第一篇：20到30歲 是人生最不可揮霍的時光

20到30歲 是人生最不可揮霍的時光

20-30歲是人生的關鍵期，你走的每一步，做出的每一個決定，都會影響你以后的人生。然而，20多歲的年輕人，也是最容易感到困惑迷茫，最可能虛度時光的。心理咨詢師Meg Jay根據自己多年的經驗，給處在這個重要時期的年輕人一些中肯的建議。下面，雙語君（微信ID：Chinadaily_Mobile）就帶著大家一起聽聽。

20多歲時，Meg Jay在伯克利大學讀臨床心理學博士。她的第一個患者Alex是個26歲的女孩，情感一團糟，生活沒有頭緒。

面對Alex當前混亂的情況，同為20多歲的Meg Jay并不知道要給她怎樣的建議，反正20多歲也不著急。

Work happens later.Marriage happens later.Kids happen later, and even death happens later.工作、婚姻、孩子，甚至是死亡，要等以后才來。

直到有一天，Meg的導師點醒了她，讓她意識到20多歲的生活是多么重要，而人們往往忽視了這段時光的重要性。

That was when I realized this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers, families and futures of twentysomethings everywhere.這時我才明白這種“善意的疏忽”是個真正的問題，而且它會帶來嚴重的后果。不光對Alex和她的愛情生活，對于所有20多歲人的事業(yè)、家庭和未來都會造成影響。她說，社會、媒體都在宣揚著20多歲是“后青春期”，20多歲的人還未長大等觀念，而這些剝奪了你應該有的緊迫感和志向。

So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, “You have 10 extra years to start your life”? Nothing happens.所以說當你拍著一個20多歲人的頭說，“你還有十年才開始真正的人生”時，你認為會發(fā)生什么？什么也不會發(fā)生。

You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.你剝奪了那個人的緊迫感以及志向，但沒有任何作用。

事實上，20歲是成人發(fā)展（adult development）的關鍵階段，這段時間會塑造你的未來。Meg Jay告誡20多歲的年輕人，不要渾渾噩噩度過20歲，更不要把所有的壓力都留給30歲。

When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.當很多事情被推到30多歲時，你會面臨巨大的30歲壓力——極短時間內開始職業(yè)生涯，擇一城，選一人，生幾個娃。這些事情中有很多是不兼容的，就如研究所示，在30多歲這個階段同時完成這么多事，壓力和難度實在是太大了。

后來，Meg Jay遇到了另一位年輕患者Emma，她遇到了身份認同難題，對未來充滿迷茫。而這一次，她給了Emma一些實用的建議，而這些建議也值得所有20多歲的年輕人來聽聽。

? To forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital.忘掉身份危機，獲得一些身份資本。

By getting identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are.獲得身份資本，是指做些可以增加你自身價值的事。? The urban tribe is overrated.不要局限于你的核心小圈子。urban tribe：住在大城市的年輕人組成的小圈子。

New pieces of capital and new people to date almost always come from outside the inner circle.New things come from what are called our weak ties.新的資本，新的約會對象大都來自圈外。新事物正是來自所謂的弱關系里。? The time to start choosing your family is now.現在是時候選擇你自己的家庭了。

The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.考慮婚姻問題的最佳時間是開始婚姻前，這意味著像挑選工作那樣有意識地挑選愛情?？傊?，不要指望30歲彌補20歲的缺失，好好把握20多歲的時光。

Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do.You're deciding your life right now.30歲并非新20歲，所以要把握成人期，獲得一些身份資本，利用弱關系，選擇自己的家庭。不要被你不知道的，沒做過的事情定義人生，你要自己去決定。

第二篇：二十幾歲是不可揮霍的光陰

二十幾歲是不可揮霍的光陰（中英字幕）

Meg Jay Ted英語演講：

kira86 于2013-06-09 20歲，不可揮霍的光陰。在這個點擊過百萬的TED演講中，心理咨詢師Meg Jay說不能因為婚姻、工作和子女是以后的事情，現在就可以無規(guī)劃的生活。她提供三條建議幫助20多歲的年輕人重新審視自己的生活，不要做后悔的決定。

為什么要聽她演講

近期觀點認為，25歲似乎太過年輕，無法做重大決定。臨床心理學家Meg Jay藉由心理學實務和著作《20世代，你的人生是不是卡住了》闡述，許多二十世代深陷《時代》雜志所謂「我我我世代」的迷思和誤導中。她認為「三十世代是新二十世代」的說法使人們輕忽成年階段最具可塑性的時光。

擷取十余年來與數百名二十世代個案及學生咨商的經驗，Jay將科學融入一段段引人入勝、不為人知的故事中。精彩、生動的故事發(fā)展，顯示為何二十世代并非發(fā)展停滯期，而是僅此一次的發(fā)展高峰。二十世代是個關鍵期，我們所做之事－及未做之事－對未來人生、甚至后代都將產生巨大影響。

Meg Jay：二十幾歲，不可揮霍的光陰 英語演講稿：

When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client.I was a Ph.D.student in clinical psychology at Berkeley.She was a 26-year-old woman named Alex.Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems.Now when I heard this, I was so relieved.My classmate got an arsonist for her first client.(Laughter)And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys.This I thought I could handle.But I didn't handle it.With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road.“Thirty's the new 20,” Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, she was right.Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later.Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love life.I pushed back.I said, “Sure, she's dating down, she's sleeping with a knucklehead, but it's not like she's going to marry the guy.”

And then my supervisor said, “Not yet, but she might marry the next one.Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before she has one.”

That's what psychologists call an “Aha!” moment.That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didn't make Alex's 20s a developmental downtime.That made Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it.That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere.There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now.We're talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.Raise your hand if you're in your 20s.I really want to see some twentysomethings here.Oh, yay!Y'all's awesome.If you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you're losing sleep over twentysomethings, I want to see — Okay.Awesome, twentysomethings really matter.So I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the world.This is not my opinion.These are the facts.We know that 80 percent of life's most defining moments take place by age 35.That means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and “Aha!” moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s.People who are over 40, don't panic.This crowd is going to be fine, I think.We know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you're going to earn.We know that more than half of Americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30.We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it.We know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35.So your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options.So when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain.It's a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become.But what we hear less about is that there's such a thing as adult development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.But this isn't what twentysomethings are hearing.Newspapers talk about the changing timetable of adulthood.Researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence.Journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like “twixters” and “kidults.” It's true.As a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time.Isn't that true? So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, “You have 10 extra years to start your life”? Nothing happens.You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this: “I know my boyfriend's no good for me, but this relationship doesn't count.I'm just killing time.” Or they say, “Everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine.”

But then it starts to sound like this: “My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself.I had a better résumé the day after I graduated from college.”

And then it starts to sound like this: “Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs.Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down.I didn't want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30.”

Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that.Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high.When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.The post-millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car.It's realizing you can't have that career you now want.It's realizing you can't have that child you now want, or you can't give your child a sibling.Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me, sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, “What was I doing? What was I thinking?”

I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.Here's a story about how that can go.It's a story about a woman named Emma.At 25, Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis.She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment, but she hadn't decided yet, so she'd spent the last few years waiting tables instead.Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition.And as hard as her 20s were, her early life had been even harder.She often cried in our sessions, but then would collect herself by saying, “You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.”

Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, and she sobbed for most of the hour.She'd just bought a new address book, and she'd spent the morning filling in her many contacts, but then she'd been left staring at that empty blank that comes after the words “In case of emergency, please call....” She was nearly hysterical when she looked at me and said, “Who's going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck? Who's going to take care of me if I have cancer?”

Now in that moment, it took everything I had not to say, “I will.” But what Emma needed wasn't some therapist who really, really cared.Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her chance.I had learned too much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma's defining decade went parading by.So over the next weeks and months, I told Emma three things that every twentysomething, male or female, deserves to hear.First, I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital.By get identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are.Do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next.I didn't know the future of Emma's career, and no one knows the future of work, but I do know this: Identity capital begets identity capital.So now is the time for that cross-country job, that internship, that startup you want to try.I'm not discounting twentysomething exploration here, but I am discounting exploration that's not supposed to count, which, by the way, is not exploration.That's procrastination.I told Emma to explore work and make it count.Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated.Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work.That new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle.New things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.So yes, half of twentysomethings are un-or under-employed.But half aren't, and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group.Half of new jobs are never posted, so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that un-posted job.It's not cheating.It's the science of how information spreads.Last but not least, Emma believed that you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.Now this was true for her growing up, but as a twentysomething, soon Emma would pick her family when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own.I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now.Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you.But grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress.The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book, and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state.That weak tie helped her get a job there.That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend.Now, five years later, she's a special events planner for museums.She's married to a man she mindfully chose.She loves her new career, she loves her new family, and she sent me a card that said, “Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough.”

Now Emma's story made that sound easy, but that's what I love about working with twentysomethings.They are so easy to help.Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX, bound for somewhere west.Right after takeoff, a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break, one good TED Talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.So here's an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know.It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex.It's what I now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day: Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do.You're deciding your life right now.Thank you.(Applause)

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第三篇：二十幾歲是不可揮霍的光陰中英Meg Jay

二十幾歲是不可揮霍的光陰（中英字幕）Meg Jay Ted英語演講： kira86 于2013-06-09 20歲，不可揮霍的光陰。在這個點擊過百萬的TED演講中，心理咨詢師MegJay說不能因為婚姻、工作和子女是以后的事情，現在就可以無規(guī)劃的生活。她提供三條建議幫助20多歲的年輕人重新審視自己的生活，不要做后悔的決定。為什么要聽她演講

近期觀點認為，25歲似乎太過年輕，無法做重大決定。臨床心理學家Meg Jay藉由心理學實務和著作《20世代，你的人生是不是卡住了》闡述，許多二十世代深陷《時代》雜志所謂「我我我世代」的迷思和誤導中。她認為「三十世代是新二十世代」的說法使人們輕忽成年階段最具可塑性的時光。

擷取十余年來與數百名二十世代個案及學生咨商的經驗，Jay將科學融入一段段引人入勝、不為人知的故事中。精彩、生動的故事發(fā)展，顯示為何二十世代并非發(fā)展停滯期，而是僅此一次的發(fā)展高峰。二十世代是個關鍵期，我們所做之事－及未做之事－對未來人生、甚至后代都將產生巨大影響。

Meg Jay：二十幾歲，不可揮霍的光陰英語演講稿：

When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client.Iwas a Ph.D.student in clinical psychology at Berkeley.She was a 26-year-oldwoman named Alex.Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and abig slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off herflats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems.Now when I heardthis, I was so relieved.My classmate got an arsonist for her first client.(Laughter)And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys.This Ithought I could handle.But I didn't handle it.With the funny stories that Alex would bringto session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can downthe road.“Thirty's the new 20,” Alex would say, and as far as Icould tell, she was right.Work happened later, marriage happened later, kidshappened later, even death happened later.Twentysomethings like Alex and I hadnothing but time.But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her lovelife.I pushed back.I said, “Sure, she's dating down, she's sleeping with aknucklehead, but it's not like she's going to marry the guy.”

And then my supervisor said, “Not yet, but she might marry thenext one.Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before she hasone.”

That's what psychologists call an “Aha!” moment.That wasthe moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.Yes, people settle down later thanthey used to, but that didn't make Alex's 20s a developmental downtime.Thatmade Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowingit.That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a realproblem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life butfor

the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere.There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States rightnow.We're talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if youconsider that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their20s first.Raise your hand if you're in your 20s.I really want to see sometwentysomethings here.Oh, yay!Y'all's awesome.If you work withtwentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you're losing sleep overtwentysomethings, I want to see — Okay.Awesome, twentysomethings really matter.So I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe that everysingle one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know whatpsychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists alreadyknow: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative,things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for theworld.This is not my opinion.These are the facts.We know that 80 percentof life's most defining moments take place by age 35.That means that eight outof 10 of the decisions and experiences and “Aha!” moments that makeyour life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s.People who are over40, don't panic.This crowd is going to be fine, I think.We know that the first10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you're goingto earn.We know that more than half of Americans are married or are livingwith or dating their future partner by 30.We know that the brain caps off itssecond and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood,which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is thetime to change it.We know that personality changes more during your 20s thanat any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28,and things get tricky after age 35.So your 20s are the time to educateyourself about your body and your options.So when we think about child development, we all know that the firstfive years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain.It'sa time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who youwill become.But what we hear less about is that there's such a thing as adultdevelopment, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.But this isn't what twentysomethings are hearing.Newspapers talkabout the changing timetable of adulthood.Researchers call the 20s an extendedadolescence.Journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like“twixters” and “kidults.” It's true.As a culture, we havetrivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a planand not quite enough time.Isn't that true? So what do you think happens whenyou pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, “You have 10 extrayears to start your life”? Nothing happens.You

have robbed that person ofhis urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you orlike your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this:“I know my boyfriend's no good for me, but this relationship doesn'tcount.I'm just killing time.” Or they say, “Everybody says as longas I get started on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine.”

But then it starts to sound like this: “My 20s are almost over,and I have nothing to show for myself.I had a better résumé the day after Igraduated from college.”

And then it starts to sound like this: “Dating in my 20s waslike musical chairs.Everybody was running around and having fun, but thensometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody startedsitting down.I didn't want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes Ithink I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30.”

Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that.Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakesare very high.When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormousthirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, andhave two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.Many of these thingsare incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder andmore stressful to do all at once in our 30s.The post-millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car.It's realizing you can't have that career you now want.It's realizing youcan't have that child you now want, or you can't give your child a sibling.Toomany thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me,sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, “What was I doing? Whatwas I thinking?”

I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.Here's a story about how that can go.It's a story about a womannamed Emma.At 25, Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, havingan identity crisis.She said she thought she might like to work in art orentertainment, but she hadn't decided yet, so she'd spent the last few yearswaiting tables instead.Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend whodisplayed his temper more than his ambition.And as hard as her 20s were, herearly life had been even harder.She often cried in our sessions, but thenwould collect herself by saying, “You can't pick your family, but you canpick your friends.”

Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, andshe sobbed for most of the hour.She'd just bought a new address book, andshe'd spent the morning filling in her many contacts, but then she'd been leftstaring at that empty blank that comes after the words “In case ofemergency, please call....” She was nearly hysterical when she

looked atme and said, “Who's going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck?Who's going to take care of me if I have cancer?”

Now in that moment, it took everything I had not to say, “Iwill.” But what Emma needed wasn't some therapist who really, reallycared.Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her chance.I had learnedtoo much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma's definingdecade went parading by.So over the next weeks and months, I told Emma three things thatevery twentysomething, male or female, deserves to hear.First, I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and getsome identity capital.By get identity capital, I mean do something that addsvalue to who you are.Do something that's an investment in who you might wantto be next.I didn't know the future of Emma's career, and no one knows thefuture of work, but I do know this: Identity capital begets identity capital.So now is the time for that cross-country job, that internship, that startupyou want to try.I'm not discounting twentysomething exploration here, but I amdiscounting exploration that's not supposed to count, which, by the way, is notexploration.That's procrastination.I told Emma to explore work and make itcount.Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated.Best friendsare great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddletogether with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how theythink, how they speak, and where they work.That new piece of capital, that newperson to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle.New thingscome from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.Soyes, half of twentysomethings are un-or under-employed.But half aren't, andweak ties are how you get yourself into that group.Half of new jobs are neverposted, so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that un-postedjob.It's not cheating.It's the science of how information spreads.Last but not least, Emma believed that you can't pick your family,but you can pick your friends.Now this was true for her growing up, but as atwentysomething, soon Emma would pick her family when she partnered withsomeone and created a family of her own.I told Emma the time to start pickingyour family is now.Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better timeto settle down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you.But grabbing whoeveryou're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walkingdown the aisle is not progress.The best time to work on your marriage isbefore you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you arewith work.Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what youwant rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to bechoosing you.So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book,and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in anotherstate.That weak tie helped her get a job there.That job offer gave her thereason to leave that live-in boyfriend.Now, five years later, she's a specialevents planner for museums.She's married to a man she mindfully chose.Sheloves her new career, she loves her new family, and she sent me a card thatsaid, “Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough.”

Now Emma's story made that sound easy, but that's what I love aboutworking with twentysomethings.They are so easy to help.Twentysomethings arelike airplanes just leaving LAX, bound for somewhere west.Right after takeoff,a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break, onegood TED Talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations tocome.So here's an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know.It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex.It's what I now have theprivilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day: Thirty isnot the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use yourweak ties, pick your family.Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn'tdo.You're deciding your life right now.Thank you.(Applause)

第四篇：大學四年是我人生最珍貴的時光

大學四年是我人生最珍貴的時光。在這四年內，我學習目的明確，態(tài)度端正，鉆研專業(yè)知識。學習勤奮刻苦，關心同學，勇于挑戰(zhàn)自我。大學校園生活和社會實踐生活，有渴望、有追求、有成功也有失敗，我孜孜不倦，不斷地挑戰(zhàn)自我，改正錯誤，彌補不足，充實自己，為實現人生的價值打下堅實的基礎。

在學習上，我熱愛自己的專業(yè)，在專業(yè)知識方面精益求精，過了英語專業(yè)四級，大學英語六級。電腦、普通話等方面的等級考試已達標。身為學生的我在修好學業(yè)的同時也注重于社會實踐。本著學以致用，理論結合實踐的原則，努力提高自己的實踐能力。大學四年的暑假，通過暑期工，提高了工作能力，積累了很多工作經驗。并且，在以后的工作中，能更好的將理論與實際相結合，建立共贏、換位溝通、集思廣益的優(yōu)良習慣，我相信會有更大提高。

在工作上，對工作熱情，任勞任怨，責任心強，具有良好的組織交際能力，和同學團結一致，注重配合其他學生干部出色完成各項工作，促進了團隊溝通與合作，得到了大家的一致好評。

在生活上，我最大的特點是誠實守信，熱心待人，勇于挑戰(zhàn)自我，時間觀念強，有著良好的生活習慣和正派作風。我崇尚質樸的生活。平易近人待人友好，所以一直以來與人相處甚是融洽。敢于拼搏，刻苦耐勞將伴隨我迎接未來新挑戰(zhàn)。

四年的大學生活，使自己的知識水平、思想境界、工作能力等方面都邁上了一個新的臺階。在這即將揮手告別美好大學生活、踏上社會征途的時候，我整軍待發(fā)，將以飽滿的熱情、堅定的信心、高度的責任感去迎接新的挑戰(zhàn)，攀登新的高峰。

第五篇：大度是人生不可缺少的高貴品質

在彌勒佛的寺廟里，我們經?？梢砸姷竭@副對聯。大肚能容，容天下難容之事;開口便笑，笑世上可笑之人。這副對聯，是講度量的，說的是做人要有做人的分寸。做人的分寸把握得當，就顯得老練、成熟、有修養(yǎng)，否則就顯得淺薄和稚嫩。把握做人的分寸與自然，頗有講究，我以為，處理好做人的度與量的關系，應在分寸之列。

事實證明，在與人相處之際，可能有人無意中得罪過你，反對過你，那些讓人不快的事，過去就拉倒。相反，對于他人的德行就要想得多一點，記得久一點。風物長宜放眼量，心寬眼闊，自然天高路遠。廣闊的度量，是以高尚無私的思想品德為基礎的。若時時處處多想別人，少想自己，做人才有大胸懷。一個人架子擺得越大，越抬高自己，突出自己，越讓人瞧不起。人這一生不會一帆風順。有的人仕途暢順，平步青云;有的人屢遇坎坷、前途多舛;有的人一生平平、默默無聞。不論哪種情況，做人總要以德為本，以德為基，以德立世、站得正，行得端，規(guī)規(guī)矩矩，堂堂正正。堅守道德和靈魂，做人才有價值，才能體味做人的量。

人這一生不會一帆風順。有的人仕途暢順，平步青云;有的人屢遇坎坷、前途多舛;有的人一生平平、默默無聞。不論哪種情況，做人總要以德為本，以德為基，以德立世、站得正，行得端，規(guī)規(guī)矩矩，堂堂正正。堅守道德和靈魂，做人才有價值，才能體味做人的量。

那么，做人應該擁有一顆大度之心的人怎樣去踐行呢?個人理解認為主要有以下五點：

擁有一顆大度之心的人，應該做到氣量寬宏。

海納百川，靠的是寬容的心。做人做事，心胸不可太狹隘。尺有所短，寸有所長，金無足赤，人無完人，賞識別人的優(yōu)點，包容別人的不足，靠的是有愛人之心，有容人之量。為你的仇敵而怒火中燒，燒傷的只能是你自己。忍不下一口氣，就惡言刀槍相向，忍受不了他人的春分得意，就嫉妒誣陷，這樣的人生只能昏暗無光，路會越走越窄。

人間的是非善惡喜樂，世道的好壞、冷熱、榮寵，要放寬肚皮，坦然接受，路才會越走越寬。寬容不是懦弱、退縮的壓抑，而是一種忍辱負重的大智大勇，是能識實相、敢擔當、懂化解融通。為他人著想，是為自己鋪路，寬容不是縱容，曉之以理，動之以情，考慮的是別人的自尊和承受度。

善待別人，等于就是善待自己，無論生活受到怎樣的傷害，不必忿忿不平、耿耿于懷、懷恨在心，學會忘記，忘記是對自己的最好保護，學會感恩，感謝生活給你磨礪自己的機會，心靈充滿陽光，生活自然充滿燦爛。所以，做人要問問自己寬容大度了沒有。

擁有一顆大度之心的人，應該做到豁然開朗。

豁然開朗是一種人生境界，是一個人有修養(yǎng)的表現。中國有句古話說的好：心曠則萬種如瓦缶，心隘則一發(fā)似車輪。意思是說，一個豁然開朗的人，即使是一萬種的豐厚俸祿也會看成像瓦罐那樣沒有價值;而一個心胸狹隘的人，即使是如發(fā)絲一般細小的利益也會被看成像車輪那么大。

所以，做人要以豁然開朗去容忍別人和容納自己，遇事想得開，看得透，拿得起，放得下;得之淡然，失之泰然。對于做人應該始終要有豁然開朗的感覺，感覺人世間的那些恩怨，仿佛都變成了過眼煙云，從此好多事都不想再去計較。學會寬容，學會大度，做一個大度的人，寬容的人，學會面對逆境，撫平浮躁的心態(tài)。

一個人的心態(tài)要穩(wěn)定，首先要正確對待自己，把自己人生坐標定位定準，不要越位也不要自卑。另外是正確對待他人，正確對待社會，永遠對社會有種感激之心，只要這個做到了，好多事都能解決。人對社會有兩種態(tài)度，一種人永遠用樂觀的、積極的態(tài)度看世界;另一種人用悲觀的、消極的態(tài)度看世界。只要你用樂觀的、積極的態(tài)度看世界，這世界就是很美好;如果你用悲觀、消極態(tài)度看世界，這世界很可怕。

擁有一顆大度之心的人，應該做到心胸開闊。

開闊心胸不僅可以使你建立良好的人際關系，更會讓自己具有良好的心境：一個人心胸寬廣，懂得包容與寬恕，那么他看到的永遠是積極向上、陽光明媚的一面;倘若他心胸狹窄，能面對的恐怕只有消極落寞、憂郁陰霾了。心胸開闊會使你成為一個大度的人，凡事，不要太在意，太苛求，會給身邊的人，帶來輕松的感覺。

俗話說：心有多寬，路有多廣。容人之長、容人之短、容人個性、容人之過、容人之功和容己之仇，容人在于容己，那就得有得讓人處且讓人的寬容，要學會體諒別人的難處，諒解別人的錯處，關注別人的長處。心胸開闊與否，或許和性格有關。

天下之大，為個人的雞毛蒜皮糾纏不休?要讓心胸開闊，在順心的日子里，要保持那份恬恬，不要得意忘形，忘乎所以;在不順心的關口，你也要執(zhí)著一份從容。一個人必須要有寬闊的胸襟，才能保持良好的競爭狀態(tài)，偏狹和嫉妒只能使自己的路越走越窄，最終走投無路。還要寬容自己。人非圣賢，總會出現一些失誤與差錯的。只要能正視自己，正視自己的缺點或錯誤，并不斷地去克服或糾正之，使自己的德行符合規(guī)范，我們就不必對自己太苛刻、太自責。

擁有一顆大度之心的人，應該做到處人藹然。

與人為善、天地皆寬。人與人之間需要寬容、需要理解。寬容是催化劑，可以消除隔閡，減少誤會，化解矛盾;寬容是潤滑劑，能調節(jié)關系，減少磨擦，避免碰撞;寬容是清新劑，會令人感到舒適，感到溫馨，感到自信，感到世界的美。容是一種高尚的人格修養(yǎng)，一種宰相胸襟，一種大將風度。要心懷坦蕩，寬容他人，就必須做到互諒、互讓、互敬、互愛。

互諒就是彼此理解，不計較個人恩怨。人都是有感情和尊嚴的，既需要他人的體諒，又有義務諒解他人。有了相互之間的諒解，就能保持平靜的心境和寬容的品格。互讓，就是彼此謙讓，不計較個人的名利得失。心底無私天地寬，自覺做到以集體利益為重，把好處讓給別人，把困難留給自己，互相之間的矛盾容易化解;對個人得失斤斤計較是難以和他人和睦相處的。

互敬，就是彼此尊重。尊重別人是一種美德，敬人者，人自敬之。如果無視他人的存在，不尊重他人的人格，就不會有知心朋友?；?，就是彼此關心，不計較品質氣質的差異，愛能包容大千世界，使千差萬別迥然不同的人和諧地融為一個整體;愛能化解矛盾的芥蒂，消除猜疑、嫉妒和憎恨，使人間變得更加美好。

擁有一顆大度之心的人，應該做到寬大為懷。

正確看待自己，正確評估自己的能力，做到身處順境切忌飄飄然，洋洋得意，遇到挫折不可怨天尤人，牢騷滿腹人與人之間盡管在表現形式上有差別，但就其歸類劃分，無外乎有這么三種類型：一種是有用的人，另一種是可有可無的人，再一種是有還不如沒有的人。要真正做到低調做人，高調做事，做人要學會感恩，做事要選準目標。做人要堂堂正正，做事要公公正正。

做人要講誠信，做事要講規(guī)范。人們往往在自己獨處的時候顯得非常超脫，往往在與人們交往的時候，卻隨時暴露出很多毛病，其實這就是對自己人格的不信任所造成的。高山不理解流泉，設置了許多路障，泉水卻永不停歇，繞過頑石，跳下斷崖，變成了飛瀑，變成了大江，奔向浩瀚的大海。船不理解案，總要離去，但岸總是等待著，永遠張開寬大的臂膀。太陽不理解月亮，不喜歡它慘白的光，月亮卻永遠追隨著太陽，當太陽落山后，她卻用淡淡的柔光照亮整個黑夜。