第一篇：英語演講:經(jīng)驗(yàn)助你成功

Experience makes you succeedI still remembered the first time when I became a technical secondary school teacher of English literature.It seemed that it happened yesterday.At that day, I got quite ready and I had the confidence to be a good teacher.I arrived at the classroom, eager to share my knowledge and experience with all the students of my class.Having prepared for two days, I had no doubt to hold their attention and to impress on them my admiration for the literature.“Stand up!” the monitor spoke loudly.The entire class stood up as I entered the classroom.I was a little puzzled, but quickly that awkwardness was over, I regained my calmness and began my well-prepared lecture, sure to gain their respect---or even their admiration.‘I’m your English, Miss Jiang.Today we are going to learn...’ I was very pleased with work.As the bell rang, I went back to my office full of a sense of achievement.The following day when I read my students’ diaries, the rosy glow was gradually replaced by a strong sense of sadness.The first diary said, “Our literature teacher didn’t teach us anything today.perhaps her next lecture would be better.” Greatly surprised, I read diary after diary, each expressed a similar theme.“Didn’t I teach them anything? I described the entire framework and laid the background for the passage we would study in class,” I puzzled.“How should they say I taught them nothing?” It was a long term, and it gradually became clear that my ideas about education weren’t the same as those of my students.I thought a teacher’s job was to raise interesting questions and provide enough background so that students could draw their own conclusions.My students thought a teacher’s job was to provide exact information as directly and clearly as possible.What a difference!I tell myself I can handle it.’ Compared to what others have been through , I’m fortunate.Thinking of these sentences I felt something important struck me.I believe my life would not be that bad and it was proved to be true.Later during my life and work I always told myself ‘I can handle it.’ when my own goals seemed far off or when my problems seemed too overwhelming.And every time I said it, I always came back to my senses.Now the experience with my students has made me learn a lot, and made me be a better English teacher.The following year, it was September 10th.I went to class as well.When I stepped into the class, I felt surprised.There was a post card on the table, but I didn’t show it on my face.I began teaching lessons.After the class, I walked out of the class with a card in my hand.I opened the card in the office, it was a music card with words on it.It said ‘Many thanks to you, Miss Jiang.We all love you We like your teaching.’ I was impressed by the words.How honest and simple the words were.Hot tears couldn’t help dropping.At that time, I was so proud of being an English teacher.So here, coming to us are words that can give us strength.Whatever you’re going through, tell yourself you can handle it.Tell this to yourself over and over, and it will help you get through the rough spots with little more fortitude.

第二篇：經(jīng)驗(yàn)助你成功的英語演講稿

歡迎大家閱讀下面小編給大家推薦的這份經(jīng)驗(yàn)助你成功的英語演講稿，希望對(duì)大家寫演講稿有幫助。

I still remembered the first time when I became a technical secondary school teacher of English literature.It seemed that it happened yesterday.At that day，I got quite ready and I had the confidence to be a good teacher.I arrived at the classroom，eager to share my knowledge and experience with all the students of my class.Having prepared for two days，I had no doubt to hold their attention and to impress on them my admiration for the literature.“Stand up!” the monitor spoke loudly.The entire class stood up as I entered the classroom.I was a little puzzled，but quickly that awkwardness was over，I regained my calmness and began my well-prepared lecture，sure to gain their respect---or even their admiration.‘I’m your English，Miss Jiang.Today we are going to learn...’ I was very pleased with work.As the bell rang，I went back to my office full of a sense of achievement.The following day when I read my students’ diaries，the rosy glow was gradually replaced by a strong sense of sadness.The first diary said，“Our literature teacher didn’t teach us anything today.perhaps her next lecture would be better.” Greatly surprised，I read diary after diary，each expressed a similar theme.“Didn’t I teach them anything? I described the entire framework and laid the background for the passage we would study in class，” I puzzled.“How should they say I taught them nothing?” It was a long term，and it

gradually became clear that my ideas about education weren’t the same as those of my students.I thought a teacher’s job was to raise interesting questions and provide enough background so that students could draw their own conclusions.My students thought a teacher’s job was to provide exact information as directly and clearly as possible.What a difference!

I tell myself I can handle it.’ Compared to what others have been through，I’m fortunate.Thinking of these sentences I felt something important struck me.I believe my life would not be that bad and it was proved to be true.Later during my life and work I always told myself ‘I can handle it.’ when my own goals seemed far off or when my problems seemed too overwhelming.And every time I said it，I always came back to my senses.Now the experience with my students has made me learn a lot，and made me be a better English teacher.The following year，it was September 10th.I went to class as well.When I stepped into the class，I felt surprised.There was a post card on the table，but I didn’t show it on my face.I began teaching lessons.After the class，I walked out of the class with a card in my hand.I opened the card in the office，it was a music card with words on it.It said ‘Many thanks to you，Miss Jiang.We all love you We like your teaching.’ I was impressed by the words.How honest and simple the words were.Hot tears couldn’t help dropping.At that time，I was so proud of being an English teacher.So here，coming to us are words that can give us strength.Whatever you’re going through，tell yourself you can handle it.Tell this to yourself over and over，and it will help you get through the rough spots with little more fortitude.

第三篇：英語演講稿：經(jīng)驗(yàn)助你成功

Dear all,Experience makes you succeedI still remembered the first time when I became a technical secondary school teacher of English literature.It seemed that it happened yesterday.At that day, I got quite ready and I had the confidence to be a good teacher.I arrived at the classroom, eager to share my knowledge and experience with all the students of my class.Having prepared for two days, I had no doubt to hold their attention and to impress on them my admiration for the literature.“Stand up!” the monitor spoke loudly.The entire class stood up as I entered the classroom.I was a little puzzled, but quickly that awkwardness was over, I regained my calmness and began my well-prepared lecture, sure to gain their respect---or even their admiration.‘I’m your English, Miss Jiang.Today we are going to learn...’ I was very pleased with work.As the bell rang, I went back to my office full of a sense of achievement.The following day when I read my students’ diaries, the rosy glow was gradually replaced by a strong sense of sadness.The first diary said, “Our literature teacher didn’t teach us anything today.perhaps her next lecture would be better.” Greatly surprised, I read diary after diary, each expressed a similar theme.“Didn’t I teach them anything? I described the entire framework and laid the background for the passage we would study in class,” I puzzled.“How should they say I taught them nothing?”

It was a long term, and it gradually became clear that my ideas about education weren’t the same as those of my students.I thought a teacher’s job was to raise interesting questions and provide enough background so that students could draw their own conclusions.My students thought a teacher’s job was to provide exact information as directly and clearly as possible.What a difference!I tell myself I can handle it.’ Compared to what others have been through , I’m fortunate.Thinking of these sentences I felt something important struck me.I believe my life would not be that bad and it was proved to be true.Later during my life and work I always told myself ‘I can handle it.’ when my own goals seemed far off or when my problems seemed too overwhelming.And every time I said it, I always came back to my senses.Now the experience with my students has made me learn a lot, and made me be a better English teacher.The following year, it was September 10th.I went to class as well.When I stepped into the class, I felt surprised.There was a post card on the table, but I didn’t show it on my face.I began teaching lessons.After the class, I walked out of the class with a card in my hand.I opened the card in the office, it was a music card with words on it.It said ‘Many thanks to you, Miss Jiang.We all love you We like your teaching.’ I was impressed by the words.How honest and simple the words were.Hot tears couldn’t help dropping.At that time, I was so proud of being an English teacher.So here, coming to us are words that can give us strength.Whatever you’re going through, tell yourself you can handle it.Tell this to yourself over and over, and it will help you get through the rough spots with little more fortitude.

第四篇：邀約技巧-助你成功

十四大常見電話邀約技巧

開場(chǎng)白

1、認(rèn)識(shí)對(duì)方

2、建立親和力

3、增加信賴感

怎樣讓對(duì)方對(duì)我們將要介紹的產(chǎn)品的感興趣，關(guān)鍵在開場(chǎng)的前30秒。在這頭30秒中，我們的目的是要引起對(duì)方的注意，從而讓他愿意繼續(xù)聽下去?！咎釂枴坑泻芏嗤顿Y顧問在電話接通之后習(xí)慣這樣說“您好，我是某某公司的，我們公司最近推出了一種產(chǎn)品??”，聽了這段開場(chǎng)白大家有什么感覺？【答】在推銷

【提問】對(duì)，大家很明顯地感覺到這是在推銷，大家在日常生活中都會(huì)遇到各種各樣的推銷，在碰到推銷的時(shí)候大家會(huì)有什么感覺？【答】A討厭B不感興趣C不需要

對(duì)，因?yàn)樵谟龅酵其N的時(shí)候，大家會(huì)在第一時(shí)間有一道心理防線，潛意識(shí)里就會(huì)有不需要的想法。所以，當(dāng)我們?cè)陂_場(chǎng)白的時(shí)間絕對(duì)不要過早地暴露目的，讓對(duì)方一下就感覺是推銷。

在開場(chǎng)白部分，我們要注重提問，而不是介紹。

現(xiàn)時(shí)股市走勢(shì)如何，未來走勢(shì)怎樣看呀??

炒股是否影響工作時(shí)間呀??

炒股出入方便嗎？??

有沒聽說過有種投資，即沒影響工作，又是賺大錢的渠道啊??

技巧一

讓自己處于微笑狀態(tài),微笑地說話，聲音也會(huì)傳遞出很愉悅的感覺，聽在信息員耳中自然就變得有親和力，讓每一通電話都保持最佳的質(zhì)感，并幫助你進(jìn)入對(duì)方的時(shí)空。技巧二

音量與速度要協(xié)調(diào)人與人見面時(shí)，都會(huì)有所謂磁場(chǎng)，在電話之中，當(dāng)然也有電話磁場(chǎng)，一旦業(yè)務(wù)人員與信息員的磁場(chǎng)吻合，談起話來就順暢多了。為了了解對(duì)方的電話磁場(chǎng)，建議在談話之初，采取適中的音量與速度，等辨出對(duì)方的特質(zhì)后，再調(diào)整自己的音量與速度，讓信息員覺得你和他是同一掛的。

技巧三

判別通話者的形象，增進(jìn)彼此互動(dòng),從對(duì)方的語調(diào)中，可以簡(jiǎn)單判別通話者的形象，講話速度快的人是視覺型的人，說話速度中等的人是聽覺型，而講話慢的人是感覺型的人，業(yè)務(wù)人員可以在判別形之后，再給對(duì)方適當(dāng)?shù)慕ㄗh。

技巧四

表明不會(huì)占用太多時(shí)間，簡(jiǎn)單說明“耽誤您兩分鐘好嗎？”為了讓對(duì)方愿意繼續(xù)這通電話，我最常用的方法就是請(qǐng)對(duì)方給我兩分鐘，而一般人聽到兩分鐘時(shí)，通常都會(huì)出現(xiàn)反正才兩分鐘，就聽聽看好了的想法。實(shí)際上，你真的只講兩分鐘嗎？這得看個(gè)人的功力了！技巧五 語氣、語調(diào)要一致

在電話中，開場(chǎng)白通常是國語發(fā)音，但是如果對(duì)方的反應(yīng)是以鄭州方言回答，我會(huì)馬上轉(zhuǎn)成方言和對(duì)方說話，有時(shí)普通話、方言交替也是一種拉近雙方距離的方法，主要目的都是為了要與對(duì)方站在同一個(gè)磁場(chǎng)。

技巧六 善用電話開場(chǎng)白

好的開場(chǎng)白可以讓對(duì)方愿意和業(yè)務(wù)人員多聊一聊，因此除了耽誤兩分鐘之外，接下來該說些什么就變得十分重要，如何想多暸解對(duì)方的想法，不妨問：“最近推出的投資型**，請(qǐng)問您有什么看法？”諸如此類的開放式問句。

技巧七 善用暫停與保留的技巧

什么是暫停？當(dāng)業(yè)務(wù)人員需要對(duì)方給一個(gè)時(shí)間、地點(diǎn)的時(shí)候，就可以使用暫停的技巧。比如，當(dāng)你問對(duì)方：”您喜歡上午還是下午？”說完就稍微暫停一下，讓對(duì)方回答，善用暫停的技巧，將可以讓對(duì)方有受到尊重的感覺。

至于保留，則是使用在業(yè)務(wù)人員不方便在電話中說明或者遇到難以回答的問題時(shí)所采用的方式，舉例來說，當(dāng)對(duì)方要求業(yè)務(wù)人員電話中說明合作方式時(shí)，業(yè)務(wù)人員就 可以告訴對(duì)方：“這個(gè)問題我們見面談時(shí)、當(dāng)面計(jì)算給您聽，比較清楚”，如此將問題保留到下一個(gè)時(shí)空，也是約訪時(shí)的技巧。

技巧八 身體挺直、站著說話或閉上眼睛

假如一天打二十通電話，總不能一直坐著不動(dòng)吧！試著將身體挺直或站著說話，你可以發(fā)現(xiàn)，聲音會(huì)因此變得有活力，效果也會(huì)變得更好：有時(shí)不妨閉上眼睛講話，讓自己不被外在的環(huán)境影響答話內(nèi)容。

技巧九 使用開放式問句，不斷問問題

問信息員或者客戶問題，一方面可以拉長(zhǎng)談話時(shí)間，更重要的是暸解對(duì)方真正的想法，幫助業(yè)務(wù)員做判斷。

不妨用：“請(qǐng)教您一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單的問題”、“能不能請(qǐng)您多談一談，為何會(huì)有如此的想法？”等問題，鼓勵(lì)對(duì)方繼續(xù)說下去。

技巧十 即時(shí)逆轉(zhuǎn)

即時(shí)逆轉(zhuǎn)就是立刻順著客戶的話走，例如當(dāng)信息員說：“我已經(jīng)和其他 * *公司合作了”時(shí)，不妨就順著他的話說：“我就是知道您合作了很多 * *公司，才打這通 電話。” 當(dāng)客戶說：“我從來不是你們公司的客戶”，不妨接續(xù)“我知道您之前不是我們公司的客戶，所以才打這通電話?！?/p>

技巧十一 一再強(qiáng)調(diào)您自己判斷、您自己做決定

為了讓客戶答應(yīng)見面，在電話中強(qiáng)調(diào)「由您自己做決定」、「全由您自己判斷」等句子，可以讓客戶感覺業(yè)務(wù)人員是有質(zhì)感的、是不會(huì)死纏活纏的，進(jìn)而提高約訪機(jī)率。技巧十二 強(qiáng)調(diào)合作的方式或獨(dú)特性

“這個(gè)合作模式很特別，必須當(dāng)面談，才能讓您充分暸解???”在談話中，多強(qiáng)調(diào)合作方式很特別，再加上“由您自己做決定”，讓信息員愿意將他寶貴的時(shí)間給你，切記千萬不要說得太繁雜或使用太多專業(yè)術(shù)語，讓信息員失去見面的興趣。

技巧十三 給予二選一的問題及機(jī)會(huì)

二選一方式能夠幫助對(duì)方做選擇，同時(shí)也加快對(duì)方與業(yè)務(wù)人員見面的速度，比如“早上或下午拜訪？”、“星期三或星期四見面？”等問句，都是二選一的方式。

技巧十四 為下一次開場(chǎng)做準(zhǔn)備

當(dāng)我們?cè)谧鋈魏蔚慕Y(jié)束時(shí)，別忘了和對(duì)方說：“感謝您撥出時(shí)間”，或者告訴對(duì)方：“非常榮幸認(rèn)識(shí)您”。好的結(jié)束，有助于為下一次開場(chǎng)做準(zhǔn)備。

一面之交邀約方式

自己親自邀約并且自己親自講計(jì)劃，而且對(duì)方與你關(guān)系較“遠(yuǎn)”。我講一個(gè)范例：你：你好！——先生對(duì)么！

他：我就是，什么事？

你：我是——，你可能記不起我了！我們是??認(rèn)識(shí)的，當(dāng)時(shí)我們相互???（如果對(duì)方實(shí)在想不起來，則不必努力去讓對(duì)方回憶細(xì)節(jié)??）

他：實(shí)在想不起來了！

你：沒有關(guān)系！今天冒然打擾你，你不會(huì)介意吧？

他：沒事，你請(qǐng)說。

你：我今天給你打個(gè)電話，是想征求一下你的意見，我有沒有可能跟你見個(gè)面，我們彼此再交流和溝通一下？

他：當(dāng)然可以！

你：那后天（周六）下午3：00在ADD怎么樣？

他：可以。

你：我們聊15-30min，一般情況下，你會(huì)準(zhǔn)時(shí)來嗎？需不需要我在周六上午提醒一下？

他：不用了。你：那好，我們后天下午見！他：好的。你：再見！關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)：第一個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：要讓對(duì)方有一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單的回憶；第二個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：要尊重對(duì)方！對(duì)方是否愿意接你的電話還是要征得對(duì)方的同意；第三個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：說出給對(duì)方打電話的目的；第四個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：定一下見面的時(shí)間和地點(diǎn)；第五個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：暗示對(duì)方要“守時(shí)”。

陌生邀約方式

自己親自邀約并且自己親自講計(jì)劃，對(duì)方與你關(guān)系為“零”。

你：你好！麻煩你叫一下——。

她：我是——，哪一位？

你：我是——，我手里有一張你很有特色的名片，有兩種情況你選擇哪一種：一種是你放下電話；另一種是我接著說，你希望哪一種？

她：你接著說吧。

你：我是??（自我介紹：講你最值得“吹”的一到兩句話。比如，我叫——，我是——公司——部的經(jīng)理，主持全公司的商品采購），我看了你的名片，我猜想可 能我們會(huì)有某種合作的可能性，當(dāng)然這只是可能性，而且是我僅僅一廂情愿的猜測(cè)。我想借我空閑的時(shí)間想證明一下我猜測(cè)的這種可能性的大小！但不知你是否也愿 意證明我的“猜測(cè)”的確是有一定的道理。

她：是嗎？

你：那說明我的“猜測(cè)“還是有一定的道理。我有一個(gè)想法，如果有可能，我是否可以在你方便的時(shí)候，親自去拜訪你？

她：可以呀！

你：那我在什么時(shí)候給你去電話比較方便呢？

她：你在我上班的時(shí)候吧，我的電話是——。

你：謝謝！是什么時(shí)間都可以嗎？

她：對(duì)。

你：認(rèn)識(shí)你很高興！我方便的時(shí)候會(huì)給你去電話，再見！

關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)：

第一個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：你心臟的跳動(dòng)頻率在正常的范圍的；

第二個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：贊美對(duì)方；

第三個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：引發(fā)對(duì)方的好奇心；

第四個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：尊重對(duì)方；

第五個(gè)關(guān)鍵點(diǎn)是：感謝對(duì)方、留下姿態(tài)、欲擒故縱。

注:在總結(jié).學(xué)習(xí)中前進(jìn)，在不變中求變，以不變應(yīng)萬變，有時(shí)候昨日的經(jīng)驗(yàn)不一定能適應(yīng)今天，正如今日的方法不能解決明天的問題一樣!不求所有，但求為我所用。

助你成功

第五篇：助你成功,祝我成功

助你成功，祝我成功

一、初涉課程

在開始進(jìn)行文修副修的選課之前，便經(jīng)常聽說《助你成功心理學(xué)》是一門很好的課程。每回都是爆滿的情況。而我很幸運(yùn)的在第一次的校選中便選上了這門課，更幸運(yùn)的是，在這短短的半個(gè)學(xué)期的學(xué)習(xí)中，我收獲到了一生受之不盡的精神財(cái)富。

我喜歡把人生的每個(gè)階段都當(dāng)成是一次限時(shí)賽，中小學(xué)時(shí)候的我們是一群人在指定的一條路上向著同一個(gè)終點(diǎn)在奔跑，不用去做過多的選擇。然而現(xiàn)在，我們站在同樣的起點(diǎn)，卻沒有了指定的路徑，也沒有唯一的終點(diǎn)，甚至我們可能連勝利的條件都無法猜透。

于是，我們便面臨了各種選擇。

當(dāng)我們每個(gè)人朝著自己所相信的未來去努力的時(shí)候，我們可能會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，再也不能如同從前一般一群人一起行走。也可能遇不到同樣夢(mèng)想和能夠理解自己夢(mèng)想的人，那么在追夢(mèng)的路上，我們只好獨(dú)自堅(jiān)持。有的時(shí)候會(huì)感到孤獨(dú)和不被認(rèn)可，有的時(shí)候會(huì)被絆倒摔跤，同樣也可能會(huì)在失落的時(shí)候得到一個(gè)溫暖的擁抱，在摔跤的時(shí)候被一雙厚實(shí)的大手扶起。面對(duì)這樣截然相反的情境，對(duì)于這樣年輕的我們，常常沒有辦法駕馭。

學(xué)習(xí)了《助你成功的情緒智力培養(yǎng)》這一課的后，我在面對(duì)一些困難的時(shí)候能更加自如地去應(yīng)對(duì)。

記得老師講到排解煩惱情緒時(shí)提到的，學(xué)會(huì)適應(yīng)最壞的情況中講述的三個(gè)步驟，教會(huì)我在面對(duì)挫折時(shí)，首先要努力去認(rèn)清所處的情境，其次要敢于面對(duì)、接受它，最后全力以赴改變最壞的狀況。

我們常常只走到了第一步，在看清自己所處的位置后，便感到畏懼，本能地想要逃避。

我覺得躲避是人最原始的反應(yīng)，就比如人的手在碰到滾燙的液體時(shí)會(huì)迅速縮回，抑或有東西向眼睛飛來時(shí)，眼瞼也會(huì)馬上閉合。在這些自我保護(hù)的動(dòng)作里，躲避可以認(rèn)為是一個(gè)褒義詞。但是當(dāng)我們遇到困境時(shí)，一味的躲避最終只會(huì)變成膽怯的逃避。

而還有一類人，他們認(rèn)清了困境，也學(xué)著去面對(duì)和接受了。但是走到這一步，他們也停止了前進(jìn)。我們常會(huì)有某種惰性的心理，覺得困難擺在眼前，這就是一個(gè)事實(shí)。既然存在了，那就是合理的，又何苦要去追尋破解它的方法。

但如果我們沒有辦法越過那個(gè)坎，不抬起腳邁出每一步，即使光明近在咫尺，人生也只能止步于此。

二、關(guān)于過去的經(jīng)歷

我是2009年被上師大錄取的，記得當(dāng)初收到上海師范大學(xué)錄取通知書的時(shí)候，我滿心歡喜地準(zhǔn)備迎接大學(xué)生活，卻在真正接觸到生物科學(xué)這門我并不太感興趣的學(xué)科后，在學(xué)習(xí)上開始變得有些抵觸。那時(shí)候的我嘗試著投入各種學(xué)生會(huì)、校園活動(dòng)和社會(huì)實(shí)踐活動(dòng)中，但是對(duì)于自己的人生規(guī)劃卻幾乎是一片空白，顯得很盲目。

在大一下學(xué)期開學(xué)不久，被診出惡性淋巴瘤，之后休學(xué)一年，這一年對(duì)我的人生觀來說是一個(gè)很大的轉(zhuǎn)變，從中得到的一些體會(huì)，似乎與盧老師所授的課程有某些契合點(diǎn)，希望能夠在此分享。

去年4月份中旬開始休學(xué)，花了將近四個(gè)月的時(shí)間在進(jìn)行治療。

在化療的那些日子中，經(jīng)常必須面對(duì)一些生理上的副反應(yīng)，比如嘔吐、脫發(fā)等等。但是更為困難的應(yīng)該是一些心理上的副作用。有的藥物會(huì)讓人變得煩躁，夜里整夜整夜地清醒著，輾轉(zhuǎn)反側(cè)。

剛開始接受化療的時(shí)候，面對(duì)這些副反應(yīng)，以及親人們流露出的各種遺憾與顧慮，原本以為足夠堅(jiān)強(qiáng)與樂觀的心卻一下子變得柔軟了。時(shí)常會(huì)流淚，會(huì)懷念很多見不到面的朋友，盡管每天要自己微笑，卻也抑制不住要去悲傷。

常住的病房正好在急救室隔壁，因此晚上會(huì)經(jīng)常聽到不同人對(duì)著自己正在接受搶救的親人發(fā)出撕心裂肺的哭喊。當(dāng)那些原本和我們呼吸著相同的空氣，用溫情的眼神凝視著我們的親人一瞬間閉上了眼睛，再也無法呼喚我們的名字的時(shí)候，一下子便意識(shí)到一個(gè)人的生命是如此珍貴。我們不僅是在為自己活著，身上還擔(dān)著大大小小的責(zé)任。對(duì)親人的責(zé)任，對(duì)社會(huì)的責(zé)任。生命也是如此的脆弱，也許一不留神，我們便再也睜不開眼睛去看一看我們所熱愛的一切。

于是我讓自己小小地放肆了一番，讓那些悲傷與惆悵盡情地流淌。直到去年8月中旬，結(jié)束了治療，收拾好心情，我回到家里休養(yǎng)。

一面在家乖乖地按時(shí)吃飯睡覺做些簡(jiǎn)單的鍛煉，另一面開始認(rèn)真地思考起自己的未來。究竟我要的是怎樣的生活？我該為自己的目標(biāo)做些什么？最后我得出的結(jié)論是：重拾夢(mèng)想，積極爭(zhēng)取，調(diào)整心態(tài)。

首先是關(guān)于重拾夢(mèng)想。我認(rèn)為每個(gè)人都應(yīng)該有自己的夢(mèng)想。夢(mèng)想可以認(rèn)為是一種目標(biāo)、理想，甚至是某種信仰。我們?cè)诿鎸?duì)紛繁的選擇中，如果沒有夢(mèng)想，便不知道該如何前進(jìn)。因此只會(huì)出現(xiàn)兩種狀況：一種是原地不動(dòng)，一種是盲目亂撞。我想這兩周方式都不是最佳的生活狀態(tài)。而擁有了夢(mèng)想，我們便可以更加有效率的去生活。

其次是積極爭(zhēng)取。當(dāng)我們確定了夢(mèng)想，為了讓它實(shí)現(xiàn)，下一步當(dāng)然是付出行動(dòng)。積極爭(zhēng)取也是無可厚非的。記得盧老師說過，在我們每個(gè)人的身體里，都住著一個(gè)主觀的我和一個(gè)客觀的我。當(dāng)我們面對(duì)困難的時(shí)候，客觀的我通常會(huì)機(jī)械地去迎接。而主觀的我則是由自己的意志決定是選擇逃避、退縮或者是迎接、挑戰(zhàn)。如何做到讓主觀的我不去逃避和退縮呢？對(duì)于這個(gè)問題，我也有一點(diǎn)小體會(huì)。當(dāng)意志不夠堅(jiān)定的時(shí)候，我常常在心理不斷地暗示自己，不能退縮，我很棒，我要去積極爭(zhēng)取。甚至我會(huì)對(duì)著一面鏡子大聲地告訴自己，“加油，一定可以的，付出一次行動(dòng)，我便多了一次機(jī)會(huì)?！蔽乙恢焙芸粗匦睦戆凳镜淖饔?，也一直相信，每一次真誠的自我對(duì)話，必將讓自己的行動(dòng)力和自信心提高一個(gè)階梯的。

最后是調(diào)整心態(tài)。這也是承接上面一點(diǎn)，與第二點(diǎn)所提到的心理暗示有某些相似點(diǎn)。我覺得心理暗示實(shí)際上就是調(diào)整心態(tài)的一種方法。當(dāng)我們認(rèn)真審視了自己，以一個(gè)平和的心態(tài)去做事，不為一時(shí)的成就而忘乎所以，也不因?yàn)榉N種的失敗而意志萎靡，這樣才能有長(zhǎng)期的動(dòng)力去做一件可以提高自己，創(chuàng)造美好的事情。在遇到壞的處境或者有過一次并不完美的經(jīng)歷的時(shí)候，我會(huì)對(duì)自己說，“無論怎樣的經(jīng)歷，都是好的。”這句話是在我遇到困難和挫折的時(shí)候，無數(shù)次給予我力量的話。當(dāng)我以為一件事情糟糕透了的時(shí)候，除了后悔，我想我還可以做的便是吸取經(jīng)驗(yàn)與教訓(xùn)。一個(gè)人一生中所有好的壞的經(jīng)歷在一個(gè)階段過去后再去回顧，會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)也沒有當(dāng)初想的那么糟糕了。甚至有時(shí)候會(huì)因禍得福。所以當(dāng)我遇到糟糕的事情的時(shí)候，會(huì)淡淡地對(duì)自己笑一笑，告訴自己，“都是好的?！苯又瓦x擇睡一覺，再開始另一個(gè)美好的日子。

三、對(duì)盧老師的感謝

在《助你成功心理學(xué)》的學(xué)習(xí)中，盧老師教會(huì)了我們很多提升IQ、EQ的方

法。

在談智力培養(yǎng)的課中，我印象最為深刻的話莫過于老師經(jīng)常說的：“那些趴在桌子上的同學(xué)，你們要注意了，你們的智商很可能不能得到提升，甚至?xí)陆??！泵慨?dāng)聽到這句話的時(shí)候，我看到在座的很多同學(xué)都會(huì)善意地把身邊那些正在夢(mèng)中“享受午后好時(shí)光”的同學(xué)叫起來。

同時(shí)老師還傳授給我們關(guān)于創(chuàng)造力訓(xùn)練的方法。

對(duì)我來說最為受用的是“頭腦激蕩法”。

在這個(gè)方法里，我學(xué)到的不僅僅是提高個(gè)人創(chuàng)造力，同時(shí)我認(rèn)為，這也可以算是一項(xiàng)提高團(tuán)隊(duì)協(xié)作力的方法。

在規(guī)則里，要求每個(gè)人都不能對(duì)別人的觀點(diǎn)做出評(píng)論，這就避免了產(chǎn)生沖突與口角的情況。同時(shí)，通過別人對(duì)靈感的挖掘，也可能會(huì)激發(fā)自己自身的創(chuàng)造力。因此，如果是一個(gè)團(tuán)隊(duì)合作項(xiàng)目，“頭腦激蕩法”在團(tuán)隊(duì)需要給出一個(gè)好的創(chuàng)意時(shí)，便能起到很大的幫助作用。

在最后一堂課，當(dāng)老師那句原本再平常不過的“下課”再次響起的時(shí)候，心中突然有些小小的感傷。盧老師是一位上課充滿激情，幽默，富有感染力的人?；叵脒@短暫的十周里，老師循循善誘地教會(huì)了我們多少為人處世的道理和方法，教會(huì)了我們學(xué)會(huì)生活，學(xué)會(huì)學(xué)習(xí)。而我卻一時(shí)語塞，對(duì)于心中的這份感謝不知道如何去準(zhǔn)確地描述，也不知道如何去確切地表達(dá)。

希望一句簡(jiǎn)單的“謝謝”，能夠寄托我滿滿的感謝。

四、課堂的延續(xù)

每個(gè)人在人生的旅途中，都需要一位或者幾位帶著我們成長(zhǎng)的人。我很幸運(yùn)的在每一個(gè)階段都能夠遇到這樣一位為我舉著火炬，帶我走出黑夜的人。

在很小的時(shí)候，父母就教導(dǎo)我，對(duì)于每個(gè)在生命中寄予我們幫助的人，我們都應(yīng)該學(xué)會(huì)感恩。不僅是感恩，還需要把他們的這種精神放大，傳遞。

盧老師所教會(huì)我們的東西，傳遞給我們的精神，同樣需要放大、傳遞。課堂的時(shí)光不可能無止盡地延續(xù)下去，那么在未來的生活中，我們便需要學(xué)著讓有限的時(shí)間里收獲的東西在生命中無盡地發(fā)揮作用。

分享，便是一個(gè)很好的途徑。

盡管很多人都說，這個(gè)社會(huì)充斥著各種各樣的競(jìng)爭(zhēng)。人與人之間的隔閡越來越深。但是我依舊相信人性存在著十分美好的一面。

希望的是，成為一位值得別人信賴的朋友，能夠與他人建立起和諧的共享空間。當(dāng)我們受人恩惠的時(shí)候，也不忘去幫助需要我們幫助的人。

我一直認(rèn)為，只有相互協(xié)作，在互助中形成良性的競(jìng)爭(zhēng)關(guān)系才能更快地促進(jìn)每個(gè)人的自我提升，也才能使得社會(huì)更加健康地向前發(fā)展。

因此，這也是在課堂之外，我所想要做的事情——把收獲的東西放大、傳遞。