，并沒有深深地銘刻在腦中，若在這個(gè)時(shí)候?qū)λ鼈兗右院鲆暬蛲浭亲钊菀椎摹?/p>

有一位專家說，人收到壞消息之后，不會(huì)立刻對(duì)它有情緒的反應(yīng)。腦中只不過有一幅悲傷的景象。若容許這幅景象將它的信息傳到小腦，小腦就會(huì)將它傳到自動(dòng)神經(jīng)系統(tǒng)，這時(shí)就會(huì)發(fā)生憂慮的感覺。

第四篇：打開你自己的世界美文摘抄

幾乎每年寒暑假前夕，我都會(huì)接到母校老師的邀請(qǐng)，去和在校的初中生和高中生們“聊聊天”。所謂的“聊聊天”，也就是在課堂上與可愛的學(xué)弟學(xué)妹們聊一聊我的生活感悟和讀書心得。

今年暑假之前。我再一次受邀回到母校。伴隨著清脆的電鈴聲，我滿懷激情地走進(jìn)了教室。

在簡(jiǎn)單的自我介紹后，我說了這樣一段話：“我非常珍惜和大家相處的這45分鐘，希望我的講述能夠?yàn)榇蠹业膶W(xué)習(xí)與生活帶來一定的幫助。今天，我是你們的一位大哥哥。大家可以把平時(shí)的課堂規(guī)矩都暫時(shí)放在一邊，不用那么拘謹(jǐn)。同時(shí)我也有一個(gè)小小的要求，就是希望大家能在我講述的過程中，有任何的問題隨時(shí)舉手，我們共同討論，共同進(jìn)步。我尤其鼓勵(lì)那些有智慧、有品質(zhì)的問題?！?/p>

說完這段話以后，我開始了按部就班的講述與即興的發(fā)揮。在講述過程中，同學(xué)們都聽得頗為認(rèn)真，有的頻頻點(diǎn)頭，有的若有所思，還有的同學(xué)積極回答我提出的問題，課堂氣氛十分活躍，這讓我很是感動(dòng)，只可惜無人主動(dòng)舉手提問。臨近下課的時(shí)候，我特意留了10分鐘的時(shí)間讓大家自由提問，沒想到，剛才活躍的課堂一下子陷入了沉默。又過了幾分鐘，一部分同學(xué)才開始異口同聲地向我索要聯(lián)系方式，我轉(zhuǎn)身將其寫在了黑板上，又作了些補(bǔ)充說明。然后與他們一同等待下課鈴聲的響起。當(dāng)我要離開的時(shí)候，很多同學(xué)表示希望我能再來，我笑著回答說：“有機(jī)會(huì)我一定再回來?！?/p>

我的演講受到了老師和同學(xué)們的好評(píng)。但我心中卻隱約涌動(dòng)著一絲莫名的失落，就好像有一個(gè)東西牽絆著你卻難以名狀。

回到家中，打開QQ，見到右下角的頭標(biāo)在頻頻閃動(dòng)，點(diǎn)開后才發(fā)現(xiàn)是一位剛才等我講課的學(xué)妹。她問了我一些關(guān)于讀書與生活的問題，我一一作答，并向她推薦了一些優(yōu)秀的文學(xué)書籍。同時(shí)我充滿疑惑地向她問道：“為什么今天在課堂上不問出來？”她答道：“不習(xí)慣。課堂上一般是老師的一言堂，我們很少主動(dòng)提出問題。好像也沒有這種提問的習(xí)慣?！眲e過她后，我陷入了沉思。

記得楊瀾在她的新書里講到過自己的一段經(jīng)歷。她說在北京外國(guó)語大學(xué)讀書時(shí)，正好有一節(jié)是外教的宗教課，他講完課后問大家是否還有問題。沒想到，一個(gè)容納了100多個(gè)學(xué)生的大教室，寂靜無聲，大家都羞澀地低下了頭，沒有一個(gè)人舉手。教授非常生氣地從兜里掏出了一塊美金，說誰要是問出一個(gè)問題，哪怕是再愚蠢的問題，他就把這一塊美金給誰。楊瀾說：“我們都有一點(diǎn)受屈辱的感覺，作為一個(gè)學(xué)生難道我們真的沒有問題嗎？記得后來我舉手了，至于硬著頭皮問了個(gè)什么問題，了無印象?！闭f到這里，讓我想起了我們一直以來所認(rèn)為的“好學(xué)生”，也無非是在“先記住老師的答案，然后進(jìn)行考試，最后再還給老師”的模式中培養(yǎng)出來的，我不能說這種方式一無是處，但它的確存在著很大的缺漏。

最近，楊瀾在一檔訪談節(jié)目中還說道：“很多學(xué)外語出身的主持人如今都很優(yōu)秀，比如許戈輝、水均益、芮成鋼……就是因?yàn)樵诤芏嘤⒄Z課上老師都會(huì)要求學(xué)生們當(dāng)眾進(jìn)行演講的練習(xí)，而在我們從小的語文課中從來都是寫的比說的要多，要么就是進(jìn)行文章的分析，很少有說話的訓(xùn)練。所以我們這些學(xué)外語出身的能培養(yǎng)出良好的語言表達(dá)能力算是‘曲線救國(guó)’，因?yàn)橛⑽难葜v訓(xùn)練了我們的口語能力。”

有一位老師曾經(jīng)說過這樣一段話，她說：“我認(rèn)為。學(xué)生的提問和口語表達(dá)能力太重要了。有時(shí)候。學(xué)生從不同的角度對(duì)一件事情提出的問題會(huì)比我一個(gè)人提供的答案有價(jià)值得多，而良好的口頭表達(dá)則能夠讓你擁有更多的機(jī)會(huì)和人緣，讓你的人生事半功倍，也會(huì)讓你變得更加優(yōu)秀。”

其實(shí)，優(yōu)秀是一種習(xí)慣，無論是課堂上的提問，還是生活中的疑惑，我們都應(yīng)該大膽地向世界發(fā)問，這是一種積極的生命態(tài)度。如果我們已經(jīng)長(zhǎng)久地習(xí)慣于被動(dòng)地從外界獲得知識(shí)，從而進(jìn)入和了解他人的世界，那么，為什么不給自己一次機(jī)會(huì)，一個(gè)有益的嘗試，用語言表達(dá)出內(nèi)心的疑惑并認(rèn)真地尋找答案呢？要知道，我們的世界可以很大，也可以很小，而比進(jìn)入外在世界更重要的，是打開你自己的世界。

第五篇：不要讓世界改變了自己美文

在一家超市里，父親、母親、年輕的兒子一家三口人在完成了家庭購(gòu)物計(jì)劃之后，父親讓兒子將使用過的購(gòu)物手推車送回到原來的地方。

“爸爸，你看到?jīng)]有，手推車扔得到處都是，沒有一個(gè)人送還的，這也是超市專門雇人負(fù)責(zé)收集歸攏手推車的原因?！?/p>

父親耐心地教導(dǎo)著兒子：“那么，兒子，你認(rèn)為送還手推車是不是一件有益的事情呢？”

兒子陷入了沉默，短暫的沉默之后，母親插言道：“這不是什么大不了的事情，別太苛求兒子了，我們回家吧?！?/p>

當(dāng)父親正要放棄自己的要求時(shí)，他看到，一對(duì)年邁的老夫婦一人推著一輛手推車，將它們送還到了原來的地方。

目睹這一情景，父親再次對(duì)兒子說道：“兒子，這世界上共有兩種人：一種人用過手推車后，將它隨處一扔了事；另一種人則會(huì)將它送還回去。我希望你做送還回去的那種人?，F(xiàn)在，你把手推車送回去吧。”

顯而易見地，這個(gè)故事并不是在探討送不送手推車的問題，它探討的是在一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單行為背后的價(jià)值認(rèn)知問題。

這個(gè)故事其實(shí)在提示我們：這個(gè)世界上有這樣兩種人：

一種人總是去做自己認(rèn)為正確、有益的事；

另一種人則是尋找理由不去做這樣的事情。

第一種人無疑是可貴的，但更可貴的是，這種人無論別人做不做，他們都會(huì)堅(jiān)定的去做他們認(rèn)為正確的事情。

這并非因?yàn)樗麄冋J(rèn)為這樣的行為會(huì)改變世界，而是因?yàn)樗麄儾幌胱屖澜绺淖冏约骸?/p>