第一篇：謝莉·桑德伯格 Sandberg在哈佛畢業(yè)典禮上的演講(英文)

桑德伯格哈佛商學院畢業(yè)演講

The speech given by Facebook COO, Sheryl Kara Sandberg at Harvard University

It‘s an honor to be here today to address HBS‘s distinguished faculty, proud parents, patient guests, and most importantly, the class of 2012.Today was supposed to be a day of unbridled celebration and I know that‘s no longer true.I join all of you in grieving for your classmate Nate.There are no words which can make this better.Though laden with sadness, today still marks a distinct and impressive achievement for this class.So please join me in giving our warmest congratulations to this class.When Dean Nohria asked me to speak here today, I thought, come talk to a group of people way younger and cooler than I am? I can do that.I do that every day at Facebook.I like being surrounded by young people, except when they say to me, ―What was it like being in college without the internet?‖ or worse,‖ Sheryl, can you come here? We need to see what old people think of this feature.‖

When I was a student here 17 years ago, I studied social marketing with Professor Kash Rangan.One of the many examples Kash used to explain the concept of social marketing was the lack of organ donors in this country, which kills 18 people every single day.Earlier this month, Facebook launched a tool to support organ donations, something that stems directly from Kash‘s work.Kash, we are all grateful for your dedication.SANDBERG‘S HARVARD SECTION TRIED TO HAVE THE SCHOOL‘S FIRST ONLINE CLASS It wasn‘t really that long ago when I was sitting where you are, but the world has changed an awful lot.My section, section B, tried to have HBS‘s first online class.We had to use an AOL chat room and dial up service.(Your parents can explain to you later what dial-up service is.)We had to pass out a list of screen names because it was unthinkable to put your real name on the internet.And it never worked.It kept crashing.The world just wasn‘t set up for 90 people to communicate at once online.But for a few brief moments, we glimpsed the future – a future where technology would power who we are and connect us to our real colleagues, our real family, our real friends.It used to be that in order to reach more people than you could talk to in a day, you had to be rich and famous and powerful.You had to be a celebrity, a politician, a CEO.But that‘s not true today.Now ordinary people have voice, not just those of us lucky to go to HBS, but anyone with access to Facebook, Twitter, a mobile phone.This is disrupting traditional power structures and leveling traditional hierarchy.Control and power are shifting from institutions to individuals, from the historically powerful to the historically powerless.And all of this is happening so much faster than I could have imagined when I was sitting where you are today – and Mark Zuckerberg was 11 years old.?WE WOULDN‘T EVEN THINK ABOUT HIRING SOMEONE LIKE YOU‘ As the world becomes more connected and less hierarchical, traditional career paths are shifting as well.In 2001, after working in the government, I moved out to Silicon Valley to try to find a job.My timing wasn‘t really that good.The bubble had crashed.Small companies were closing.Big companies were laying people off.One CEO looked at me and said, ―we wouldn‘t even think about hiring someone like you.‖

After a while I had a few offers and I had to make a decision, so what did I do? I am MBA trained, so I made a spreadsheet.I listed my jobs in the columns and my criteria in the rows.One of the jobs on that sheet was to become Google‘s first Business Unit general manager, which sounds good now, but at the time no one thought consumer internet companies could ever make money.I was not sure there was actually a job there at all;Google had no business units, so what was there to generally manage? And the job was several levels lower than jobs I was being offered at other companies.So I sat down with Eric Schmidt, who had just become the CEO, and I showed him the spreadsheet and I said, this job meets none of my criteria.He put his hand on my spreadsheet and he looked at me and said, ―Don‘t be an idiot.‖

EXCELLENT CAREER ADVICE: ?GET ON A ROCKET SHIP‘

Excellent career advice.And then he said, ―Get on a rocket ship.When companies are growing quickly and having a lot of impact, careers take care of themselves.And when companies aren‘t growing quickly or their missions don‘t matter as much, that‘s when stagnation and politics come in.If you‘re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don‘t ask what seat.Just get on.‖

About six and one-half years later, when I was leaving Google, I took that advice to heart.I was offered CEO jobs at a bunch of companies, but I went to Facebook as COO.At the time people said, why are you going to work for a 23-year-old? THE METAPHOR FOR A CAREER IS NO LONGER A LADDER;IT‘S A JUNGLE GYM The traditional metaphor for careers is a ladder, but I no longer think that metaphor holds.It just doesn‘t make sense in a less hierarchical world.When I was first at Facebook, a woman named Lori Goler, a 1997 graduate of HBS, was working in marketing at eBay and I knew her a bit socially.She called me and said, ―I want to talk with you about coming to work with you at Facebook.So I thought about calling you and telling you all the things I‘m good at and all the things I like to do.But I figured that everyone is doing that.So instead I want to know what‘s your biggest problem and how can I solve it?‖

My jaw hit the floor.I‘d hired thousands of people up to that point in my career, but no one had ever said anything like that.I had never said anything like that.Job searches are always about the job searcher, but not in Lori‘s case.I said, ―You‘re hired.My biggest problem is recruiting and you can solve it.‖ So Lori changed fields into something she never thought she‘d do, went down a level to start in a new field.She has since been promoted and runs all of People Operations at Facebook and is doing an extraordinary job.Lori has a great metaphor for careers.She says they‘re not a ladder, they‘re a jungle gym.LOOK FOR GROWTH, IMPACT AND MISSION.MOVE SIDEWAYS, DOWN, ON AND OFF As you start your post-HBS career, look for opportunities, look for growth, look for impact, look for mission.Move sideways, move down, move on, move off.Build your skills, not your resume.Evaluate what you can do, not the title they‘re going to give you.Do real work.Take a sales quota, a line role, an ops job.Don‘t plan too much, and don‘t expect a direct climb.If I had mapped out my career when I was sitting where you are, I would have missed my career.You are entering a different business world than I entered.Mine was just starting to get connected.Yours is hyper-connected.Mine was competitive.Yours is way more competitive.Mine moved quickly, yours moves even more quickly.As traditional structures are breaking down, leadership has to evolve as well – from hierarchy to shared responsibility, from command and control to listening and guiding.You‘ve been trained by this great institution not just to be part of these trends, but to lead.As you lead in this new world, you will not be able to rely on who you are or the degree you hold.You‘ll have to rely on what you know.Your strength will not come from your place on some org chart, but from building trust and earning respect.You‘re going to need talent, skill, and imagination and vision.But more than anything else, you‘re going to need the ability to communicate authentically, to speak so that you inspire the people around you and to listen so that you continue to learn each and every day on the job.?MOMMY, WHAT IS GROWING IN YOUR BUTT?‘

If you watch young children, you‘ll immediately notice how honest they are.My friend Betsy from my section a few years after business school was pregnant with her second child.Her first child was about five and said, ―Mommy, where is the baby?‖ She said, ―The baby is in my tummy.‖ He said, ?Aren‘t the baby‘s arms in your arms?‖ She said, ―No, the baby‘s in my tummy.‖ ―Are the baby‘s legs in your legs?‖ ―No, the whole baby is in my tummy.‖ Then he said, ?Then Mommy, what is growing in your butt?‖

As adults, we are never this honest.And that‘s not a bad thing.I have borne two children and the last thing I needed were those comments.But it‘s not always a good thing either.Because all of us, and especially leaders, need to speak and hear the truth.The workplace is an especially difficult place for anyone to tell the truth, because no matter how flat we want our organizations to be, all organizations have some form of hierarchy.This means that one person‘s performance is assessed by someone else‘s perception.This is not a setup for honesty.Think about how people speak in a typical workforce.Rather than say, ―I disagree with our expansion strategy‖ or better yet, ―this seems truly stupid.‖ They say, ―I think there are many good reasons why we‘re entering this new line of business, and I‘m certain the management team has done a thorough ROI analysis, but I‘m not sure we have fully considered the downstream effects of taking this step forward at this time.‖ As we would say at Facebook, three letters: WTF.?TRUTH IS BETTER USED BY USING SIMPLE LANGUAGE‘ Truth is better used by using simple language.Last year, Mark decided to learn Chinese and as part of studying, he would spend an hour or so each week with some of our employees who were native Chinese speakers.One day, one of them was trying to tell him something about her manager.She said this long sentence and he said, ―simpler please.‖ And then she said it again and he said, ―no, I still don‘t understand, simpler please‖…and so on and so on.Finally, in sheer exasperation, she burst out, ―my manager is bad.‖ Simple and clear and very important for him to know.People rarely speak this clearly in the workforce or in life.And as you get more senior, not only will people speak less clearly to you but they will overreact to the small things you say.When I joined Facebook, one of the things I had to do was build the business side of the company and put some systems into place.But I wanted to do it without destroying the culture that made Facebook great.So one of the things I tried to do was encourage people not to do formal PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me.I would say things like, ―Don‘t do PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me.Instead, come in with a list of what you want to discuss.‖ But everyone ignored me and they kept doing their presentations meeting after meeting, month after month.So about two years in, I said, ―OK, I hate rules but I have a rule: no more PowerPoint in my meetings.‖

About a month later I was about to speak to our global sales team on a big stage and someone came up to me and said, ―Before you get on that stage, you really should know everyone‘s pretty upset about the no PowerPoint with clients thing.‖ So I got on the stage and said, ―one, I meant no PowerPoint with me.But two, more importantly, next time you hear something that‘s really stupid, don‘t adhere to it.Fight it or ignore it, even if it‘s coming from me or Mark.‖

A good leader recognizes that most people won‘t feel comfortable challenging authority, so it falls upon authority to encourage them to question.It‘s easy to say that you‘re going to encourage feedback but it‘s hard to do, because unfortunately it doesn‘t always come in a format we want to hear.?BEING PART OF MY TEAM MEANT THAT I HAD TO KNOW YOU‘

When I first started at Google, I had a team of four people and it was really important to me that I interview everyone.For me, being part of my team meant I had to know you.When the team had grown to about 100 people, I realized it was taking longer to schedule my interviews.So one day at my meeting of just my direct reports, I said ―maybe I should stop interviewing‖, fully expecting them to jump in and say ―no, your interviews are a critical part of the process.‖ They applauded.Then they fell over themselves explaining that I was the bottleneck of all time.I was embarrassed.Then I was angry and I spent a few hours just quietly fuming.Why didn‘t they tell me I was a bottleneck? Why did they let me go on slowing them down? Then I realized that if they hadn‘t told me, it was my fault.I hadn‘t convinced them that I wanted that feedback and I would have to change that going forward.When you‘re the leader, it is really hard to get good and honest feedback, no many how many times you ask for it.One trick I‘ve discovered is that I try to speak really openly about the things I‘m bad at, because that gives people permission to agree with me, which is a lot easier than pointing it out in the first place.To take one of many possible examples, when things are unresolved I can get a tad anxious.Really, when anything‘s unresolved, I get anxious.I‘m quite certain no one has accused me of being too calm.So I speak about it openly and that gives people permission to tell me when it‘s happening.But if I never said anything, would anyone who works at Facebook walk up to me and say, ―Hey Sheryl, calm down.You‘re driving us all nuts!‖ I don‘t think so.?WHEN YOU GET HONESTY BACK, WILL YOU REACT WITH ANGER OR WITH GRATITUDE?‘

As you graduate today, ask yourself, how will you lead.Will you use simple and clear language? Will you seek out honesty? When you get honesty back, will you react with anger or with gratitude? As we strive to be more authentic in our communication, we should also strive to be more authentic in a broader sense.I talk a lot about bringing your whole self to work—something I believe in deeply.Motivation comes from working on things we care about.But it also comes from working with people we care about.And in order to care about someone, you have to know them.You have to know what they love and hate, what they feel, not just what they think.If you want to win hearts and minds, you have to lead with your heart as well as your mind.I don‘t believe we have a professional self from Mondays through Fridays and a real self for the rest of the time.That kind of division probably never worked, but in today‘s world, with real and authentic voice, it makes even less sense.CRYING AT WORK: YES, SHE‘S DONE IT BUT NOT EXACTLY ON ZUCKERBERG‘S SHOULDER

I‘ve cried at work.I‘ve told people I‘ve cried at work.And it‘s been reported in the press that ?Sheryl Sandberg cried on Mark Zuckerberg‘s shoulder‘, which is not exactly what happened.I talk about my hopes and fears and ask people about theirs.I try to be myself – honest about my strengths and weaknesses – and I encourage others to do the same.It is all professional and it is all personal, all at the very same time.I recently started speaking up about the challenges women face in the workforce, something I only had the courage to do in the last few years.Before this, I did my career like everyone else does it.I never told anyone I was a girl.Don‘t tell.I left the lights on when I went home to do something for my kids.I locked my office door and pumped milk for my babies while I was on conference calls.People would ask, ―what‘s that sound?‖ I would say, ―What sound?‖ ―I hear a beep.‖ ―Oh, there‘s a fire truck outside my office.‖

But the lack of progress over the past decade has convinced me we need to start talking about this.I graduated from HBS in 1995 and I thought it was completely clear that by the time someone from my year was invited to speak at this podium, we would have achieved equality in the workforce.But women at the top — C-level jobs — are stuck at 15-16 percent and have not moved in a decade.Not even close to 50% and no longer growing.We need to acknowledge openly that gender remains an issue at the highest levels of leadership.The promise of equality is not equality.We need to start talking about this.?AS A WOMAN IS MORE SUCCESSFUL IN YOUR WORKPLACES, SHE WILL BE LESS LIKED‘

We need to start talking about how women underestimate their abilities compared to men and how for women, but not men, success and likeability are negatively correlated.That means that as a woman is more successful in your workplaces, she will be less liked.This means that women need a different form of management and mentorship, a different form of sponsorship and encouragement than men.There aren‘t enough senior women out there to do it, so it falls upon the men who are graduating today just as much or more as the women, not just to talk about gender but to help these women succeed.When they hear a woman is really great at her job but not liked, take a deep breath and ask why.We need to start talking openly about the flexibility all of us need to have both a job and a life.A couple of weeks ago in an interview I said that I leave the office at 5:30 p.m.to have dinner with my children.I was shocked at the press coverage.One of my friends said I couldn‘t get more headlines if I had murdered someone with an ax.This showed me this is an unresolved issue for all of us, men and women alike.Otherwise, everyone would not write so much about it.?WE NEED MORE WOMEN NOT JUST TO SIT AT THE TABLE, BUT TO TAKE THEIR RIGHTFUL SEATS‘

And maybe, most importantly, we need to start talking about how fewer women than men, even from places like HBS, even likely in this class, aspire to the very top jobs.We will not close the leadership gap until we close the professional ambition gap.We need more women not just to sit at the table, but as President Obama said a few weeks ago at Barnard, to take their rightful seats at the head of the table.One of the reasons I was so excited to be here today is that this is the 50th anniversary of letting women into this school.Dean Noria, who is so passionate about getting more women into leadership positions, told me that he wanted me to speak this year for that reason.I met a woman from that first class once.She told me that when they first came in, they took a men‘s room and converted it to a woman‘s room.But they left the urinals in.She thought the message was clear – ?we are not sure this whole woman thing is going to work out and if not, we don‘t want to have to reinstall the urinals.‘ The urinals are long gone.Let‘s make sure that no one ever misses them.FOUR THINGS SANDBERG WISHES FOR HARVARD‘S GRADUATING CLASS OF 2012 As you and your classmates spread out across the globe and walk across this stage tomorrow, I wish for you four things: First, keep in touch via Facebook.This is critical to your future success!And since we‘re public now, why you are there, click on an ad or two.Two, that you make the effort to speak as well as seek the truth.Three, that you remain true to and open about your authentic self.And four, that your generation accomplishes what mine has failed to do.Give us a world where half our homes are run by men and half our institutions are run by women.I‘m pretty sure that would be a better world.I join everyone here in offering my most sincere congratulations to the HBS Class of 2012.Give yourselves a huge round of applause.

第二篇：雪莉 桑德伯格在哈佛2014年畢業(yè)典禮上的演講（模版）

雪莉 桑德伯格在哈佛2014年畢業(yè)典禮上的演講

祝賀所有人，你們做到了。我指的不是大學畢業(yè)，而你們成功出席今天的畢業(yè)典禮。如果我沒記錯，某些同學雖然昨晚在香港具廳喝了太多蝎子碗調酒，但今天還是來了。由于天氣，這種哈 佛還沒有弄清如何控制的現(xiàn)象，還胡同學正在溫暖的地方喝熱可可飲料。所以，你們有很多為今天出席畢業(yè)日活動感到自豪的理由。

祝賀你們的家長，你們花了很多錢，讓子女能夠說自己是從波士頓附近的這所“小學?！碑厴I(yè)的。還要感謝2014屆畢業(yè)生邀請我來到這次盛典。這對我價值巨大。看到過往演講者的名單讓人有些敬畏，我肯定沒有艾米波樂那么搞笑，但我至少比特雷薩修女更幽默。

25年前，一個當時還不認識，但以后成為我丈夫的男人戴夫，從在你們現(xiàn)在從的地方。23年前，我從在你們現(xiàn)在從的地方。戴夫和我這個周末，帶著可愛的子女回校，我們都有相同的三角：哈佛的籃球隊太棒了！

站在校園中，回憶泉涌。1987年的秋天，我從邁阿密來到這里，懷揣著偉大的夢想，還胡更夸張的發(fā)型。我被分配到哈佛偉大建筑的一座歷史豐碑~卡納迪樓，我是說真的，我當時穿著牛仔裙，白色暖褲襪套，運動鞋，還有一件弗羅里達羊毛衫。因為當時我的父母告訴我，所有人都會認為來自弗里達的人很酷。至少，我們那時沒有。

對我而言，哈佛給了我很多第一次，包括我的第一件冬裝，在邁阿密沒有人需要冬裝。我的第一份10頁的論文，高中沒有人會布置這么長的作業(yè)。我第一次得C，這之后，我的學監(jiān)告訴我說，她在招生委員會，她招我進來不是因為我的學術潛能，而是因為我的品性。我在寄宿學校看到的第一個人，我就覺得這個人會是個大麻煩。我還碰到了第一個名字同整座建筑一樣的人，這個人名字叫做薩拉威格爾斯沃斯，她和那棟宿舍樓沒有關系，當時我很震驚，知道她和宿舍樓沒有關系后，我松了一口氣。之后，我還碰到了其他人，弗朗西斯斯特勞斯，詹姆斯威爾斯，杰西卡科學中心B。我第一們愛，第一們讓我心碎的人。我第一次認識到自己熱愛學習，第一次也是最后一次遇到有在讀拉丁文。

我畢業(yè)那年，我想好自己以后有什么計劃，我要進世界銀行，對抗全球貧窮，然后我要去法學院，然后我將非營利機構或政府工作，你們院長也講了，在明天的哈佛畢業(yè)典禮上，每個學院都 要起立并一同畢業(yè)，本科部、法學院、醫(yī)學院等等。我畢業(yè)時，我們班為博士生歡呼，然后噓了商學院，商學院似乎很不受歡迎。但，18個月后，我就申請了商學院。

我對自己畢業(yè)后的數十年規(guī)劃其實并沒錯，計劃只錯在了一年后，就算我算到了自己會在私營企業(yè)工作，我肯定算不到自己會在臉譜，那時候沒有互聯(lián)網。那時候馬克扎克伯格還在讀小學，已經開始穿他的標志性帽衫了。沒有太早鎖死自己的道路，讓我有機會進入改變生活的全新領域。有些人可能認為我運氣好，我想說，卡納迪樓后，我又被安排到了設計院。

從你們所坐的地方到你們要去的地方是沒有直路的，不要嘗試畫這樣的直線，這不僅會出錯，還會錯失的大的機遇，例如像互聯(lián)網這樣。

職業(yè)不是梯子，那種時代一去不返了，職業(yè)更像是立體方格鐵架，不要只上下移動，不要只往上看，還要往回，往旁邊看，看轉角周圍。你的職業(yè)和生活會有始終，會有曲折，不要對未來的道路太過憂慮，因為生活中充滿了驚喜和機遇，你需要對各處可能性持開放態(tài)度。今天我要講的最重要的一點就是，對誠實保持開放的態(tài)度。相互之間說老實話，對自己誠實，也對我們所生活的世界誠實。

看看身邊的孩子，你就知道他們有多誠實，我朋友貝琪懷孕后，她五歲的兒子山姆想知道寶寶在她身體里的什么地方。李問，媽媽，寶寶的胳膊在你的胳膊里嗎？她說，不是，整個寶寶在我的肚子里。他又問，媽媽，寶寶的腿在你的腿里嗎？她回答，不山姆，整個寶寶都在我肚子里。然后，山姆問道，那的屁股里有什么？

作為成年人，我們幾乎一直很誠實，這是很難得的好事。我懷孕的時候，我問我丈夫我的屁股有沒有變大，起初他說沒有，但我不斷施壓，最后，他說，好吧，有一點。我的小姑子一直說我丈夫，也是你們以后在生活中經常會聽到有說到的：“這家伙竟然是哈佛出來的?！?/p>

在人一旅途中，如果聽到一些真話會對我們很有幫助，我在你們這個年齡的時候，還沒有俯到這一點。在我畢業(yè)的時候，我對愛情生活的關心大于事業(yè)，我認識自己沒有什么時間了，必須趕緊找個好男人結婚，以免所有好男人都被別人搶走，或者我太老了。于是，我搬到哥倫比亞特區(qū)，在我24歲的時候結婚了。那個男人很不錯，但我倆似乎總相處不好，我變得不知道自己是住，也不知道未來在哪里。一年不到，我的婚姻以失敗告終，當時我非常難堪，非常痛苦。很多朋友來安慰我，但毫無幫助，他們說：我就知道你們倆結婚是行不通的，我就知道你們倆不合適。沒有人在婚姻之前跟我說這些，事前告訴我這些肯定是會更有用。

我熬過了離婚后的這些痛苦的時光，我多希望他們原來有給過我建議，我多希望我曾經問過他們。而在我的職業(yè)生涯中，確實有人這無保留的地說出了實施。本科后，我和第一任老板是蘭特普得切特，肯尼迪學院授劉的一位經濟學家，他今天也在現(xiàn)場。我第二次考慮法學院時，蘭特跟我說，我不認為你應該去法學院，我也不認為你想去法學院。你認為自己應該去，大概只是你父母一直以來的要求。他注意到，我在談話中從未表現(xiàn)出對法律的任何興趣。我知道，相互之間坦誠相見有多么難，哪怕最親密的朋友，哪怕是在他們可能犯嚴重錯誤的時候，不過我敢打賭，在座的各位知道自己親密朋友的強項和弱項，知道他們可能掉落在哪個懸崖。我也敢打賭，大部分時候，你們并沒有告訴他們，他們也從沒問過。

去問這些問題，真相會越問越明。朋友誠實地回答時，你就知道他們是你真正的朋友了。

養(yǎng)成尋求反饋的習慣非常重要，特別是在離開學校系統(tǒng)，沒了考試和分數之后。很多工作中，如果你想知道自己干得怎么樣，你就需要去詢問，而且不要因為聽到不喜歡聽的而覺得受到冒犯。毫

無疑問，聽人批評絕對不會讓人高興，但我們只能在批評中進步。幾年前，馬無扎克伯格決定要學中文。為了練習，他開始嘗試在一些工作會議中，同中文母語同事交流。你們估計可以想到，他有有限的中文水平，會讓談話很難正常進行。一天，他問一位女性，有臉譜工作怎么樣。她用了一個很長很復雜的句子回答。他說，請簡單些。她又說了一次。請再簡單些！經過幾次之后，她只好說了一句很簡單的話~我的經理很糟糕！扎克伯格這次真的聽懂了。

通常，真相都成了避免沖突的犧牲品。我們在講真相時，總喜歡使用很多修飾，很多委婉語，淹沒了真正要傳達的信息。我希望你們在向他詢問真相的時候，能用簡單明了的語言相互交流。講到自己的真相時，也應該使用簡單明了的語言。

同他人坦誠相見很困難，坦誠對待自己的想法甚至更難。我有了小孩子后，經常會和自己說，我對工作不感到內疚，哪怕沒有人問的時候。有人跟我說，雪莉，今天過得如何。我會說，很棒，我對工作并不感到內疚。有人說，我需要一件羊毛衫嗎？我說，沒錯，外面很冷，我對荼工不感到內疚。我就像一只學舌的鸚鵡。

有天，我在跑步機上，正在讀社會學雜志上的論文。上面寫道，相比對他人撒謊，人們更喜歡對自己撒謊，而重復最多的那句話，通常就是謊言。

我臉上汗如雨下，心想，我重復最多的一句話是什么，我意識到了，我對工作感到內疚。我做了大量的研究，我同好友內爾斯克維爾花了一整年的時間，寫了一本書，講我的想法和感受。世界上很多女性都同它產生了共鳴，這讓我很欣慰。我的書名叫做《格雷的五十道陰影》，可見，你們很多人也都讀過這本書。

對于我們所生活的世界保持誠實，我們還有很多要做。我們并不總能看到真相，就算盾到了，我們經常也沒有大聲說出的勇氣。

我和同學們在讀大學時，認為性格平等的斗爭已經結束。沒錯，大部分待業(yè)的領袖都是男性，但改變應該只是時間的問題。那邊的拉蒙特圖書館，就在我們之前一代人的時間，不允許女性進入，但在我們畢業(yè)時，一切都平等了。哈佛和拉德克里夫完全統(tǒng)一了。

我們不需要婦權主義，因為我們已經得到了平等。我們錯了，我錯了，世界在那時并不平等，現(xiàn)在也不平等。我認為現(xiàn)如今，我們并不只是假裝沒看到真相，并對不平等視而不見，我們還在遭受低預期的踐踏。

在美國的上一個選舉周期，女性贏得了20%的參議院席位。所有報紙頭條都開始叫嚷，女性接管了參議院。我很想大聲回應說，等等，大伙，50%的人只占有了20%的席位，這不是接管，這是羞辱。

今年，就在幾個月前，硅谷一位很受人新生的知名商業(yè)經理人，邀請我到他的社交媒體俱樂部發(fā)表演講。幾個月之前，我去過這家俱樂部。一位朋友過生日邀我去的。建筑很漂亮，我在里面游蕩。欣賞她，找衛(wèi)生間。結果一位員工很肯定的告訴我，女衛(wèi)生間在那里，讓我務必不要上樓去，因為女性不允許進入這座建筑，我直到這時才意識到自己來到了一家全男性俱樂部。

剩下的整個晚上，我一直都納悶，自己來這里做什么，納悶其他人都在做什么，納悶舊金山會不會有朋友邀請我去一個不允許黑人、猶太人、亞洲人、或同性戀者的俱樂部派對。被邀請到這家俱樂部做商業(yè)演講，就更讓人不爽了，因為這根本就不是單純的社交活動場所。

我首先想到的是，這是真的嗎？真的?！断蚯耙徊健烦霭婧笠荒辏@個家伙竟然認為邀請我到一家全男懷俱樂部做演講是一個好主意。他不是一個，很多備受尊敬的商務人士，都和他一起發(fā)出這份邀請。

轉述格魯馬克思的一句話，別擔心，我不打算模仿他的聲音。我不會去任何不愿加我為會員的俱樂部做演講。我拒絕了。我還做一件，也許5年前我不會做的事，我回了一長篇飽含激情的電子郵件，告訴他們應當改變這一做法。他們感謝了我的迅速回函，寫到？也許情況最終會有所改變。我們的期望值太代了，最終需要轉化為立刻才行。

我們需要看到真相，講出真相。我們容忍歧視，假裝機會是平等的。沒錯，我們選舉了一位非裔美國人總統(tǒng)。但各族主義仍然無處不在，不錯，確實有女性掌握著財富500強企業(yè)，準確的說是5%。但我們的道路上，充滿了母老虎、跋扈老女人這樣的惡語。而我們的男性同行卻被尊為俯視，被認為成就卓著。

非裔美國女性總需要證明自己沒有生氣，拉丁裔總被打上暴躁急性子的標簽。臉譜有一群亞裔男女，胸口帶著牌子說，我有可能不夠好。

沒錯，哈佛有一位女性校長，也許兩年后，美國也會迎來首位女總統(tǒng)。但要實現(xiàn)目標，希拉里克林頓需要克服兩 大重要障礙，一是未知，通常也未疲理解的性別偏見；二是，更糟的，從耶魯獲得的文憑而不是哈佛。

你們可以挑戰(zhàn)老一套的做法，在臉譜我們會貼海報激勵自己，完成重于完美，財富偏愛勇敢者，不要害怕，勇往直前。我最近又喜歡上一條，在臉譜沒有別人的問題。我希望你們也能這樣看問題，問題沒有別人 的問題。性別不平等對男性和女性都 沒有好處，各族主義對白人和少數族裔都是傷害，缺乏平等機會，讓我們所有人無法發(fā)揮自己的真正潛能。

在你們畢業(yè)的今天，我希望給你們一些壓力，讓你認識到，真相雖然有時難以接受，但很重要。不要逃避，碰到了就要勇于面對。

我第一次站出來，公開宣揚職場女權主義，僅僅是不到5年前。也就是說，畢業(yè)后，我有18年時間都保持著沉默。這種沉默似乎是在說，一切像這樣就行了。你們肯定能比我做的更好。我由衷的這樣認為。同時，我也希望給你們減一些壓力。今天坐在這里的你們，不需要知道自己應該如何走上正確的人生道路。向前一步，并不意味著你的前路將一帆風順。很多人對世界的重大貢獻都遠遠晚于馬克扎克伯格。找到你想爬的立體方格鐵架，并開始攀爬。你最終會找到你想做的事情，并最終獲得成功。

看到今天的你們，讓我充滿了希望。你們所有人都被錄取到波士頓附近這所小學校，也許由于學術潛質，也許由于個人品性。你們經歷第一次穿冬裝，第一次戀愛，或第一次C。你們更加了解自己是誰，以及自己想為什么。還有最重要的，你們體會到團結的力量。你們知道，雖然你們每個人都很出色，但團結起來，你們將會更強，并能發(fā)出更大的聲音。

我知道，你們永遠不會忘記哈佛，哈佛也不會忘記你們，特別是在下次募捐的時候。

明天，你們都將步入社會，這是一生的旅途，途中會碰到很好的機遇，也會有很重大的責任，你們能夠讓世界對于每個人更加公平。對自己和他人，你們需要坦誠相待，要求并創(chuàng)造真正平等的機會。不是最終，而是現(xiàn)在！順便說一下，明天你將獲得馬克扎克伯格所沒有的東西，一份哈佛學位。

祝賀每一位畢業(yè)生！

第三篇：Facebook首席運營官謝莉·桑德伯格在2012年哈佛畢業(yè)典禮上的演講(中英)

今天很榮幸來到這里為尊敬的哈佛商學院（HBS）的教授們，自豪的畢業(yè)生家長們和耐心的來賓們，尤其是為今年的畢業(yè)生們演講。

今天原本應該是狂歡的日子，不過我知道現(xiàn)在并不合適了（由于一名畢業(yè)生在歐洲突然死亡）讓我們一起為Nate同學表示哀悼，當然任何言語在這樣的悲劇前都蒼白無力。

盡管有悲傷縈繞在大家心頭，今天仍然象征著你們取得的杰出成績。所以讓我們一起為12屆的畢業(yè)生們獻上最熱烈的祝賀。

當尊敬的院長Nohria邀請我今天來做演講時，我想來給一群遠比我年輕有活力的人們演講？我沒問題。這正是我每天在Facebook做的事情。我喜歡和年輕人在一起，除了當他們問我，“

沒有互聯(lián)網的大學是怎樣的？”或者（更夸張）“謝麗爾，你能過來下么？我們想知道‘老人’會對這個新功能怎么看”這類問題。

17年前當我是哈佛的學生時，我上了Kash Rangan教授的“社交化營銷”。一個Kash用來解釋“社交化營銷”概念的例子就是美國在器官捐贈方面的不足，每天因此有18人死亡。本月早些

時候，F(xiàn)acebook推出了一款支持器官捐贈的工具，這是對Kash工作的直接應用。Kash，無論你今天坐在哪里，我們都十分感激你的貢獻。

所以也就在“不久”之前，我坐在你們現(xiàn)在的位置上。但是這個世界已經變化了很多。我所在的小組Section B曾嘗試進行HBS的第一次在線課程。我們用的是AOL的聊天室和電話撥號上網

服務。你們的父母可以向你們解釋什么是撥號上網。我們得給每人發(fā)一張寫有我們網名的列表，因為那時在網上用真名是件讓人難以想象的事。不過這完全不行。網一直斷，我們會被踢出聊

天室。因為當時的世界還無法讓90人同時在線交流。不過有幾個瞬間，我們（仿佛）看到了未來。一個由于科技進步讓我們和真實生活中的同事、家人和朋友（更好地）聯(lián)系在一起的未來。

過去如果想在一天內聯(lián)系到比你能見著面更多的人，你要么有錢，要么有名，要么有權。（你得是）名人，政客，或者CEO。但是今天不一樣了?，F(xiàn)在普通人也可以獲得話語權。不僅是那

些能到HBS讀書的幸運兒，而是任何能上Facebook，Twitter或者有（智能）手機的人。這正在打破傳統(tǒng)的權利結構，讓傳統(tǒng)的階層變得扁平。話語權正從機構轉向個人，從曾經有權有勢的人

轉向普通人。而且這一切的變化速度遠遠超出了當時就坐在你們今天位置上的我的想像。那時候，馬克·扎克伯格才十一歲。

當世界變得更緊密且更扁平時，傳統(tǒng)的職業(yè)生涯也在發(fā)生變化。2001年在為政府工作了幾年之后，(謝麗爾·桑德伯格當初為Larry Summers工作）我搬到硅谷找下一份工作。當時并不是

個好時機。泡沫破滅了。小公司都在倒閉，大公司都在裁員。一個女性CEO看著我說，“我們根本不會考慮招你這樣的人?！?/p>

過了一段時間，我有了幾個offers。需要做決定了，那么我是怎么做的呢？（由于）我受過MBA的訓練，所以我做了一個Excel表。我把工作都列了出來并且一行行把我的評判標準也列了

出來。比較公司的遠景，工作的職責等。表格中有一個工作是去做Google的第一個業(yè)務部總經理。這現(xiàn)在聽起來很不錯，但是當時沒人相信直接面對消費者的互聯(lián)網公司可以賺錢。我都不敢

確定那兒是不是真有這樣的職位；Google就沒有業(yè)務部，那要我去總管什么呢？何況那職位比我在其他公司得到的offers都要低好幾級。

后來我和當時剛剛上任的CEO艾里克·施密特見了面，我給他看了我的列表。我說，“這份工作完全不合我的選擇標準。”他用手按住我的表格。看著我說：“不要犯傻?！?/p>

極佳的職業(yè)忠告。然后他說，“（重要的是）坐上火箭。當公司在飛速發(fā)展而產生很大影響力時，事業(yè)自然也會突飛猛進。當公司發(fā)展較慢時，或者公司前景一般時，停滯和（辦公室）

政治就會出現(xiàn)。如果你得到了坐上火箭的機會，別管是什么位置，上去就行。”

大概六年半之后，當我要離開Google的時候，我記住了這句忠告。當時好幾家公司請我去做CEO，但是我去了Facebook做COO（首席運營官）。那時有人問你為什么要去給一個23歲的（大

學生）打工？

職業(yè)發(fā)展通常會被比作“爬階梯”。但我認為這個比喻不再恰當了。在越來越扁平的世界里，這種說法是沒有意義的。我剛到Facebook的時候，97屆HBS的校友Lori Goler還在eBay做市場

營銷。我和她曾在某個社交場合上認識。她打電話給我說，“我想和你談談到Facebook和你一起工作的事，我想到給你打電話，和你說我有哪些特長以及我想做的事情。但我知道所有人都會

這樣說。所以我就想知道什么是你現(xiàn)在最棘手的問題，我又該如何幫你解決這個問題？”

我感動得五體投地。那時我一路過來，雇了上千人，但是從來沒有人對我這樣說過。我自己也從來沒有這樣說過。找工作一直是關于找工作的人（是怎樣，要什么）。但是Lori不是這樣

想的。我說，“你被錄用了。我最大的問題就是招人，你可以幫我?！敝驦ori就換到了這個她自己都從未想過去做的領域，還降了一級，重新開始。之后她被升職，負責整個Facebook的人

事運行，現(xiàn)在做得非常好，（在公司）有很大的影響力。

Lori對職業(yè)有個很好的比喻。她說職業(yè)不是階梯，而是(游樂場里兒童玩的）立方格攀登架。

當你們開始HBS之后的職業(yè)生涯時，（你們應該）尋找機會，追隨成長，力求影響力，發(fā)現(xiàn)遠景，可以平調，降級，升職，甚至換新的領域。培養(yǎng)你的技能，而不是填充你的簡歷。根據你

能做的事來評判工作，而不是你可以得到的職位。做真正的工作。接受一個銷售目標，一個生產線上的工作，一個涉及運營方面的工作，別作太多計劃，也別要求要“青云直上”。如果我在

坐在你們的位置上時就計劃好我的職業(yè)，我會錯過我現(xiàn)在的職業(yè)。

你們現(xiàn)在正邁入一個和我當時不同的世界我的世界剛剛開始被連接起來，你的世界已經超級連接在一起。我當時競爭很激烈。你們現(xiàn)在的競爭更加激烈。我的世界變化很快，你的世界變

化更快。

在這個傳統(tǒng)結構正被打破的時代，領導班子也需要演變。從設立階層到責任共享，從命令與控制到聆聽和引導。你在HBS這個偉大的學院學習不僅是為了能夠跟上浪潮，更重要的是能去引

領潮流。

當你在這個新世界里乘風破浪時，你能依靠的不是你是誰也不是你的學位。你要依靠的是你的知識。你的力量不會源自你在公司的位置，而來自于建立信任，獲得尊敬。你會需要天賦，技能，想象力和視野。不過最最重要的是，具有真誠溝通的能力，既能鼓舞你身邊的人，又能聆聽他們的建議，在每一天的工作中不斷學習進步。

如果你留意小孩，你會立刻發(fā)現(xiàn)他們是多么的真實。我的一個HBS小組里的朋友Betsy在畢業(yè)后幾年懷上了第二個孩子。她的第一個小孩，Sam，那時大概五歲。Sam環(huán)視了下她問，“媽媽，小寶寶在哪里?。俊彼f，“小寶寶在我肚子里?！彼f，“真的么？難道小寶寶的手不在你的手里？”她說，“不，小寶寶在我肚子里。”“真的？小寶寶的腿不在你腿里？”“不，整

個寶寶都在我肚子里啊?！比缓笏f，“那么媽媽，為什么你的屁股越來越大？”

作為成年人，我們從不如此直接。這未必是件壞事。我也是兩個孩子的媽媽，我最不想聽到的恐怕就是這些評論，當然這些評論用在我身上也確實沒錯。但是那也不總是件好事。因為我

們所有人，尤其是領導者，需要說真話，聽真話。

在工作環(huán)境中，說真話尤其得難，因為無論我們多希望將組織架構扁平化，所有的組織都會有某種層級。這就意味著一個員工的表現(xiàn)會由別人對其印象來評估。

這是不鼓勵真誠的設計。想象一下人們在典型的工作環(huán)境中是如何溝通的。人們不說“我不同意我們的擴張策略”或者，更好，“這看起來真傻。”人們會說，“我知道進入這個新領域

有眾多好處，而且我相信管理團隊一定做過細致的投資回報分析，不過，我不確定我們是否完整地考慮了在這個時刻采取這個方案會產生的所有后果。（對此就該用）我們在Facebook或者互

聯(lián)網上常說的三個字：WTF。

事實最好用簡短的語言來表達。去年，馬克·扎克伯格決定開始學中文。作為學習的一部分，他每周會花大約一個小時的時間和一些來自中國的員工交談。有一天，有一個員工談到了她 的老板。她說了一通之后，馬克說，“請說簡單點。”她再說了一遍之后，他說，“不行，我還是沒明白，請再簡單點。”就這樣來回了幾次。終于，她憤怒地說道，“我老板壞！”簡單明

了，而且非常重要，需要讓馬克知道。

在工作或者生活中，人們很少會把話說那么明了。尤其是當你的級別上升后，人們不僅不會和你把話說清楚，還會對你所說的小事反應過激。當我加入Facebook的時候，我的職責之一就

是把公司商業(yè)那塊給建立起來，將其系統(tǒng)化。但是我不想破壞Facebook原有的文化。我嘗試的一件事就是鼓勵人們和我開會時不要做正式的PPT。我會說，“和我開會不用做PPT。”把你想討

論的事列出來就行。但是所有人都無視我的要求，仍然在做PPT，就這樣一個又一個會議，一個月又一個月，沒有改變。大概兩年后，我說，“OK，我不喜歡條條框框，但我要定個規(guī)矩，和我

開會不用做PPT。我是認真的。別再做了。”

大約一個月之后，我在一個大型場合正要和全球銷售團隊講話，一個同事上來對我說，“在你上臺之前，大家對你制定的‘和客戶會面不做PPT’的規(guī)定很有意見?！蔽艺f，“什么‘ 和

客戶會面不做PPT’？”他們說：“你制定了一個規(guī)定：不做PPT?！敝笪疑狭伺_就說，“首先，我說的是和我開會不用PPT。其次，更重要的是，下次你們聽到一些你們認為很傻的話，不要

去遵循它，而要去提意見或者無視它，哪怕你知道那話是我或者馬克說的?！?/p>

一個好的領導者知道大部分人不愿意去挑戰(zhàn)權威，所以領導者有義務去鼓勵大家來質疑。當然說鼓勵反饋容易，做起來難。因為聽到的反饋往往不是我們想要的那種。

當我剛開始在Google工作時，我的團隊里面有四個人。所以對我而言，由我自己來面試團隊的每個成員就尤其重要。要成為我的團隊的一份子，我必須了解你。當團隊增長到大約有100人 的時候，我意識到在面試上花的時間越來越多。所以有一天在我的報告會上，我說也許我應該停止面試。那時我完全預計他們會打斷我說，“不行，你的面試是流程中很重要的一步?！保ㄈ?/p>

而）他們都對此非常贊賞。然后他們轉過來解釋說我一直都是流程中的瓶頸。我先是覺得羞愧，然后惱怒。我花了幾個小時的時間生悶氣。他們?yōu)槭裁床桓嬖V我我是瓶頸？為什么他們不阻止

我拖大家的后腿？后來我明白了：如果沒人告訴我，那這就是我的錯。我還不夠開懷并主動告訴大家我希望得到反饋。我決定從此改變這點。

當你是領導，得到有用的真實的反饋是很難的，哪怕你反復要求。我發(fā)現(xiàn)的一個小技巧是嘗試主動地談論你的某些缺點。因為這樣會讓人愿意來認同我，這比直接指出我的缺點要容易許

多。從眾多可能中舉個例子來說，當事情沒有搞定時，我會有點焦躁。真的，只要有事情沒有搞定，我會變得非常焦躁。我敢肯定沒人會說我過于冷靜。后來我就主動地談論這個缺點，讓大

家來認同我，因而可以在我焦躁時告誡我但是如果我對此一句不提，會有Facebook的員工，走上來對我說，“嘿，謝麗爾，冷靜點。你快把我們搞瘋了！”我可不這樣認為。

在你們畢業(yè)的今天，問自己你將如何去領導，你會用簡單明了的語言？你會追尋真實的反饋？當你得到真實的反饋，你會憤怒還是感激？

當我們努力更真誠地溝通時，我們也應該在更多的意義上做到真實。我經常會說帶著“完整的自己”去上班，這是我深深相信的一點。

工作的動力來自于做我們在乎的事情，但也來自于和我們在乎的人一起工作。要做到在乎某人，你必須了解他們，你必須知道他們喜歡什么討厭什么，他們會有什么樣的感受，而不只是

他們會想什么。如果你想得到人心，你必須用心去領導。我不相信周一到周五我們是職業(yè)的自己，其它時間才是真正的自己。類似這樣的分離從來就不太可行，在越來越提倡真實的當今世界

里，這就更沒有意義了。

我在工作時流過淚。我告訴過別人我在工作時流過淚。后來這被媒體報道成“謝麗爾·桑德伯格在馬克·扎克伯格的肩膀上哭泣”，事實當然不是如此。我會談論我的希望和恐懼，也會

詢問別人的希望和恐懼。我努力做真實的自己，直面我的優(yōu)點和缺點。我會鼓勵別人也這么做。一切都與職業(yè)相關，也都與個人相關，兩者無時無刻不交融在一起。

作為帶著“完整的自己”去上班的一部分努力，最近我開始公開談論女性在工作環(huán)境中面臨的挑戰(zhàn)。這也是我最近幾年才有勇氣做的事情。在此之前，我和大家一樣小心翼翼地在職場上

打拼。我從沒和別人強調“我是女兒身”。“不說”原則。當我暫時回家照顧下孩子時，我會把（辦公室的）燈留著。當我鎖上門在辦公室邊參加電話會議，邊為我的寶寶們擠奶時，有人會

問，“那是什么聲音？”我會說，“什么聲音？”“我聽到嗶的一聲”“噢，我窗外正好有一輛消防車?！?/p>

然而，由于我們在上個10年取得的進展很小，我決定要開始公開討論這點。我是1995年從HBS畢業(yè)的，當時我想等到我們這屆有人被邀請到這個講臺演講的時候，我們一定已經實現(xiàn)了工作

上的男女平等。但是在C-級別的工作上，女性的比例始終停留在15到16％。10年來一點都沒有變化。離50％還差很遠，而且更糟的是，已經停止增長。我們需要公開承認在執(zhí)行級別的領導層，性別仍然是個大問題。對平等的承諾不等于真正的平等。我們需要就此進行談論。

我們要討論女性相比男性為什么會低估自己的能力。而且和男性不同，對于女性，成功和受歡迎程度是反向相關的。這意味著一個女性在事業(yè)上越成功，她就會越不受人喜愛。這意味著

女性需要另一種形式的管理和輔導，另一種形式的支持和鼓勵，甚至一些保護，在某些方面，要比男性有更多的保護。

而且現(xiàn)在有資歷做這些的女性還太少，所以在座的男性畢業(yè)生們要和女性畢業(yè)生們一起肩負起這個責任，甚至更多。不僅僅討論性別，而且要幫助女性取得成功。當聽到一個工作上很優(yōu)

秀的女性不為人愛戴，深呼吸一下，問問自己這是為什么。

我們需要公開地探討我們都需要的靈活機制來平衡工作和生活。幾周前我接受了一個采訪，我說我會5點半離開公司去和我的小孩吃晚飯。我被由此而來的媒體報道震驚了。我的一個朋友

說她不確定就算我用斧子砍人，是否能上一樣多的頭條。我告訴她我對砍人沒興趣。不過這讓我明白，對于我們所有人，不管是男人還是女人，這是個未解決的問題。要不是這樣，為什么大

家會對此有那么多評論？

也許，最重要的是，我們應該開始討論為什么只有少數的女性，即便來自HBS，即便是你們這屆畢業(yè)生，渴望坐上最高的領導職位。我們無法彌補領導崗位上的差距，除非我們先彌補職業(yè)

抱負上的差距。我們需要更多的女性不僅僅坐在會議桌旁，而且要像奧巴馬總統(tǒng)幾周前在Barnard學校說的那樣，去光明正大地坐到主座上去。

我今天來這里十分激動的另一個原因是院長Nohria告訴我今年是第一次有女生進入HBS50周年。你們的院長對讓更多的女性進入領導崗位很執(zhí)著。他告訴我這就是為什么他請我來做今年的

演講者的原因。

有一次我遇到了那屆的一位女生。她告訴我當第一屆女生入學時，學校把一個男生洗手間改成了女生洗手間。沒錯吧。但是他們留下了小便池。她認為這里的信息很明確我們不確定這個

女生來上學的事是不是靠譜，萬一后來黃了，我們也不必重新安裝小便池?，F(xiàn)在這些小便池當然早就不在了。讓我們確保沒人會想念它們。

當你和你的同學們即將走向世界各地，當你們明天走出校園，我對你們有四個期望：

第一，通過Facebook保持聯(lián)系。這對于你們未來的成功而言很關鍵！另外，我們現(xiàn)在是上市公司了，所以當你上Facebook的時候請點擊一兩個廣告吧！

第二，努力說真話，求真知。

第三，保持你的“真我”，用你的“真我”待人。

第四，最由衷的一點，讓你們這代來實現(xiàn)我們這代沒有做到的。讓我們創(chuàng)造一個男女在家庭和工作都各撐半邊天的世界。我敢保證這會是個更美好的世界。

讓我們一起向2012年的畢業(yè)生們獻上最真摯的祝賀。和你們的“真我”一起，給你們自己一輪熱烈的掌聲吧！

英文原稿

It‘s an honor to be here today to address HBS‘s distinguished faculty, proud parents, patient guests, and most importantly, the class of 2012.Today was supposed to be a day of unbridled celebration and I know that‘s no longer true.I join all of you in grieving for your classmate Nate.There are no words which can make this better.Though laden with sadness, today still marks a distinct and impressive achievement for this class.So please join me in giving our warmest congratulations to this class.When Dean Nohria asked me to speak here today, I thought, come talk to a group of people way younger and cooler than I am? I can do that.I do that every day at Facebook.I like being surrounded by young people, except when they say to me, ―What was it like being in college without the internet?‖ or worse,‖ Sheryl, can you come here? We need to see what old people think of this feature.‖

When I was a student here 17 years ago, I studied social marketing with Professor Kash Rangan.One of the many examples Kash used to explain the concept of social marketing was the lack of organ donors in this country, which kills 18 people every single day.Earlier this month, Facebook launched a tool to support organ donations, something that stems directly from Kash‘s work.Kash, we are all grateful for your dedication.SANDBERG‘S HARVARD SECTION TRIED TO HAVE THE SCHOOL‘S FIRST ONLINE CLASS

It wasn‘t really that long ago when I was sitting where you are, but the world has changed an awful lot.My section, section B, tried to have HBS‘s first online class.We had to use an AOL chat room and dial up service.(Your parents can explain to you later what dial-up service is.)We had to pass out a list of screen names because it was unthinkable to put your real name on the internet.And it never worked.It kept crashing.The world just wasn‘t set up for 90 people to communicate at once online.But for a few brief moments, we glimpsed the future – a future where technology would power who we are and connect us to our real colleagues, our real family, our real friends.It used to be that in order to reach more people than you could talk to in a day, you had to be rich and famous and powerful.You had to be a celebrity, a politician, a CEO.But that‘s not true today.Now ordinary people have voice, not just those of us lucky to go to HBS, but anyone with access to Facebook, Twitter, a mobile phone.This is disrupting traditional power structures and leveling traditional hierarchy.Control and power are shifting from institutions to individuals, from the historically powerful to the historically powerless.And all of this is happening so much faster than I could have imagined when I was sitting where you are today – and Mark Zuckerberg was 11 years old.‘WE WOULDN‘T EVEN THINK ABOUT HIRING SOMEONE LIKE YOU‘

As the world becomes more connected and less hierarchical, traditional career paths are shifting as well.In 2001, after working in the government, I moved out to Silicon Valley to try to find a job.My timing wasn‘t really that good.The bubble had crashed.Small companies were closing.Big companies were laying people off.One CEO looked at me and said, ―we wouldn‘t even think about hiring someone like you.‖

After a while I had a few offers and I had to make a decision, so what did I do? I am MBA trained, so I made a spreadsheet.I listed my jobs in the columns and my criteria in the rows.One of the jobs on that sheet was to become Google‘s first Business Unit general manager, which sounds good now, but at the time no one thought consumer internet companies could ever make money.I was not sure there was actually a job there at all;Google had no business units, so what was there to generally manage? And the job was several levels lower than jobs I was being offered at other companies.So I sat down with Eric Schmidt, who had just become the CEO, and I showed him the spreadsheet and I said, this job meets none of my criteria.He put his hand on my spreadsheet and he looked at me and said, ―Don‘t be an idiot.‖

EXCELLENT CAREER ADVICE: ?GET ON A ROCKET SHIP‘

Excellent career advice.And then he said, ―Get on a rocket ship.When companies are growing quickly and having a lot of impact, careers take care of themselves.And when companies aren‘t growing quickly or their missions don‘t matter as much, that‘s when stagnation and politics come in.If you‘re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don‘t ask what seat.Just get on.‖

About six and one-half years later, when I was leaving Google, I took that advice to heart.I was offered CEO jobs at a bunch of companies, but I went to Facebook as COO.At the time people said, why are you going to work for a 23-year-old?

THE METAPHOR FOR A CAREER IS NO LONGER A LADDER;IT‘S A JUNGLE GYM

The traditional metaphor for careers is a ladder, but I no longer think that metaphor holds.It just doesn‘t make sense in a less hierarchical world.When I was first at Facebook, a woman named Lori Goler, a 1997 graduate of HBS, was working in marketing at eBay and I knew her a bit socially.She called me and said, ―I want to talk with you about coming to work with you at Facebook.So I thought about calling you and telling you all the things I‘m good at and all the things I like to do.But I figured that everyone is doing that.So instead I want to know what‘s your biggest problem and how can I solve it?‖

My jaw hit the floor.I‘d hired thousands of people up to that point in my career, but no one had ever said anything like that.I had never said anything like that.Job searches are always about the job searcher, but not in Lori‘s case.I said, ―You‘re hired.My biggest problem is recruiting and you can solve it.‖ So Lori changed fields into something she never thought she‘d do, went down a level to start in a new field.She has since been promoted and runs all of People Operations at Facebook and is doing an extraordinary job.Lori has a great metaphor for careers.She says they‘re not a ladder, they‘re a jungle gym.LOOK FOR GROWTH, IMPACT AND MISSION.MOVE SIDEWAYS, DOWN, ON AND OFF

As you start your post-HBS career, look for opportunities, look for growth, look for impact, look for mission.Move sideways, move down, move on, move off.Build your skills, not your resume.Evaluate what you can do, not the title they‘re going to give you.Do real work.Take a sales quota, a line role, an ops job.Don‘t plan too much, and don‘t expect a direct climb.If I had mapped out my career when I was sitting where you are, I would have missed my career.You are entering a different business world than I entered.Mine was just starting to get connected.Yours is hyper-connected.Mine was competitive.Yours is way more competitive.Mine moved quickly, yours moves even more quickly.As traditional structures are breaking down, leadership has to evolve as well – from hierarchy to shared responsibility, from command and control to listening and guiding.You‘ve been trained by this great institution not just to be part of these trends, but to lead.As you lead in this new world, you will not be able to rely on who you are or the degree you hold.You‘ll have to rely on what you know.Your strength will not come from your place on some org chart, but from building trust and earning respect.You‘re going to need talent, skill, and imagination and vision.But more than anything else, you‘re going to need the ability to communicate authentically, to speak so that you inspire the people around you and to listen so that you continue to learn each and every day on the job.‘MOMMY, WHAT IS GROWING IN YOUR BUTT?‘

If you watch young children, you‘ll immediately notice how honest they are.My friend Betsy from my section a few years after business school was pregnant with her second child.Her first child was about five and said, ―Mommy, where is the baby?‖ She said, ―The baby is in my tummy.‖ He said, ?Aren‘t the baby‘s arms in your arms?‖ She said, ―No, the baby‘s in my tummy.‖ ―Are the baby‘s legs in your legs?‖ ―No, the whole baby is in my tummy.‖ Then he said, ?Then Mommy, what is growing in your butt?‖

As adults, we are never this honest.And that‘s not a bad thing.I have borne two children and the last thing I needed were those comments.But it‘s not always a good thing either.Because all of us, and especially leaders, need to speak and hear the truth.The workplace is an especially difficult place for anyone to tell the truth, because no matter how flat we want our organizations to be, all organizations have some form of hierarchy.This means that one person‘s performance is assessed by someone else‘s perception.This is not a setup for honesty.Think about how people speak in a typical workforce.Rather than say, ―I disagree with our expansion strategy‖ or better yet, ―this seems truly stupid.‖ They say, ―I think there are many good reasons why we‘re entering this new line of business, and I‘m certain the management team has done a thorough ROI analysis, but I‘m not sure we have fully considered the downstream effects of taking this step forward at this time.‖ As we would say at Facebook, three letters: WTF.‘TRUTH IS BETTER USED BY USING SIMPLE LANGUAGE‘

Truth is better used by using simple language.Last year, Mark decided to learn Chinese and as part of studying, he would spend an hour or so each week with some of our employees who were native Chinese speakers.One day, one of them was trying to tell him something about her manager.She said this long sentence and he said, ―simpler please.‖ And then she said it again and he said, ―no, I still don‘t understand, simpler please‖…and so on and so on.Finally, in sheer exasperation, she burst out, ―my manager is bad.‖ Simple and clear and very important for him to know.People rarely speak this clearly in the workforce or in life.And as you get more senior, not only will people speak less clearly to you but they will overreact to the small things you say.When I joined Facebook, one of the things I had to do was build the business side of the company and put some systems into place.But I wanted to do it without destroying the culture that made Facebook great.So one of the things I tried to do was encourage people not to do formal PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me.I would say things like, ―Don‘t do PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me.Instead, come in with a list of what you want to discuss.‖ But everyone ignored me and they kept doing their presentations meeting after meeting, month after month.So about two years in, I said, ―OK, I hate rules but I have a rule: no more PowerPoint in my meetings.‖

About a month later I was about to speak to our global sales team on a big stage and someone came up to me and said, ―Before you get on that stage, you really should know everyone‘s pretty upset about the no PowerPoint with clients thing.‖ So I got on the stage and said, ―one, I meant no PowerPoint with me.But two, more importantly, next time you hear something that‘s really stupid, don‘t adhere to it.Fight it or ignore it, even if it‘s coming from me or Mark.‖

A good leader recognizes that most people won‘t feel comfortable challenging authority, so it falls upon authority to encourage them to question.It‘s easy to say that you‘re going to encourage feedback but it‘s hard to do, because unfortunately it doesn‘t always come in a format we want to hear.‘BEING PART OF MY TEAM MEANT THAT I HAD TO KNOW YOU‘

When I first started at Google, I had a team of four people and it was really important to me that I interview everyone.For me, being part of my team meant I had to know you.When the team had grown to about 100 people, I realized it was taking longer to schedule my interviews.So one day at my meeting of just my direct reports, I said ―maybe I should stop interviewing‖, fully expecting them to jump in and say ―no, your interviews are a critical part of the process.‖ They applauded.Then they fell over themselves explaining that I was the bottleneck of all time.I was embarrassed.Then I was angry and I spent a few hours just quietly fuming.Why didn‘t they tell me I was a bottleneck? Why did they let me go on slowing them down? Then I realized that if they hadn‘t told me, it was my fault.I hadn‘t convinced them that I wanted that feedback and I would have to change that going forward.When you‘re the leader, it is really hard to get good and honest feedback, no many how many times you ask for it.One trick I‘ve discovered is that I try to speak really openly about the things I‘m bad at, because that gives people permission to agree with me, which is a lot easier than pointing it out in the first place.To take one of many possible examples, when things are unresolved I can get a tad anxious.Really, when anything‘s unresolved, I get anxious.I‘m quite certain no one has accused me of being too calm.So I speak about it openly and that gives people permission to tell me when it‘s happening.But if I never said anything, would anyone who works at Facebook walk up to me and say, ―Hey Sheryl, calm down.You‘re driving us all nuts!‖ I don‘t think so.‘WHEN YOU GET HONESTY BACK, WILL YOU REACT WITH ANGER OR WITH GRATITUDE?‘

As you graduate today, ask yourself, how will you lead.Will you use simple and clear language? Will you seek out honesty? When you get honesty back, will you react with anger or with gratitude?

As we strive to be more authentic in our communication, we should also strive to be more authentic in a broader sense.I talk a lot about bringing your whole self to work—something I believe in deeply.Motivation comes from working on things we care about.But it also comes from working with people we care about.And in order to care about someone, you have to know them.You have to know what they love and hate, what they feel, not just what they think.If you want to win hearts and minds, you have to lead with your heart as well as your mind.I don‘t believe we have a professional self from Mondays through Fridays and a real self for the rest of the time.That kind of division probably never worked, but in today‘s world, with real and authentic voice, it makes even less sense.CRYING AT WORK: YES, SHE‘S DONE IT BUT NOT EXACTLY ON ZUCKERBERG‘S SHOULDER

I‘ve cried at work.I‘ve told people I‘ve cried at work.And it‘s been reported in the press that ?Sheryl Sandberg cried on Mark Zuckerberg‘s shoulder‘, which is not exactly what happened.I talk about my hopes and fears and ask people about theirs.I try to be myself – honest about my strengths and weaknesses – and I encourage others to do the same.It is all professional and it is all personal, all at the very same time.I recently started speaking up about the challenges women face in the workforce, something I only had the courage to do in the last few years.Before this, I did my career like everyone else does it.I never told anyone I was a girl.Don‘t tell.I left the lights on when I went home to do something for my kids.I locked my office door and pumped milk for my babies while I was on conference calls.People would ask, ―what‘s that sound?‖ I would say, ―What sound?‖ ―I hear a beep.‖ ―Oh, there‘s a fire truck outside my office.‖

But the lack of progress over the past decade has convinced me we need to start talking about this.I graduated from HBS in 1995 and I thought it was completely clear that by the time someone from my year was invited to speak at this podium, we would have achieved equality in the workforce.But women at the top — C-level jobs — are stuck at 15-16 percent and have not moved in a decade.Not even close to 50% and no longer growing.We need to acknowledge openly that gender remains an issue at the highest levels of leadership.The promise of equality is not equality.We need to start talking about this.‘AS A WOMAN IS MORE SUCCESSFUL IN YOUR WORKPLACES, SHE WILL BE LESS LIKED‘

We need to start talking about how women underestimate their abilities compared to men and how for women, but not men, success and likeability are negatively correlated.That means that as a woman is more successful in your workplaces, she will be less liked.This means that women need a different form of management and mentorship, a different form of sponsorship and encouragement than men.There aren‘t enough senior women out there to do it, so it falls upon the men who are graduating today just as much or more as the women, not just to talk about gender but to help these women succeed.When they hear a woman is really great at her job but not liked, take a deep breath and ask why.We need to start talking openly about the flexibility all of us need to have both a job and a life.A couple of weeks ago in an interview I said that I leave the office at 5:30 p.m.to have dinner with my children.I was shocked at the press coverage.One of my friends said I couldn‘t get more headlines if I had murdered someone with an ax.This showed me this is an unresolved issue for all of us, men and women alike.Otherwise, everyone would not write so much about it.‘WE NEED MORE WOMEN NOT JUST TO SIT AT THE TABLE, BUT TO TAKE THEIR RIGHTFUL SEATS‘

And maybe, most importantly, we need to start talking about how fewer women than men, even from places like HBS, even likely in this class, aspire to the very top jobs.We will not close the leadership gap until we close the professional ambition gap.We need more women not just to sit at the table, but as President Obama said a few weeks ago at Barnard, to take their rightful seats at the head of the table.One of the reasons I was so excited to be here today is that this is the 50th anniversary of letting women into this school.Dean Noria, who is so passionate about getting more women into leadership positions, told me that he wanted me to speak this year for that reason.I met a woman from that first class once.She told me that when they first came in, they took a men‘s room and converted it to a woman‘s room.But they left the urinals in.She thought the message was clear – ?we are not sure this whole woman thing is going to work out and if not, we don‘t want to have to reinstall the urinals.‘ The urinals are long gone.Let‘s make sure that no one ever misses them.FOUR THINGS SANDBERG WISHES FOR HARVARD‘S GRADUATING CLASS OF 2012

As you and your classmates spread out across the globe and walk across this stage tomorrow, I wish for you four things:

First, keep in touch via Facebook.This is critical to your future success!And since we‘re public now, why you are there, click on an ad or two.Two, that you make the effort to speak as well as seek the truth.Three, that you remain true to and open about your authentic self.And four, that your generation accomplishes what mine has failed to do.Give us a world where half our homes are run by men and half our institutions are run by women.I‘m pretty sure that would be a better world.I join everyone here in offering my most sincere congratulations to the HBS Class of 2012.Give yourselves a huge round of applause.

第四篇：sheryl sandberg 名人介紹 雪莉 桑德伯格

Good afternoon, everyone.I’m going to introduce Sheryl Sandberg.She is an American business woman who was born in Washington DC, graduated from Harvard.She is chief operating officer at face book, also the first woman to serve on Face book's board.And before face book, she worked for google as vice president.It seems that she’s a typically successful super woman works for amazing company.But the interesting thing is when she first joined google and face book many years ago these two companies were not as good as they are now.In 2001, after leaving government, one of the offers she got was to become the first business unit general manager in google which sound really good today.But at that time, google was young.It had no business unit and no one thought google can ever make money and the job was several levels lower than the jobs she was being offered by other companies.But she chose google, because she thought no matter what the situation it is, the prospect, the mission, the roles are the things that matter, when companies are growing quickly and having a lot of impact, careers take care of themselves.About six and an half years later, when she was leaving google.she got bunches offers from many companies.She chose face book to be a coo, at that time people said, why are you going to work for a 23-year-old? Because prospect, missions,and roles are the things that really important.In her speech at Havard graduate ceremony, she told the graduates that they should look for opportunities, look for growth, look for impact, look for mission.No matter what the situation it is now, don’t think too much, don’t plan too much.what we should do is to build our skills, instead of our resume.Evaluate what we can do, not the title they’re going to give us.Do real work.Sheryl Sandberg wrote a book called lean in, she told a interesting story at the very beginning.When she was first pregnant in 2004, she felt really uncomfortable.One morning, after vomiting in the toilet for a long time, she was hurried driving car to meet an important client, the parking space she could find is usually faraway ,so she had to rush through the huge parking lot to the google office building in a pregnant woman speed.She felt so uncomfortable that she prayed she would not vomit again during the conference.Then she realized it’s necessary to set a special parking space for pregnant women.So the second day, she rushed to the founder’s office, and announce loudly that google need special pregnant women parking space as soon as possible.Of course the founder agreed immediately, because it’s a reasonable and humanized request.After solving this problem, she began to think, obviously she is not the first pregnant woman in google, but why she’s the first one to report the situation, why they chose to endure uncomfortableness, the swollen feet, the inconvenience, if there were someone report their what they need,the situation maybe different.It’s a truly reasonable requirement.If we need some change,at least one of us should stand out and say aloud, clearly and honestly.this book is to encourage women to peruse what they want in workforce.

第五篇：雪莉·桑德伯格 哈佛大學2014畢業(yè)典禮演講

雪莉·桑德伯格 哈佛大學2014畢業(yè)典禮演講

Congratulations everyone, you made it.And I don’t mean to the end of college, I mean to class day, because if memory serves, some of your classmates had too many scorpion bowls at the Kong last night and are with us today.Given the weather, the one thing Harvard hasn’t figured out how to control, some of your other classmates are at someplace warm with a hot cocoa, so you have many reasons to feel proud of yourself as you sit here today.Congratulations to your parents.You have spent a lot of money, so your child can say she went to a “small school” near Boston.And thank you to the class of 2014 for inviting me to the part of your celebration.It means a great to me.And looking at the list of past speakers was a little daunting.I can’t be as funny as Amy Poehler, but I’m gonna be funnier than Mother Teresa.25 years ago, a man named Dave I did not know at the time but who would one day become my husband was sitting where you are sitting today.23 years ago, I was sitting where you are sitting today.Dave and I are back this weekend with our amazing son and daughter to celebrate his reunion, and we both share the same sentiment, Harvard has a good basketball team.Standing here in the yard brings memories flooding back for me.I arrived here from Miami in the fall of 1987, with big hopes and even bigger hear.I was assigned to live in one of Harvard’s historic monuments to great architecture, canady.My go-to outfit, and I’m not making this up, was a jean skirt, white leg warmers and sneakers and a Florida sweater, because my parents who were here with me then as they’re here with me now, told me everyone would think it was awesome that I was from Florida.At least we didn’t have Instagram.For me, Harvard was a series of firsts.My first winner coat, we needn’t need those in Miami.My first 10page paper, they didn’t assign those in my high school.My first C, after which my proctor told me that she was on the admissions committee, and I got admitted to Harvard for my personality not my academic potential.The first person I ever met from boarding school.I thought that was our really troubled kids.The first person I ever met who shares the name with a whole building, or so I met when the first classmate I met was Sarah Widdlesworth, who bore no relation at all to the dorm, which would have been nice to know with that very intimidating moment.But then I went on to meet others, Francis Strauss, James wells, Jessica science center B.My first love, my first heartbreak, the first time I realized that I love to learn, and the first and very last time I saw anyone read anything in Latin.When I sat in your seat all those years ago, I knew exactly where I was headed, I had it all planned out, I was going to the world bank to work on global poverty.The I would go to law school.And I would spend my life working in a nonprofit or in a government.At Harvard’s commencement tomorrow as your dean described, each school is gonna stand up and graduate together, the college, the law school, the med school and so on.At my graduation, my class cheered for the PHD students and then booed the business school.Business school seemed like such a sellout.18 months later, I applied to business school.It wasn’t wrong about what I would do decades after graduating.I had it wrong a year and a half later.And even if I could have predicted I would one day work in the private sector, I never could have predicted Facebook, because there was no internet, and Mark Zuckerberg was at elementary school, already wearing his hoody.Not locking into a path too early, give me an opportunity to go into a new and life changing field.And for those of you who think I owe everything to good luck, after Canaday I got Quaded.There is no straight path from your seat today to where you are going.Don’t try to draw that line.You will not just get it wrong.You will miss big opportunities and I mean big ,like the internet.Careers are not ladders.Those days are long gone, but jungle gyms.Don’t just move up and down.Don’t just look up.Look backwards, sideways, around corners.Your career and your life will have starts and stops and zigs and zags.Don’t stress out about the white space, the path you can try, because there in lives both the surprises and the opportunities.As you open yourself up to possibility, the most important thing I can tell you today is to open yourself up to honesty, to telling the truth to each other, to be honesty to yourselves, and to be honest about the world we live in.If you watched children, you will immediately notice how honest they are.My friend besty was pregnant and her son for the second child, son Sam was 5, he wanted to know where the baby was in her body.So yes mommy, are the babies arms in your arms? And she said, no no sam, baby’s in my tummy, whole baby.Mom ,are the baby’s legs in your legs? No, sam, whole baby’s in my tummy.Then mommy, what’s growing in your butt? As adults, we are almost never dishonest and that can be a very good thing, When I was pregnant with our first child, I asked my husband Dave if my butt was getting big.At first, he didn’t answer but I pressed.So he said, yea, a little.For years my sister-in-low said him what people will now say about you for the rest of your life when you do something done, and that guy went to Harvard.Hearing the truth at different times along the way would have helped me.I would not have admitted it easily when I sat where you sit.But when I graduated, I was much more worried about my love life than my career.I thought I only had a few years very limited time to find one of the good guys, before he was to , or before they were all taken, or I get too old.So I moved to DC, and met the guy, and I got married at the nearly decrepit age of 24.I married a wonder a wonderful man, but I had no business making that kind of commitmer.I didn’t know who I was or who I wanted to be.My marriage fell apart within a year, something that was really embarrassing and painful at the time, and it did not help that so many friends came up to me and said:”I never knew that, never thought that was going to work or I knew you weren’t right for each other.No one had managed to say anything like that to me before I marched down an aisle when it would have been far more useful.And as I lived through these painful months of separation and divorce, boy, did I wish the had? And boy, did I wish I had asked them? At the same time in my professional life, someone did speak up.My first boss out of college was Lant Prichett, an economist who teaches at the kennedy School who is here with us today, after I deferred to law school for the second time.Lant sat down and said I don’t think you should go to law school at all, I don’t think you want to go to law school.I think you should because you told your parents you would many years ago.He noted that he had never once heard me talk about the law with any interest.I know how hard it can be to be honest with each other, even your closest friends, even when they’re about to make serious mistakes, but I bet sitting here today, you know your closest friends’ strength, weeknesses, what cliff they might drive off, and I bet for the most part you’ve never told them, and they never asked.Ask them.Ask them for the truth because it will help you.And when the answer honestly, you know that that’s what makes them real friends.Asking for feedback is a really important habit to get into, as you leave the structure of the school calendar and exams and grades behind.On many jobs if you want to know how you’re doing, if you’re going to have to ask and then you’re gonna have to listen without getting defensive.Take it from me, listening to criticism is never fun, but it’s the only way we can improve.A few years ago, Mark Zuckerberg decided he wanted to learn Chinese, and in order to practice he started trying to have work meetings with some of Facebook colleagues who are native speakers.Now you would think his very limited language skills would keep these conversations from being useful.One day he asked a woman who was there, how it was going, how did you choose the facebook.She answered with a long and pretty complicated sentence.So he said simpler please.She spoke again.Simpler please.This went back and forth a couple of times.So she is blurted out in frustration, my manager is bad.That he understood.So often the truth is sacrificed to conflict avoidance, or by the time we speak the truth ,we’ve used so many caveats and preambles that the message totally gets lost.So I ask you to ask each other for the truth and other people: can you list it in simple and clear language? And when you speak your truth, can you use simple and clear language? As hard as it is to be honest with orther people.It can be even more difficult to be honest with ourselves.For years after I had children, I would say pretty often I don’t feel guilty working even when no one asked.Someone might say, sherly, how’s your day today? And I would say, great I don’t feel guilty working.Or do I need a sweater? Yes ,it’s unpredictably freezing and I don’t feel guilty woring.I was kinda like a parrot with issues.Then one day on the treadmill, I was reading this article on Sociology Journal.about how people don’t start out lying to other people, they start out lying to themselves, and the things we repeat most frequently are often those lies.So the sweat was pouring down my face.I started wondering what do I repeat pretty frequently, and I realized I feel guilty working.I then did a lot of research, and I spent an entire year with my dear friend Neil Scovell writing a book talking about how I was thinking and feeling., and I’m so grateful that so many women around the world connected to it.My book of course was called Fify Shades of Grey.I can see a lot of you connected to it as well.We have even more work to do in being honest about the world we live in.We don’t always see the hard truths, and once we see them, we don’t always have the courage to speak out.When my classmates and I were in college, we thought that fight for gender equally was one that was over.Sure, most of the leaders in every industry were men, but we thought changing that was just a matter of time.Lamont library right over there, one generation before us didn’t let women through its doors.But by the time we sat in your seat, everything was equal, Harvard and Radcliffe was fully integrated.We didn’t need feminism because we were already equals.We were wrong.I was wrong.The word was not equal then and it is not equal now.I think nowadays, we don’t just hide ourselves from the hard truth and shut our eyes to the inequities, but we suffer from the tyranny of low expectations.In the last election cycle in the united states, women won 20% of the senate seats, and all the headlines started screaming out: women take over the Senate.I felt like screaming back, wait a minute everyone.50% of the population getting 20% of the seats.That’s not a takeover.That’s an embarrassment.Just a few months ago this year, a very well respected and well-know business executives in Silicon Valley invited me to give a speech to his club on social media.I’ve been to this club a few months before when I have been invited for a friend’s birthday.It was a beautiful building and I was wandering around looking at it, looking for the women's room, when a staff member informed me very firmly that the ladies' room was over there and I should be sure not to go up stairs because women are never allowed in this building.I didn't realize I was in an all-male club until that minute.I spent the rest of the night wondering what I was doing there wondering what everyone else was doing there, wondering if any of my friends in San Francisco would invite me, a party at a club that didn't allow Blacks or Jews or Asians or gays.Being invited to give a business speech at this club, hit me even more egregious because you couldn't claim that it was only social business that was done there.My first thought was, “Really?” Really.A year after Lean In this dude thought it was a good idea to invite me to give a speech to his literal all-boys club.And he wasn't alone, there is an entire committee of well respected businessman who joined him in issuing this kind invitation.To paraphrase Groucho Marx, and don't worry, I won't try to do the voice I don't want to speak in any club that won't have me as a member.So I said no,and I did it in a way I probably wouldn't have even 5 years before.I wrote a long and passionate email, arguing that they should change their policies.They thanked me for my prompt response and wrote that perhaps things will eventually change.Our expectations are too low.Eventually needs to become immediately.We need to see the truth and speak the truth.We tolerate discrimination and we pretend that opportunity is equal.Yes we elected an African-American president, but racism is pervasive still.Yes, there are women who run Fortune 500 companies, 5 percent to be precise, but our road there is still paved with words like pussy and bossy, while our male peers are leaders and results focused.African-American women have to prove that they're not angry.Latinos risk being branded fiery hot head.A group of Asian-American women and men in Facebook wore pins one day that said I may or may not be good enough.Yes, Harvard has a woman president, and in two years, the United States may have a woman president.But in order to get there, Hillary Clinton is gonna have to overcome 2 very real obstacles, unknown and often ununderstood gender bias, and even worse, a degree from Yale.You can challenge stereotypes that's subtle and obvious.At Facebook, we have posters around the wall to inspire us, Done is better than perfect, Fortune favors the bold.What would you do if you weren't afraid? My new favorite nothing at Facebook is someone else's problem.I hope you feel that way about the problems you see in the world., because they are not someone else's problem.Gender inequality harms men along with women.Racism hurts Whites along with Minorities.And the lack of equal opportunity keeps all of us from failing our true potential.So as you graduate today, I want to put some pressure on you, I want to put some pressure on you to acknowledge the hard truths, not shy away from them, and when you see them to address them.The first time I spoke out about what it was like to be a woman in the workforce was less than five years ago.That means that for 18 years from where you sit to where I stand, my silence implied that everything was okay.You can do better than I did.And I mean that so sincerely.At the same time, I want to take some pressure off you, Sitting here today you don't have to know what career you want or how to get the career you might want.Leaning in does not mean your path will be straight or smooth and most people who make great contribution start way later than Mark Zuckerberg.Find a jungle gym you want to play and start climbing, not only will you figure out what you want to do eventually, but once you do, you'll crush it.Looking at you all here today, I'm filled with hope.All of you who were admitted to a “small school” near Boston, either for your academic potential or your personality or both, you've had your first, whether it's a winter coat, a love or a C, you've learned more about who you are and who you want to be.And most importantly, you've experienced the power of community, you know that while you are extraordinary on your own, we are all stronger and can be louder together.I know that you will never forget Harvard, and Harvard will never forget you, especially during the next fundraising drive.Tomorrow, you all become part of a lifelong community, which offers truly great opportunity, and therefore comes with real obligation.You can make the world fair for everyone, expect honesty from yourself and each other, demand and create truly equal opportunity, not eventually, but now.And tomorrow by the way, you get something Mark Zuckerberg does not have, a Harvard degree.Congratulations, everyone!

祝賀所有人，你們做到了。

我指的不是大學畢業(yè)，而是成功出席今天的畢業(yè)典禮。如果我們記錯，某些同學雖然昨晚在香港餐廳喝了太多蝎子碗調酒，但今天還是來了。

由于天氣，這種哈佛還沒有弄清楚如何控制的現(xiàn)象，還有同學正在溫暖的地方喝熱可可飲料，所以，你們有很多為今天出席畢業(yè)日活動感到自豪的理由。

祝賀你們的家長，你們花了很多錢，讓子女能夠說自己是從波士頓附近的這所“小學校“畢業(yè)的。還要感謝2014屆畢業(yè)生邀請我來到這次盛典。這對我價值巨大。看到過往演講者的名單讓人有些敬畏。我肯定沒有艾米·波樂那么搞笑，但我至少比特雷薩修女更幽默。

25年前，一個我當時還不認識，但以后會成為我丈夫的男人戴夫，坐在你們現(xiàn)在坐的地方。23年前，我坐在你們現(xiàn)在坐的地方。戴夫和我這周末，帶著可愛的子女回校。我們都懷有相同的感觸：哈佛的籃球隊太棒了！

站在校園中，回憶泉涌。19876年秋天，我從邁阿密來到這里，懷揣著偉大的夢想，還有更夸張的發(fā)型。我被分配到哈佛偉大建筑的一座歷史豐碑，卡納迪樓，我是說真的，我當時穿著牛仔裙，白色暖腿襪套，運動鞋，還有一件弗羅里達羊毛衫。因為當時我的父母告訴我，所有人都會人為來自弗羅里達的人很酷。至少，我們那時沒有Instagram。

對我而言，哈佛給了我很多第一次，包括我的第一件冬裝，在邁阿密沒人需要冬裝。我的第一份10頁論文，高中沒人會布置這么長的作業(yè)，我第一次得C，這之后，我的學監(jiān)告訴我說，她在招生委員會，她招我進來不是因為我的學術潛能，而是因為我的品性。我在寄宿學?？吹降牡谝粋€人，我就覺得這個人會是個大麻煩。我還碰到了第一個名字同整座建筑一樣的人，這個人的名字叫做薩拉·威格爾斯沃斯，她和那棟宿舍樓沒有關系，當時我很震驚，知道她和宿舍樓沒有關系后，我松了一口氣。之后，我還碰到了其他人，弗朗西斯·斯特勞斯，詹姆斯·威爾斯，杰西卡科學中心B。我第一位愛人，第一位讓我心碎的人，我第一次認識到自己熱愛學習，第一次也是最后一次遇到有人在讀拉丁文。

我畢業(yè)那年，我想好了自己以后有什么計劃，我要進世界銀行，對抗全球貧窮，然后我要去法學院，然后我將在非營利機構或政府工作，你們院長也講了，在明天的哈佛畢業(yè)典禮上，每個學院都要起立并一同畢業(yè)，本科部嗎、法學院、醫(yī)學院等等。我畢業(yè)時，我們班為博士生歡呼，然后噓了商學院，商學院似乎很不受歡迎。18個月后，我就申請了商學院。

我對自己畢業(yè)后的數十年規(guī)劃其實并沒錯，計劃只錯在了一年后，就算我算到了自己會在私營企業(yè)工作，我肯定算不到自己會在臉譜，那時候沒有互聯(lián)網。那時候馬克·扎克伯格還在讀小學，已經開始穿他的標志性帽衫了。沒有太早鎖死自己的道路，讓我有機會進入改變生活的全新領域。有些人可能認為我運氣好，我想說，卡納迪樓后，我又被安排到了方院。

從你們所坐的地方倒你們要去的地方是沒有直路的，不要嘗試畫這樣的直線，這不僅會出錯，還會錯失大機遇，我說的是大機遇，例如像互聯(lián)網這樣。

職業(yè)不是梯子，那種時代一去不返了，職業(yè)更像是立體方格鐵架，不要只上下移動，不要只往上看，還要往回看，往旁邊看，看轉角周圍。你的職業(yè)和生活會有始終，會有曲折，不要對未來的道路太過憂慮，因為生活中充滿了驚喜和機遇，你需要對各種可能性持開放態(tài)度。今天我要講的最重要的一點就是，對誠實保持開放的態(tài)度。相互之間說老實話，對自己誠實，也對我們所生活的世界誠實。

看看身邊的孩子，你就知道他們有多誠實，我朋友貝琪懷孕后，她五歲的兒子山姆想知道寶寶在她身體里的什么地方。他問，媽媽，寶寶的胳膊在你的胳膊里嗎？她說，不是，整個寶寶在我的肚子里。他又問，媽媽，寶寶的腿在你的腿里嗎？她回答，不山姆，整個寶寶在我的肚子里。然后，山姆問道，那你的屁股里有什么？ 作為成年人，我們幾乎一直很誠實，這是很難得的好事。我懷孕的時候，我問我丈夫我的屁股有沒有變大，起初他說沒有，但我不斷施壓，最后，他說，好吧，有一點。

我的小姑子一直說我丈夫，也是你們以后在生活中經常會聽到有人說到的：“這家伙竟然是哈佛出來的?！?/p>

在人生旅途中，如果聽到一些真話會對我很有幫助，我在你們這個年齡的時候，還沒有領會到這一點。在我畢業(yè)的時候，我對愛情生活的關心大于事業(yè)，我認為自己沒有什么時間了，必須趕緊找個好男人結婚，以免所有好男人都別人被搶走，或者我太老了。于是，我搬到哥倫畢業(yè)特區(qū)，在我24歲的時候結婚了。那個男人很不錯，但我倆似乎總是相處不好，我變得不知道自己是誰，也不知道未來在哪里。一年不到，我的婚姻以失敗告終，當時我非常難堪，非常痛苦。很多朋友來安慰我，但毫無幫助，他們說，我就知道你們倆結婚行不通，我就知道你們倆不合適。沒有人在我婚姻之前跟我說這些，事前告訴我這些肯定會更有用。

我熬過了離婚后的這些痛苦時光，我多希望他們原來有給過我建議，我多希望我曾經問過他們。而在我的職業(yè)生涯中，確實有人毫無保留地說出了實話。本科后，我的第一任老板是蘭特·普利切特，肯尼迪學院授課的一位經濟學家，他今天也在現(xiàn)場。我第二次考慮法學院時，蘭特跟我說，我不認為你應該去法學院，我也不認為你想去法學院。你認為自己應該去，大概只是你父母一直以來的要求。他注意到，我在談話中從未表現(xiàn)出對法律的任何興趣。

我知道 相互之間坦誠相見有多么難，哪怕最親密的朋友，哪怕是在他們可能犯嚴重錯誤的時候，不過我敢打賭，在座的各位知道自己親密朋友的強項和弱項，知道他們可能掉落在哪個懸崖。我也敢打賭，大部分時候，你們并沒有告訴他們，他們也從沒問過。去問這些問題，真相會越問越明。朋友城市回答時，你就知道他們是你真正的朋友了。

養(yǎng)成尋求反饋的習慣非常重要，特別是在離開學校系統(tǒng)，沒了考試和分數之后。很多工作中，如果你想知道自己干得怎么樣，你就需要去詢問，而且不要因為聽到不喜歡聽的而覺得受到冒犯。毫無疑問，聽人批評絕對不會讓人高興，但我們只能在批評中進步。

幾年前，馬克·扎克伯格決定要學中文。為了練習，他開始嘗試在一些工作會議中，同中文母語同事交流。你們估計可以想到，他那有限的中文水平，會讓談話很難正常進行。一天，他問一位女性，在臉譜工作怎么樣。她用了一個很長很復雜的句子回答。他說，請簡單些。她又說了一次。再簡單些。經過幾次后，她只好說了一句很簡單的話“我的經理很糟糕?！彼牰恕?/p>

通常，真相都成了避免沖突的犧牲品。我們在講真相時，總喜歡使用很多修飾，很多委婉語，淹沒了真正要傳達的信息。我希望你們在向他人詢問真相的時候，能用簡單明了的語言相互交流。講到自己的真相時，也應使用簡單明了的語言。

同他人坦誠相見很困難，坦誠對待自己的想法甚至更難。我有了小孩后，經常會和自己說，我對工作并不感到內疚，哪怕沒有人問我的時候。有人跟我說，雪莉，今天過得如何。我會說，很棒，我對工作并不感到內疚。有人說，我需要一件羊毛衫嗎？我說，沒錯，外面很冷，我對工作并不感到內疚。我就像一只學舌的鸚鵡。

有天，我在跑步機上，正在讀社會學雜志上的論文。上面寫道，相比對他人撒謊，人們更喜歡對自己撒謊，而重復最多的那些話，通常就是謊言。

我臉上汗如雨下，心想，我重復最多的一句話是什么，我意識到了，我對工作感到內疚，我做了大量的研究，我同好友內爾·斯克維爾花了一整年的時間，寫了一本書，講我的想法和感受。世界上很多女性都同它產生了共鳴，這讓我很欣慰。我的書名叫做《格雷的五十道陰影》，可見，你們很多人也都讀過這本書。

對于我們所生活的世界保持誠實，我們還有很多要做。我們并不總能看到真相，就算看到了，我們經常也沒有大聲說出的勇氣。

我和同學們在讀大學時，認為性格平等的斗爭已經結束。沒錯，大部分行業(yè)的領袖都是男性，但改變應該只是時間的問題。那邊的拉蒙特圖書館，就在我們之前一代人的時間里，不允許女性進入，但在我們畢業(yè)那時，一切都平等了。哈佛和拉德克里夫完全統(tǒng)一了。

我們不需要女權主義，因為我們已經得到了平等。我們錯了，我錯了，世界在那時并不平等，現(xiàn)在也不平等。我認為現(xiàn)如今，我們并不只是假裝沒看到真相，并對不平等視而不見，我們還在遭受低預期的踐踏。

今年，就在幾個月前，硅谷一位很受人尊重的知名商業(yè)經理人，邀請我到他的社交媒體俱樂部發(fā)表演講。幾個月之前，我去過這家俱樂部。一位朋友過生日邀我去的。建筑很漂亮，我在里面游蕩。欣賞她，找衛(wèi)生間。結果一位員工很肯定的告訴我，女衛(wèi)生間在那里，我務必不要上樓去，因為女性不允許進入這座建筑，我直到這時才意識到自己來到了一家全男性俱樂部。

剩下的整個晚上，我一直都在納悶，自己來這里做什么，納悶其他人都在做什么，納悶舊金山會不會有朋友邀請我去一個不允許黑人，猶太人，亞洲人，或同性戀者的俱樂部派對。被邀請到這家俱樂部做商業(yè)演講，就更讓人不爽了，因為這根本就不是單純的社交活動場所。

我首先想到的是真的嗎？真的?！断蚯耙徊健烦霭婧笠荒?，這個家伙竟然認為邀請我到一家全男性俱樂部做演講是一個好主意。他不是一個人，很多備受尊敬的商務人士，都和他一起發(fā)出了這份邀請。

我們需要看到真相，講出真相。我們容忍歧視，假裝機會是平等的。沒錯，我們選舉了一位非裔美國人總統(tǒng)。但種族主義仍然無處不在，不錯，確實有女性掌握著財富500強企業(yè)，準確說是5%。但我們的道路上，充滿了母老虎，跋扈老女人這樣的惡語。而我們的男性同行卻被尊為領袖，被認為成就卓著。

非裔美國女性總需要證明自己沒有生氣，拉丁裔總被打上暴躁急性子的標簽。臉譜有一群亞裔男女，胸口帶著牌子說，我有可能不夠好。

沒錯，哈佛有一位女性校長，也許兩年后，美國也會迎來首位女總統(tǒng)。但要實現(xiàn)目標，希拉里·克林頓需要克服兩大重要障礙，一是未知，通常也未被理解的性別偏見。二是，更糟的，從耶魯獲得的文憑。

你們可以挑戰(zhàn)老一套的做法，在臉譜我們會貼海報激勵自己，完成重于完美，財富偏愛勇敢者，不要害怕，勇往直前。我最近又喜歡上一條，在臉譜沒有別人的問題。我希望你們也能這樣看問題，問題沒有別人的問題。性別不平等對男性和女性都沒有好處，種族主義對白人和少數族裔都是傷害，缺乏平等機會，讓我們所有人無法發(fā)揮自己的真正潛能。

在你們畢業(yè)的今天，我希望給你們一些壓力，讓你認識到，真相雖然有時難以接受，但很重要。不要逃避，碰到就要勇于面對。我第一次站出來，公開宣揚職場女權主義，僅僅是不到5年前。也就是說，畢業(yè)后，我有18年時間都保持著沉默。這種沉默似乎是在說，一切像這樣就行了。你們肯定能比我做的更好。我由衷地這樣認為。

同時，我也希望給你們減輕一些壓力。今天坐在這里的你們，不需要知道自己該如何走上正確的人生道路。“向前一步”并不意味著你的前路將一帆風順。很多人對世界的重大貢獻都遠遠晚于馬克·扎克伯格。找到你想爬的立體方格鐵架，并開始攀爬。你最終會找到你想做的事情，并最終獲得成功。

看到今天的你們，讓我充滿了希望。你們所有人都被錄取到波士頓附近的這所“小學?！?，也許由于學術潛質，也許由于個人品性。你們經歷第一次穿冬裝，第一次戀愛，或第一次C。你們更加了解自己是誰，以及自己想成為什么。還有最重要的，你們體會到了團結的力量。你們知道，雖然你們每個人都很出色，但團結起來，你們將會更強，并能發(fā)出更大的聲音。

我知道，你們永遠不會忘記哈佛，哈佛也不會忘記你們，特別是在下次募捐的時候。明天，你們都將步入社會，這是一生的旅途，途中會碰到很好的機遇，也會有很重大的責任，你們能夠讓世界對于每個人更加公平。對自己和他人，你們需要坦誠相待，要求并創(chuàng)造真正平等的機會。不是最終，而是現(xiàn)在。順便說下，明天你們將獲得馬克·扎克伯格所沒有的東西，一份哈佛學位。祝賀每一位畢業(yè)生！